new here..possibly starting ivf

anitawhetton · Post by **anitawhetton** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 3:34 pm

Hi my name is anita i am 34 and married to joe 27 i have 3 boys from a previous marriage but understandably want a baby with new husband ttc since dec 2000.After suffering 2 ectopic pg i lost my right fallopian tube,i had a laparoscopy with dye in nov 2002 which showed my remaining tube is blocked and distorted from previous surgery so ivf is my only option.I am so bewildered by it all i feel like im cracking up even though i know that there is so many other people out there like me. At the moment i am working on funding my ivf cos i want to get started asap but its so hard i have applied to donate eggs in order to reduce the costs a little.I would like to hear from anyone who has or is donating eggs or anyone who has any advice for me re;ivf im so nervous and really need cheering up.I wish everyone on this message board lots of luck with ttc and hope you all get positives soon. lots of love anita.xx

Jo Locker · Post by **Jo Locker** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 3:42 pm

Hi Anita & welcome to the site. The costs for treatment really are scary and for us it's just me & my husband both working full time - it must be hard trying to find all that "spare" cash when you've three boys to feed & clothe too!! Good luck with sorting out your treatments and thanks for your good wishes (in the middle of 2nd ICSI treatment at the moment, with egg collection scheduled for wednesday!!) Lots of Love - Jo. XXXX

Lorraine · Post by **Lorraine** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 4:55 pm

Hello Anita & welcome. This business is certainly bewildering and expensive - it's not for the faint hearted is it??!!! But you sound like that kind who likes a challenge! Phew - what a lot you have been through! I am new to the site myself but just reading the messages is enough to inspire and educate you! Lots of Love from Lorraine. xxx

anitawhetton · Post by **anitawhetton** » Tue Jun 24, 2003 4:24 pm

jo and lorrainne thank you for your reply its nice to have someone to talk to and get support i look forward to us sharing our experiences together and fingers crossed get positives at the end of all our negatives. lots of love anita.xx

kathryn · Post by **kathryn** » Tue Jun 24, 2003 5:33 pm

hello anita, we donated eggs for our 1st attempt at ivf. We dont get funding where we are full stop. All we paid for was the drugs. It came to about £800 then the tests on top of that, ie the HIV screeing , sperm count etc etc. Came to about £1000. This time we want to be able to collect as many eggies as poss, so we are paying the full wack, £3400!!!!!!! Our 2 little embies that we were going to use for a fet didnt make the thaw so this time Im hoping we may have a few extra for fets. At first I wasnt sure about the possibility of there being little me's running around by someone else, but at the end of the day, youre helping someone out who is in a more unfortunate situation than yourself. I thought I would be thinking about it all the time but I dont, we feel quite happy with ourselves for doing it! if this next turn does work we shall be back with egg donation again. anyway good luck with whatever you decide, lots of love kathryn x