DH just been diagnosed - looking for info/advice

[Lis]

Hi Lavender,

That's helped me a lot. I feel c**p today, crying as we speak. The GP's painting a very bleak picture and I know he's no expert and I know he's being realistic but just feel so rubbish. DH had undescended testicles which we think weren't corrected til about age 11 altho his dad remembers it differently (his medical notes are in the process of being transferred from one practice to another so we don't know yet). The gp says that probably makes it even less likely they'll find sperm. Was so hopeful yesterday but right back down at rock bottom now. As we're still waiting on an appointment all I can do is keep thinking of it. Feel so hopeless.

[Smita]

Lis,
Sending you a biiig hug to cope and hoping with you that they find strong swimmers there!

smita

[jag]

Ditto Big Hugs to you. It is all very daunting but keep strong and we are thinking of ya.

JAG

[Lis]

Thanks guys, it helps to know others know how I feel. Having a good day today. Have decided to go private for investigations. Have a consultation in 11 days time. Any good tips on how to keep busy and stop the mind thinking of the worse??

[NickiMark]

My DH has zero sperm.... we are using Donor... decided to do that instead ICSI....
It does hurt the men, it's hard.... I kknow where u are at.....

Have u had tests too? Are u ok?

with me, I am generally ok, ovulation doesn't always happen on day 14 but generally I am ok... we are doing iui.

Good Luck...xxx

[Lis]

Hi NickiMark,

I don't know yet if I'm ok. Have used ovulation predictor kit which indicates I am and get ovulatory cramps on days 16 and 17. Regular cycle length of 31 days. Going in 8 days for first private consultation. Will see what they say.

L xx

[CARINABOO]

Hi Lis,

Dont know if you remember me, I posted at the beginning of the thread with the tips that there MIGHT be the occasional few sperm that show up with intense investigation. Sorry I didnt get back on the thread to confirm your understanding of my comments. You seemed to understand them correctly though.

Sorry you are having a hard time, this rollercoaster sucks!! the days I know would be so slow for you until the private clinic can investigate.

All I can say is stay strong ( as hard and impossible as it seems) and just try and have faith that the specialised docs will give you the facts and probably shed more light and hope than the GP's.

The fat lady is far from singing! you still have hope!

Love Carina X x x

[Lis]

Hey thanks again everyone for support, etc.
Carina and Nicki I have questions for you both - if you would prefer me to speak to you privately let me know.
Carina, yeah I remember your helpful advice. Things have moved forward for DH and I. Second sperm count a BF zero (is the abbrev. BFZ??!). Went for first private consultation last night. Found out for us unfortunately zero means zero, apparently caused by late diagnosis of undescended testes. However, the doc says there is a 30 -50% chance of finding sperm thro surgical retrieval. Now have to wait 2-3 months for that unless we continue private. DH has had bloods to determine whether obstructive or failure plus all the other blood things they look for. I've to have a scan of my ovaries as a precaution- what's that called??.DH and I had convo last night about whether to consider donor if it all goes pear shaped - I ruled it out cos I thought he wouldn't want to consider it but he's open to the idea so next questions,

Nicki,

All sorts of questions. How is DH coping with it? Did it take a while for him to accept the idea? Worried DH may end up resenting me and child if we did it that way but he's worried I could resent him if I'm not given the opportunity to conceive so thinks that's a better option that adoption. Would love to here if you've gone thro similar anxieties. Thinks that at least with donor there's a biological link. I'm glad he's open to the idea but just so much to think about. Would hate him to feel left out in any way.