dearest Kat
I am crying here reading your message...Sweetheart there is nothing i can say to take the pain away...sending you lots of loving hugs
jen
xxxx
The Over 40 Crowd
Kat, I'm so so sorry to read your news. Yes the tears will come and at some point they will stop, but not yet. You know many of us have shared the same pain and it hurts like hell.
love
Debra.
love
Debra.
Me: 44, DH: 31
Game Over.
Dates: Aug 02 - May 06
Tries: 5 fresh + 4 frozen.
Results: 1 daughter, 2 m/c, 1 ectopic.
Game Over.
Dates: Aug 02 - May 06
Tries: 5 fresh + 4 frozen.
Results: 1 daughter, 2 m/c, 1 ectopic.
Hello ladies, have been away and just got back to read all the news.
Jen and Kat what can I say? My thoughts are with you both. Please be good to yourselves and be brave. It just wasn't meant to be this time.
You have both supported me so much over the past few weeks, I don't know what I would have done without you.....I am here for you now. Scream, shout.....do what ever it takes. My heart goes out to you both.
Lara, I hope you are feeling better. Will you try again?
BigJ, how was Kiev? Hang in there on your 2ww. When is your test date?
Big hugs to all
Anna x
Jen and Kat what can I say? My thoughts are with you both. Please be good to yourselves and be brave. It just wasn't meant to be this time.
You have both supported me so much over the past few weeks, I don't know what I would have done without you.....I am here for you now. Scream, shout.....do what ever it takes. My heart goes out to you both.
Lara, I hope you are feeling better. Will you try again?
BigJ, how was Kiev? Hang in there on your 2ww. When is your test date?
Big hugs to all
Anna x
Hi Kat
I have been watching your progress over the last few weeks and am sad for you to see that this time your pregnancy is not viable.
We had a similar experience where on our 6th IVF attempt we thought we hit the jackpot. It was our third go using donor eggs and an FET transfer at that - we achieved a BFP - I can tell you we were over the moon. This was short lived. Our HCG levels were not going anywhere so we had to stop all medication and then wait for the miscarriage to happen. It took me nearly two months to get over that cycle - just very teary and I was really upset by the whole experience, more than any other IVF cycle, understandably. The one thing I remembered was our doctor saying to us that the silver lining on the black cloud was the fact we did get pregnant. It meant that there are good odds that it can happen again.
We are trying again even though the way for us is not so easy, as the more we travel down the IVF road, the more complex and complicated it gets for us. Our 7th attempt will be a donor cycle and if all goes well we will attempt it in March 2006.
Take the time to be sad and grieve, it is part of the process. You have lots of positive people thinking of you and who have an insight into what it feels like to loose a pregnancy. I know this board helped me to overcome my experience, use it to help you.
Thinking of you
Di
I have been watching your progress over the last few weeks and am sad for you to see that this time your pregnancy is not viable.
We had a similar experience where on our 6th IVF attempt we thought we hit the jackpot. It was our third go using donor eggs and an FET transfer at that - we achieved a BFP - I can tell you we were over the moon. This was short lived. Our HCG levels were not going anywhere so we had to stop all medication and then wait for the miscarriage to happen. It took me nearly two months to get over that cycle - just very teary and I was really upset by the whole experience, more than any other IVF cycle, understandably. The one thing I remembered was our doctor saying to us that the silver lining on the black cloud was the fact we did get pregnant. It meant that there are good odds that it can happen again.
We are trying again even though the way for us is not so easy, as the more we travel down the IVF road, the more complex and complicated it gets for us. Our 7th attempt will be a donor cycle and if all goes well we will attempt it in March 2006.
Take the time to be sad and grieve, it is part of the process. You have lots of positive people thinking of you and who have an insight into what it feels like to loose a pregnancy. I know this board helped me to overcome my experience, use it to help you.
Thinking of you
Di
Thank you to everyone for all your lovely messages, I don't think I could do this without you all. DH is being lovely too, it makes it all seems worse somehow when he cries because then I know something is really bad because he doesn't cry often. I have managed to hide behind the red nose and runny eyes of a bad cold today at work, talk about hitting you when you're down. I just feel drained.
I have to go for another scan next Friday, I think it's to see whether the m/c has started on it's own or not.
I wish this was all a bad dream and I could wake up
i don't understand why this has to happen to me, am I such a bad person?
I know that's a stupid thing to say but that's how I feel right now.
Kat x
I have to go for another scan next Friday, I think it's to see whether the m/c has started on it's own or not.
I wish this was all a bad dream and I could wake up
i don't understand why this has to happen to me, am I such a bad person?
I know that's a stupid thing to say but that's how I feel right now.
Kat x
Me & DH both 41
ICSI #1 - abandoned
#2 - cancelled - DH accident
#3 - 1 transferred, bfn
#4 - 2 transferred, bfn
#5 - abandoned
#6 - no eggs at EC
#7 - DE in Barcelona - bfp but lost Dec'05
#8 - DE UK - bfn
#9 - FET Sept/Oct '07....
ICSI #1 - abandoned
#2 - cancelled - DH accident
#3 - 1 transferred, bfn
#4 - 2 transferred, bfn
#5 - abandoned
#6 - no eggs at EC
#7 - DE in Barcelona - bfp but lost Dec'05
#8 - DE UK - bfn
#9 - FET Sept/Oct '07....
Kat
Yes, it is a difficult time for you both. I remeber feeling just so sad and numb. I know it was not until AF arrived that we actually started to experience closure and work positively through our emotions.
Counselling for you and DH maybe something to consider to help you through this difficult time. I know it does not work for everyone but at times like this you don't always think of alternatives to help you through.
I actually took time off work as well and that helped.
Our thoughts are with you
Di
Yes, it is a difficult time for you both. I remeber feeling just so sad and numb. I know it was not until AF arrived that we actually started to experience closure and work positively through our emotions.
Counselling for you and DH maybe something to consider to help you through this difficult time. I know it does not work for everyone but at times like this you don't always think of alternatives to help you through.
I actually took time off work as well and that helped.
Our thoughts are with you
Di
Kat, been thinking about you today.
I read your message when I got back from work. Please please please don't start blaming yourself for this. You did absolutely NOTHING wrong. How could you possibly be a bad person?Absolutely not ,it just wasn't your time.
This is horrible for you, I really can't imagine how you are feeling. But you are strong and you will get through this. Can you take some time off work to gather your thoughts?
Jen how are you sweetie? My thoughts are with you too.Hope you are looking after yourself
Take care
Anna x
I read your message when I got back from work. Please please please don't start blaming yourself for this. You did absolutely NOTHING wrong. How could you possibly be a bad person?Absolutely not ,it just wasn't your time.
This is horrible for you, I really can't imagine how you are feeling. But you are strong and you will get through this. Can you take some time off work to gather your thoughts?
Jen how are you sweetie? My thoughts are with you too.Hope you are looking after yourself
Take care
Anna x
Kat,
Been thinking of you - no, life doesn't dole out rewards and punishments for good behaviour, you get what you get and it's mostly unfair, but we have to try and deal with it somehow, and that's hard sometimes. Quite a few of my friends are over 44 and still single - but would have loved to have had kids - it's unfair, it just is. But that doesn't mean it's over for you - just that this one didn't work out, because there was something up with it, and most people I know who've miscarried have gone on to have a healthy baby afterwards. Nothing you've done is wrong, you're a wonderful person and don't forget it.
Big Hugs,
Lara xxx
Been thinking of you - no, life doesn't dole out rewards and punishments for good behaviour, you get what you get and it's mostly unfair, but we have to try and deal with it somehow, and that's hard sometimes. Quite a few of my friends are over 44 and still single - but would have loved to have had kids - it's unfair, it just is. But that doesn't mean it's over for you - just that this one didn't work out, because there was something up with it, and most people I know who've miscarried have gone on to have a healthy baby afterwards. Nothing you've done is wrong, you're a wonderful person and don't forget it.
Big Hugs,
Lara xxx
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Kat
my heart goes out to you and dh, we know what you are going through. Give yourself time, it seems hard now, but you will come through this. It will take a while for the hormones to come down as well, so be nice to yourself while that's happeninng. Don't be sacred to ask your doctor for counselling. I wnt for grievance counselling from a vicar, offered through our local hospital, it helpe d me a lot, as did the girls here.
I don't understand why they make you wait. I had a d&C straight away, at least theny ou can move on, talk to your Dr about it.
email me any time, I am praying for you
{{{{{{{{{hug }}}}}}} BigJ
my heart goes out to you and dh, we know what you are going through. Give yourself time, it seems hard now, but you will come through this. It will take a while for the hormones to come down as well, so be nice to yourself while that's happeninng. Don't be sacred to ask your doctor for counselling. I wnt for grievance counselling from a vicar, offered through our local hospital, it helpe d me a lot, as did the girls here.
I don't understand why they make you wait. I had a d&C straight away, at least theny ou can move on, talk to your Dr about it.
email me any time, I am praying for you
{{{{{{{{{hug }}}}}}} BigJ
POF+autoimmune+dh antibodies,5.05 DIVF IM M/c 7.5 wks, DIVF+TESE at ISIDA - son 08/06
FET ISIDA: 12.07.07 m/c 8 wks b.ovum, 17 Dec 2007- BFP triplets OMG!!!
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FET ISIDA: 12.07.07 m/c 8 wks b.ovum, 17 Dec 2007- BFP triplets OMG!!!
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well girls
I did a clear blue this morning and got a very strong BFP
I put more dteails on the test thread.
I am doing blood test tomorrow as this has to be monitored now weekly, keeping my fingers crossed that it stays +ve....
am going to take things one step at a time, will get beta reuslts Monday. I feel that I am in very good hands in ISIDA (Kiev) and everything is being done that we can do, the only upredictable apart from all the other "normal" unpredictables is the immune situation, I am just praying and praying and praying.
will write more in th next couple of days
Love and hugs to you all
bigJ
I did a clear blue this morning and got a very strong BFP
I put more dteails on the test thread.I am doing blood test tomorrow as this has to be monitored now weekly, keeping my fingers crossed that it stays +ve....
am going to take things one step at a time, will get beta reuslts Monday. I feel that I am in very good hands in ISIDA (Kiev) and everything is being done that we can do, the only upredictable apart from all the other "normal" unpredictables is the immune situation, I am just praying and praying and praying.
will write more in th next couple of days
Love and hugs to you all
bigJ
POF+autoimmune+dh antibodies,5.05 DIVF IM M/c 7.5 wks, DIVF+TESE at ISIDA - son 08/06
FET ISIDA: 12.07.07 m/c 8 wks b.ovum, 17 Dec 2007- BFP triplets OMG!!!
[img]http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/1;20726;0/st/20080905/dt/6/k/7529/preg.png[/img]
FET ISIDA: 12.07.07 m/c 8 wks b.ovum, 17 Dec 2007- BFP triplets OMG!!!
[img]http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/1;20726;0/st/20080905/dt/6/k/7529/preg.png[/img]