The Over 40 Crowd

Kat · Post by **Kat** » Wed Nov 09, 2005 6:34 pm

Caroline I am so sorry to hear of your loss. We are all thinking of you and your family.
Love, Kat xx

AMck · Post by **AMck** » Wed Nov 09, 2005 7:00 pm

Caroline, I am so sorry to hear about your mum. Take comfort in the fact that you were with her and that she knew she was loved.

Please take time to look after yourself both emotionally and physically. Do whatever it takes to make you feel better. Shout , scream or sit quietly it's up to you!

My father died in July. I was in the middle of a cycle at the time. I still feel wretched but feel that he is looking down at me and willing me on.

No-one can take away your pain but friends and family can be there to support you through this very difficult time. My heart goes out to you.

Thinking of you and your family at this sad time

Anna

randa2006 · Post by **randa2006** » Wed Nov 09, 2005 7:16 pm

CarolineP,
I LOVE seeing you post. Besides your helpful info, it's such a treat to see your ticker.... Wow! Are you ever getting close, girlfriend! Only 21 days til you are a Mommy!
How are you feeling these last 3 weeks?
Tell us all the details, please.

randa2006 · Post by **randa2006** » Thu Nov 10, 2005 4:08 am

Amfy,
How was EC? Hope you are feeling okay and have some good news to share when you are able.

CarolineP · Post by **CarolineP** » Thu Nov 10, 2005 10:03 am

Randa

Thank you so much for your message - it is so difficult to know whether I should post on this thread.

My pregnancy is progressing well and although it is now difficult to sleep, walk, breath (baby sitting on my diaphram), find comfortable cothes, I try very hard not to complain tooooooo much.

I had my final 36 week scan and check up this week and everything is on schedule for my c section on 30th. The baby is following a normal growth pattern and currently weighs 5lbs 7oz, they expect the baby to weigh no more than 7lbs 7oz at birth.

I am now trying to get as much Xmas present shopping completed before the birth, as I am sure that they will be little incentive for me to think of others afterwards!

As I am now on the home straight, I am finally allowing myself to stop worrying so much and imaging life as parents sooner rather than later.

I do hope that my posts on this thread give encouragement to other over 40s that it possible to fall pregnant and I look forward to introducing BabyP very soon.

CarolineP

taylorjools · Post by **taylorjools** » Thu Nov 10, 2005 11:10 am

Your posts insoire me Caroline,m I am sure we all feel the same. Even after the m/c it's so good to know some of us have made it..

hugs and good luck

Jules

amfy · Post by **amfy** » Thu Nov 10, 2005 11:27 am

Yes - all the best to you Caroline. It is lovely to hear of people moving on. The forum would be a very sad place if no-one with good news posted!

EC went very well yesterday. We got 11 eggs and this morning they have telephoned to say that 8 were suitable for injection and 6 have fertilized! Rang the DP straight away and he sounds over the moon! This is definitely the most animated he has been about the whole thing. It occurs to me now that he has probably been really nervous whilst I have been doing all my stuff that he was going to mess it all up at the final hurdle. I think he is really relievd that he has now completed his part in the procedure successfully.

Well, I can ring and see how our little half dozen embies are doing in the morning apparently, and then we'll be having the 2 best ones put back in at 5pm. Then the dreaded wait begins!

Still - all good so far, I'm now really struggling to keep my optimism under control!

lara · Post by **lara** » Thu Nov 10, 2005 2:15 pm

Hi everyone,

I'm so chuffed to hear about your EC Anna and CarolineP's posts are very exciting - thank you so much.

Thank you Jules for your fab information about ISIDA, whom I've emailed and made contact with.

As I'm nearly 44 I feel under so much pressure to make the right choice with my next treatment. If I hadn't researched anything I suppose I'd just do another IVF cycle at the Lister - they've got me pg twice after all. But because I've read about GIFT with Pf Craft doubling success rates in 42-46 year olds I can't decide whether that would be better. Also, I'm terrified of another m/c and if I did screening that would be very unlikely.

The only reason I'd go abroad is to get more than 2/3 embryos transferred. ISIDA seems amazingly efficient and also, as you say Jules, very cheap.

I'm so obsessed now with this it's ridiculous. I'm supposed to be writing but instead I'm writing this.

So sorry to bore you all with this long-winded post about myself! Thanks for listening!

I have to decide very soon because otherwise it'll be too late for next cycle, and then it'll be Christmas/New Year and all that awful time that I can't bear, because last Christmas I was pg and happy, and it all came to nothing.

Hurrah for you lot!
And good luck to you all with what you're doing.

Lara

IVF 11/04 +ve, m/c 10 wks
IVF 4/05 -ve
FET 5/05 -ve
IVF 6/05 +ve, m/c 12 wks
IVF/GIFT/IVF+PGS starting 21st Nov appx.

randa2006 · Post by **randa2006** » Thu Nov 10, 2005 5:16 pm

Amfy!!! Wonderful news on your EC! 11 eggs and 6 fertilized is so fantastic for anyone, especially women in our age group!
Hope you are resting up for ET tomorrow. Your little embies need a quiet, relaxed home for the next 9 months.

CarolineP,
I wish the others who have made it to the preggars side of this board would post more often here as well. Maybe they have been feeling like you and don't realize that we NEED to hear about happy, pregnant women in their 40s soooooooo badly! (I guess we could peek in at the preggars thread, but for some reason I don't go there. Silly.)

You sound miserably happy. Amazing that you are just now able to relax about anything going wrong and enjoy the pregnancy and anticipation, but understandable. Thanks for sharing. Keep us updated, please.

Lara, I don't blame you for being obsessed, this is a HUGE decision. I've never experienced a m/c but I'm sure it's something so dreadful that avoiding it is a high priority. Also, at our ages, we feel we can't waste the time. It's bad enough to lose the baby, but then we are X months older and have start all over again.

Good luck in making the right decision. So sorry you are in this pickle.

Well my friends.... it's Thursday morning and still no sign of AF???? I don't feel anything. I don't feel pregnant, no sore boobs, once in a while a feeling of af comes, but then subsides quickly. Also, I ALWAYS have a migraine with my period (never fails) and no sign of a headache at all. PLUS, I didn't tell you all this but I had my period migraine well over a week ago (day of the Halloween party 29th) which made me think "what the hell? my hormones are on the move at the wrong time of month???". I just don't know what to think and am afraid to get my hopes up. I will take an hpt tomorrow morning if af doesn't come before then, but I just don't feel pregnant, so I don't hold out much hope. Very strange.
It could be the dreaded.... beginning of perimenopause.

I'll let you know when I know something.
Have a great day!

JaneR · Post by **JaneR** » Thu Nov 10, 2005 5:22 pm

Hello Ladies,

Sorry I haven't posted in a while but haven't had chance to come on here in last few weeks, been very busy at work and then went to Dublin for a few days.

Caroline, I am so sorry to hear about your Mum, this must be such a difficult time for you and I can so understand why you wouldn't want to do any treatment at the moment. I'm sorry I wasn't hear to support you earlier.

Kat fantastic news I'm so please for you you must be over the moon.

Well we have our couselling next week and DH has decided that if we need to then we will go for donor eggs, my SIL has offered to go forward as a donor doing some sort of cross over she will donate to someone else. Plus I'm also interested in finding out as much info as possible on clinics abroad so Jules and Kat if you could send me some info, costs, procedures etc that would be great. We see the Consultant in Jan and then we ca decide from there at the moment I'm just taking one day at a time and always having something to focus on, if not i start to dwell and get upset allover again.

Good luck to everyone.

Love,

Jane

P.S. Debra how are you doing?

AMck · Post by **AMck** » Thu Nov 10, 2005 6:49 pm

Hi all.

Randa, thank you so much for you message of support. AF arrived unannounced yesterday! Why do our bodies fox us so often? Anyway this means that we are one small step nearer. Scan on Monday and who knows what will happen next? Hope AF comes soon for you.

Amfy, well done and good luck for tomorrow.

Kat, are you still there? Hope you are OK.

To all other ladies, keep the faith! PMA to all.

Bye for now

Anna

Kat · Post by **Kat** » Thu Nov 10, 2005 9:25 pm

Hello all
Not a lot to report today, one day closer to scan though which is good and I may breathe easier after that. Think my bowels are playing up - imagine it must be the medication or something - they don't seem to be able to work out if they are bunged up or the opposite - giving me unnerving discomfort (although I really do believe it is the bowels and nothing else it is still unnerving). Will see what my acupuncturist can do on Monday if they're still misbehaving by then.
So that's my news - bowels - not that interesting for anyone else I am sure!
Actually I don't think I told you about my blood test did I (apologies if I have already - brain going funny) - the level was 129 and they said they would have been happy with a 4 !! Barcelona said they were VERY pleased (their capitals, not mine) at the result. My old clinic where I used to go and who sorted out my blood test for me said I could ring them any time I like with any questions even though I am no longer their patient which was very good of them (Anna - don't you just love QMH?) and they will do my scan for me no problems.
So many questions though - does what they call a very good result mean things are more likely to be OK?

And that blasted GP who treated me as though I was stupid when I wanted the blood test CLOSED for the whole of this afternoon! I need to get some more medication before I run out and popped in on my way home to ask how I might go about getting some and there was a notice up saying closed for the whole afternoon for staff training. Have you ever heard anything so ridiculous? No wonder people can't get appointments within 48hrs or whatever it's supposed to be. Don't get ill sorry we're having staff
training today.

Sorry, turned into a bit of a rant!
Speak tomorrow
Lots of love
Kat xx

randa2006 · Post by **randa2006** » Fri Nov 11, 2005 5:40 pm

Hi All,
Af came this morning. I had a magnificient migraine warning last evening so what little hopes I had of being pregnant went away then. Never been 5 days late before, but things change I guess.
I'm okay. Knew it was a long shot anyway.
Trying again in 2 weeks, then on with the next IVF cycle beginning Dec.

AMck · Post by **AMck** » Fri Nov 11, 2005 5:55 pm

Randa, hope you are Ok. When will you start your meds for your next cycle?

All the support you need right here over 40 buddy. You go for it!!!

Thinking of you. PMA all round to all!

Anna

Jeni Babes · Post by **Jeni Babes** » Fri Nov 11, 2005 6:36 pm

Hi guys

KAT- How wonderful to hear you got a BFP
....CONGRATULATIONS to you and DH.

A BIG hello to everyone else.

........I am wondering if I can join you ladies ...????

I have had 2 natural preg's in the past 20 months both were ectopics so both tubes removed. [I am a late starter cause i lost my first hubby to cancer he was 32 and i was 30yrs old. luckily i have found a wonderful supportive new man ( we got engaged last x-mas) who can accept that my life has a past and it's welcomed. ( sorry i have gone off track here.

]

Because of tube loss I was put on the 1yr waiting list for ivf. I am just turned 38 but on my 1st cycle in july i had a high FSH of 18, tmt was cancelled ( no follies ) i had a bad response with the down reg. After i was told by the clinic (NHS) that i WAS menopausal and not to expect an AF. as you can expect the grief was heart breaking for me .

Surprise

6 wks later AF . The NHs welcomed me back and then i Started a short cetriotide cycle stimming day 1 on the 4th Nov. I have had 3 scans showing 2 big follies and 4 smaller ones ( too small at moment). day 8 E2 is only 346 but they say this could be because only 2 large follies. I have another scan on Monday and hoping the other 4 follies grow enough to give me at leeast 3 folies for EC.

just wanted to hear if you guys have some experience of this ? And if you can give me any support/ help to keep me more positive.

I didn't ask about my FSH level this time as i fixated on it too much the last time. I am glad to get some follies but want to keep up the positive mind set at this stage.

thanks for listening

jen
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