NEW YEAR buddies!

[JackieG]

Heather,

Im so glad your appointment went well. I will start AF around 15 DEC and then stimms after that.

I'm getting very excited too!! Hope your appt on the 6th goes well..

Good luck...PMA PMA!!
Jackie

[tony]

hi all,me and my wife are going for transfer sometime in january as well
but this time we are going for frozen emby's

[JackieG]

Tony,

Thats great!! How many frosties do you have?? FET is much easier than IVF. Its not as draining on the body.

Good luck to you and PMA!!

Jackie

[Chinamiff]

Hi Girls & Tony

I'll be starting tmt in the UK on 4th January. So count me in.

Tony
Its great to hear you are ready to climb the path again..Wish you the very best of luck.

China

[souris]

China, welcome to the thread!

Tony, nice to see you again, hope that dw is doing ok?

Having a bit of a low time for the moment... As I live abroad and I go back to France for my IVF ICSI, if anything goes wrong (tmt cancelled etc...) I will have then to wait another 3 months to try again... My last ICSI was in April, and it seems like ages... I am really excited to start again but feel a lot of pressure...

22 days and I will be in the plane for France yipeee!

sorry for being kinda miserable...

take care mu buddies!
souris
xxx

[Leanne]

Hi Girls x

Few of you may know me, others - hi.

I am hoping to start in January, I have to ring the hospital with my Dec. A.F and they will give me date to go in and collect drugs etc.

Those of you who don't know me or have forgot - Been trying for 7 years, had 4 Failed I.V.F. the last cycle ( June) we did egg share and the other lady was lucky enough to get pregnant but I wasn't! Good luck and lots of love to her though x

We will be egg sharing again and trying a new hospital, few new methods but generally I.V.F. If anybody has anything they want to ask me or moan about - feel free. I am a bit rubbish at logging on now as I don't have so much free time at the moment, but I will be thinking about you all and will reply to the posts whenever I am on.

Take care and enjoy the Christmas parties!!!!
Love leanne

[chanteq]

GOOD LUCK EVERYONE!

I'll be back for tmts (FET) sometime in the new year too.....



~ Chanteq ~

[souris]

Hi Leanne, welcome!

I think egg sharing is a great thing to do ( i will discuss it with my clinic in december) , it's the ultimate gift you can give to someone!!

You are so brave! I could not have cope with the fact that my egg receiver got pregnant and not me... I know it sounds selfish...

Hope to hear from you soon!

Chanteeq, nice to see you here! Do you live somewhere in the middle east??

ALl of you, take care
souris
xxx

[christine202]

Hi everyone

Can I join in too.

we are starting on the rollercoaster again in January. It will be fet. We have 9 little embies waiting, amd hoping and praying that one little one will decide to latch on.

We have had a six month break from treatment, and fly out to New zealand on the 12th december for a month, to see my inlaws. Then hopefully will come back refreshed and ready to go.

Wishing you all lots of luck

christine xxx

[lynne]

Hi ladies.
Just wanted to ask how people feel about drinking over the festive period?
This will be my first ICSI and I have been trying to prepare (with limited success) by cutting down on the old drink and eating more healthily. Unfortunately I am working extra long to save for the treatment so excercise goes out of the window. I keep worrying about the damage a good New Year might do my chances. Any suggestions? I will hopefully have started downregging by then.

[souris]

Hi Christine, welcome!!

9 embies! that's great!! I had none... . So I dont really know how FET works...
I hope you will have a nice holidays!!

I have one question: everyone tells me not to think about IVF, and not to stress about it, just to enjoy xmas time etc... But how can I do that???
It's on my mind ALL the time!! I think about what I eat, about the ciggies I cant smoke, about what I will do if it doesnt work, about what I will do if it works... etc...
I cant relax, no matter how hard I try!! Is it me only?? Or are you as well obsessed with it??

Lynne, I dont really know about the effect of alcool during tmt... (it s not a problem for me, i dont drink at all...)
I guess I would ask my doc, to make sure ( i am the kind to blame myself for everything... I was angry because I sneezed after my transfer, and when I got the BFN, I was sure it was because of that... )

I am sure some people will have different opinion, like drinking the odd drink when you are pregnant... some say it's ok to have a glass of wine,
and for others, it is tolerance 0...

take care ladies
souris
xxx

[lynne]

Souris, I wouldn't say I was obsessed as there is an awful lot else going on in my life at the moment, but I do find that whenever I can I am thinking the same thoughts as you. Actually, no I AM obsessed. I had the first carol concert of many last night (too early I know) and all those carols about little babies. I'm stood in front of 200 people trying not to think about what I'm doing and trying not to let the others know that something is up and trying not even to let there be something up. What a nightmare. Then comments after like "you don't seem yourself". And me poo hooing them as though of course there's nothing up! Yes, that counts as obssessed. I should be used to it as I have been like this for so many years. What I'm most frightened of is becoming hardened to it all. I think that is the saddest thing and I can slowly feel it happening. DH and I spent the weekend with his son and D-in-law with their 3 week old baby and I can't bring myself to tell people how beautiful she is. I'm saying things like- "she's just a baby" or raising my eyebrows. It is so hard.

Christine, a month in New Zealand sounds great. I believe it is really beautiful there. I hope you come bak rested and relaxed and ready for those little embies!
Leanne, pardon my ignorance, but what is egg sharing?

[souris]

Lynne,

I feel exactly the same... when I see a baby, I pretend not to be interested... but in fact i am boiling inside!!!

I had dinner with some of DH collegues, and they brought their 4 months old baby (such a cutie), DH told his mate that I was dying to hold the baby... and I freaked!! I gave a nasty look to DH, and I was really mad at him to put me in that position!!
I still dont know why I react like this... Once DH asked me if I really wanted to have a child, because it seemed that I did not like them ...

Egg sharing means you share your eggs with another lady! It' slike an amazing gift to someone else!! Well , hope that Leanne will answer your question because my expanation is rubbish!!!

Take care
xxx
souris

[lynne]

Souris,
Your DH has children already just like mine, doesn't he? They'll never understand. In the case of my DH he doesn't really want to understand. Much upset was caused this weekend when we went to visit his son in Germany because I was left alone cooking while he played happy families. When I went to find what had happened there was the trinity of Father, Son and Baby. (She's 3 weeks old and was 3 weeks prem so tiny.)Not only that but DH was feeding her. I was completely excluded from any part of that intimacyand left alone to cook for them like some sort of hired hand. He has no comprehension of the hurt he caused. When I asked him about it his reply was "you've held the baby more than me". That was not really the point.
It has taken me all week to bring myself to log on and talk about it. I made a conscious decision to try and hold the baby even though I knew how much it would hurt and I had talked to DH about this before we went.

I've been wondering after this incident if I wasn't better off on my own instead of living in constant isolation. But I am a great believer in making your bed and lying in it. I don't know about you Souris, but I am tired of making do and fighting for something that may not even work. I had to take the day off today as I am so knackered and all I can think of is the money I am losing.
Sorry to go on. I don't really want sympathy, I just need a listening ear. And I don't really expect anyone to understand. It is so different when your partner already has kids and you've had a fight on your hands to get to this position in the first place.

On a brighter note, I didn't realise you could egg share. It has never been mentioned by my clinic. I may do some research into it. I was talking about embryo donation, if we were succesful, but this seems even better. Maybe they haven't mentioned because of my age.

[souris]

Hi Lynne,

Believe me, I understand how you feel...Yes my DH has children, and he did not really wanted more...He must love me very much! and agreed to try... but he is not really involved in the whole process. He doesnt understand why I come on this forum, and why I spend so much time here... when we got a BFN last april, he was disappointed, but more for me than for him...but I know that if i do get pregnant, he will be over the moon. He knows it is really important for me, but he cant really understand as he has already a family...

The worst is that he cant be with me for the tmt, for the 2ww and for the test date...so i am on my own...
And I get mad at him because of the comments he makes like: "you are leaving me again" (we have to be away from each other for more than a month for the treatment...) Like if it was fun for me!! and like it was not hard enough already!!

I understand your feeling about the financial side of it... I had to borrow for my first ICSI... and I knew that if it did not work, we would not have been able to try again... so Imagine how I felt when we got the BFN...
I did not know at the time that the French NHS reimburse up to 4 IVF attempts! So I am very lucky for that...

Yes it's hard, especially not knowing if it is ever gonna work... and like you, I am tired... But not tired enough yet to give up... and I hope it will be all worth it soon...

I hope you will feel better soon, tomorrow might be brighter!

Take care and loads of love

souris
xxx