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Sand · Post by **Sand** » Mon Nov 21, 2005 6:07 pm

Claire - We'll all be with you at your scan tomorrow ..

Sandra x

Molly B · Post by **Molly B** » Mon Nov 21, 2005 6:09 pm

Just to let you know that I am thinking of you- so sorry to read your news.
Molly B

AMck · Post by **AMck** » Mon Nov 21, 2005 10:22 pm

Claire PMA to you at this difficult time

Take care, thinking of you

Anna

BelB · Post by **BelB** » Mon Nov 21, 2005 11:52 pm

Hi Clare,
SO sorry that you are going through this. My experience was somewhat similar. At the six week scan the heart rate was only in the 50 bpm range, it should have been 150 (I think?), anyway, it was too slow, and the bubby was the size of a five weeker. We went back for another scan a few days later and bubby had stopped growing altogether and there was no longer a heartbeat. It was awful, we grieved and cried buckets of tears. I opted for a D&C rather than to miscarry naturally, that just seemed too cruel to me.

Our good news though was that on our next FET cycle we got another BFP and our baby Annie is now one year old and just so beautiful. We had all sorts of testing done, there was no reason why the bubby didn't grow "just mother nature's way" (she can be SUCH a ***** at times).

Wishing you all the best for your fertility journey, how wonderful it will be when you hold that bub in your arms.

Belinda

chanteq · Post by **chanteq** » Tue Nov 22, 2005 12:02 am

My thoughts and prayers for you, dear......

pixiesmom · Post by **pixiesmom** » Tue Nov 22, 2005 2:22 am

Claire,
I haven't posted anything on here in awhile, but still stop in occasionally & have a look aroud to see how everyones doing. My babys heart stopped beating last Thurs. right before my scan at exactly 9 weeks. This is a horrible thing to be going through & I just wanted to let you know you're not alone. I hope for the best for you tommorrow & remember miracles do happen. Lots & lots of miracles happen everyday. Best wishes.

Pixiesmom

Cla · Post by **Cla** » Tue Nov 22, 2005 10:15 am

Claire,
Just wanted to wish you luck for today. Am thinking of you.
Cla
xx

Smita · Post by **Smita** » Tue Nov 22, 2005 10:29 am

Claire,
Hanging around hoping to hear good news from you abt the scan..

smita

smokeroni · Post by **smokeroni** » Tue Nov 22, 2005 2:27 pm

Thinking of you as your appointment is today.

Good luck,
Pam

BecP · Post by **BecP** » Tue Nov 22, 2005 4:48 pm

Hi there
I just wanted to say that I hope everything turns out ok today. I had a 'blighted ovum' - no heartbeat at all. I had a scan at 6.5 weeks when they said they weren't sure and was told to go away for 2 weeks and come back again. I know the wait is awful. So good luck, fingers crossed. I really hope it's good news.
Thinking of you.
Bec

Sand · Post by **Sand** » Tue Nov 22, 2005 5:17 pm

Hi Claire

How's your appointment gone today ?

Sandra x

Claire · Post by **Claire** » Tue Nov 22, 2005 8:04 pm

Thank you so much for all your replies, it's overwhelming to have such good support...
Sadly though our prayers were not answered and everything was the same as it was last week.
I wasn't surprised at all, it just confirmed everything for us.
I'm off the meds now and hoping nature will take its course as soon as possible. I think it will because I've had major cramps all week. I think it was just the pessaries keeping everything in place.
I go back next Thursday for a check up to see what's going on.
It's so sad. I feel empty at the moment but I'm glad I know for definite now.
I was late for the scan on the IVF unit because of the traffic so I had to go to the hospital's main scanning dept... with all the pregnant women bouncing about with their scan pictures... it was awful, really didn't need that!
Anyway the doctor said she was pleased that we got as far as pregnancy. She said it was a major development from their point of view. We're pleased about that and hopefully one of our 11 remaining embies will latch on again at some point.
Just have to look to the future now and keep positive for next time.
Hope you are all ok and thanks again for your support.

Love Claire x

Sand · Post by **Sand** » Tue Nov 22, 2005 8:21 pm

Claire - I'm sorry. It's good that you can show some positivity at this stage. You're absolutely right .. you know you can get pregnant, it's just that this particular embie wasn't the right one. That's the way to look at it. I hope things progress quickly for you, and you can start looking forward. Take care.

Sandra x

Inhale, Exhale · Post by **Inhale, Exhale** » Tue Nov 22, 2005 8:26 pm

Claire-
So very sorry for your loss

Absolute devastion to have your worst confirmed, but I remember the relief of finally knowing for certain as well. It gave me the OK, to truly grieve the loss.
It is amazing how quickly we become so very attached. Grieve in whatever way feels right to you. My DH and I got a beautiful bird feeder to memoralize our little miracle that we lost. We didn't tell anyone, just did it for ourselves.

Hugs to you and DH.

If you feel like talking to someone who has been through the same lately- I can usually be found in October Buddies..

Steph

Smita · Post by **Smita** » Wed Nov 23, 2005 2:43 am

Claire,
I cant imagine how gutted you are feeling..
Please take time to grieve- it is bound to hit you and it would be good if you have dh or someone you love around you if thats possible.
Sending you hugs,

smita

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