nov. 12th test date,really nervous!!

amfy · Post by **amfy** » Sun Nov 13, 2005 11:37 am

Tony,

So sorry to hear this news.

All you can do right now is be there for each other. Remember that you don't have to be strong right now, she won't think any less of you when you cry, she will just know that you're in this together.

Your strength will return in time, and then you can decide what the furture holds for you.

Sending you both loads of love

bubblymichelle · Post by **bubblymichelle** » Sun Nov 13, 2005 12:35 pm

I am so sorry to hear your news, try and stay strong and take as much time as you need.
Shell.
x

Chinamiff · Post by **Chinamiff** » Sun Nov 13, 2005 1:41 pm

Hi Tony
Most of the people who post here are women, I think sometimes the men are the ones who try and suffer in silence, so I think you have made a big step in sharing your story, I'm sure the support and inspiration you can get from the ladies on this site will help you. Take the time to mourn your loss, but know that it is not the end, but part of your journey, and for some the journey just takes a little longer than others

Take care

China

tony · Post by **tony** » Sun Nov 13, 2005 11:49 pm

hi all,so yes is bin a very hard weekend, now we need to start from square 1 again ,is going to be hard to keep positive,after all we did about 8 insemination and 2 ivf,and you all know that this are not a cheap procedures,but we need to keep on going one way or the other,but is just that my hard is breaking in million pieces to see my wife in this conditions after month after month 5 years to be exact, i love her very mutch
and see her so upset and so sad is killing me,and yes i need to be strong,supportive,but i to some time im falling a part this is why i joined this forum to some what understan more and to see how other react to negative results,well like i mentioned we need to be strong and not loose
faith...............

bella-s · Post by **bella-s** » Mon Nov 14, 2005 3:56 am

Tony - I'm so sorry to hear about your test results. I only found this site after my last negative test result, but I wish I had found it before. When we got a negative, it was the hardest day for both my and DH. I don't think have every cried so much - so you are not alone with feeling very low.

We started the next cycle straight away, and find out the results on the 23rd. I am hoping & praying for a positive, but I am also more prepared now for how we will feel if it is another negative. I think the important thing is you keep trying and support eachother - it will happen one day.

Good luck for your next cycle.

Bella.

jag · Post by **jag** » Mon Nov 14, 2005 5:14 am

Dear Tony
So sorry to hear your news...... it is such a big fall when you set your hopes so high and it doesn't work and that fall hurts so much you feel as if your whole life is crushed from the fall. I know and many of the girlies here know how you are both feeling and you are allowed to feel upset and devastated. Take some time out to love each other and to focus on each other. You will be stronger in time. Enjoy Christmas and a New Year will hold new beginnings.

Thinking of ya

JAGXX

smokeroni · Post by **smokeroni** » Mon Nov 14, 2005 3:21 pm

Tony,
Sorry to hear your news. I think you should take some time for both yourself and DW. Try and enjoy each others company. Taking time to heal will be much better for you both in the long run.
Good luck,

Pam

AMck · Post by **AMck** » Mon Nov 14, 2005 6:40 pm

Tony, sorry to hear your news.

Thinking of you and your wife.

Be good to each other and be kind to yourselves.

Anna

tony · Post by **tony** » Tue Nov 15, 2005 1:47 am

well the only thing that we can do is to try to standing up again,but you
the big question is will we ever be come parents???to me the dream is fading away.............but God only knows
thank you all...................

ogr1 · Post by **ogr1** » Tue Nov 15, 2005 4:47 am

sorry to hear your news. am very glad that
you have found this forum..
it has helped me out of many dark times..

please know that there are many ways to have a family.
giving birth is not everything.
you can have a family by adopting . young and older children.
sometimes i think it is easier having older ones.

but only you and your wife can decide any of that..
my dh was adopted and he loves his parents very much.
we have adopted 6 children .

yes i would still love to be pregnant and to have a baby. but the pain is alot less..

i hope that you and your wife can have your dreams come true..

tony · Post by **tony** » Thu Nov 17, 2005 1:27 am

hi Ogr.. adopting is our last option,i know that it may sound wrong and appropiate but we really whant to try have some of our own ....i also know that is just as easy love a adopted child or 2 ,but we pray God for a miracle,........................thank you

ogr1 · Post by **ogr1** » Thu Nov 17, 2005 1:48 am

i hope we all get our little miracles..

i just ment that i never thought i would be so happy or could care this much for a child that i didnt give birth to..
we had a child that we almost didnt get back.. he is home now...
and this is where he will always stay..

good luck...

tony · Post by **tony** » Fri Nov 18, 2005 12:40 am

well ...this is another issue ,i know someone that adoptes 2 kids and one of them they had to give it up ,birth mother whanted back,dont know the full story ,this is pretty mutch it, is this possible ??

nov. 12th test date,really nervous!!

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