Fertile girls having IVF ??

[LittleP]

Nicki

I can see where your head must be at the moment - so many different situations to look at and think about. Unfortunately with IVF or ICSI there are no guarantees, just statistics of success. Not very helpful I'm sorry.

I would love to be able to give you a 100% guarantee that going through IVF would give you that much deserved child. I really hope that this time will be your time and will keep everything crossed for you.

Take care of yourself and remember any questions that you have now, write them down and have a good list ready for when you go for your consultation.

Big hugs

Little P

[CC]

Just quick note for Mel - so sorry for your BFN - it's really tough especially after IVF. I remember Zita West describing IVF as 'bringing in the big guns' and I remember thinking well if that doesn't work for me - nothing can. It';s a terrifying feeling (especially after BFNs) but I know now that it can and does work and I firmly believe that if you give yourself enough chances then the stats improve to over 85% (cos they learn so much about your system). Also, I know some people have worried on here that if 'normally fertile' people have only a 20% chance of falling pregnant each time then that must be even worse for people with problems. However I think IVF is a great leveller and gives people with fertility problems the same chance as everyone else and as Nicki says probably a greater chance than some 'normally fertile people. We were told that there was absolutely no chance of it ever happening naturally - problems on both sides and IUI wasn't even as option for us but we conceived within 3 ICSI treatments which is actually pretty fantastic when compared to 'normally fertile' people (even though it felt like forever at the time!) The greatest thing we can all do is just keep believing - have faith - it will happen!

Cherylxx

[dancola]

Our problem is male factor and even though I am 40, I consider myself to be pretty fertile. Outwardly I seem to have no problems, other than slightly raised levels of killer cells, and even here I take the steroids and aspirin more as a precaution than anything else (the clinic couldn’t be sure that this is what stops implantation in my case). I respond really well to stimulation and produced 25 eggs on my last cycle, 16 of which fertilised via ICSI (our problem is male factor). Two cycles before that I produced 12 eggs which still isn’t bad. I always have great quality blastocysts and have 7 frozen blastos ready for my FET. A hysteroscopy revealed nothing untoward. In addition, I have 28 day cycles and through tracking my daily temperature, can even tell when I’ve ovulated (my acupuncturist checks my charts and has told me I have a perfect cycle). So, to all intents and purposes, I am totally fertile.

None of this has given me the BFP though after 3 cycles. The first cycle WAS +ve, but the pregnancy was lost. Last two were negative. I really don’t know whether there is still some hidden, obscure reason why it just doesn’t work, or whether I am just unlucky. I’m preparing for my FET, but to be honest have little expectation of it working. I really do think that you can have all the right conditions in place, but sometimes it’s just not meant to be.

Can totally understand your frustrations.

[NickiMark]

Mel, I am sorry that the hpt said -ive, but hang on just incase it's false, it;s happened that way before, and btw I know some one who's had 8 ivf's and got pregnant on the 8th after having tubes removed, I wish u all the best for your next step on this hell journey xxx

[KTF]

Hi NickiMark,

I would be in a similar position to you if we were using donor sperm. My DH has had a failed vasectomy reversal so we are waiting for his appointment to come through for SSR. Obviously we will be going to ICSI/IVF.

If we had considered donor sperm, then I would have had the IUI v IVF dilemma too. My own fertility as it has never been tested.

At our consultation for IVF/ICSI they did a scan and found a polyp in my womb, just a tiny one, but this is being removed on 30th Dec. It could cause implantation problems. So, even though I thought everything was fine with me, there could have been this one small thing. During the op the consultant will get to have a good look round, so I should have a good idea of what’s happening with my insides.

I’m not saying for one minute that there may be something wrong with you, just wondering if you could ask them to do more investigations before you jump to IVF?

From my understanding it can take 6 attempts at IUI for a success, and at my clinic they also do 3 medicated attempts after the first 6. It must be so frustrating not knowing what is happening though. You seem just like me, needing answers and doing as much research as possible, I think it is a good thing to try and take charge of what is happening ourselves.

March is a long time to wait isn’t it? We are looking at waiting until about then for DH’s SSR but I am doing everything I can to get it earlier!

Good luck.

KTx

[NickiMark]

After the last BFN, I thought oh IUI in naff, it doesn't work, but hey I think I am going with IUI with meds next time, not even spoken to DR yet but thats what i think right now, obviously this may change between now and March, which is when we go for follow up, long wait our choice as we are moving xx

[Lis]

Hi KT,

Me and my DH are in the same position as you - waiting for DH's SSR in February/March also! The waiting is hell is it not?? Esp. as like you there's the whole donor issue potentially after that. Maybe we can be SSR buddies!! Keep in touch.