Pregnant after ectopic?

[lolajones]

Hi pregnant ladies

I apologise for this thread, its a bit selfish. I posted on the general forum but maybe you have the reassuring news I'm looking for.
I had BFP mid november but 1st scan showed it was ectopic and so I just got out of hospital after removal of . and one fallopian tube. I can't describe how bad this feels but I'm not here to spoil your saturday with my yammering. Have any of you had an ectopic but have then gone on to get pregnant? Or do you know anyone who has? I know its all individual but knowing that someone had got pregnant would really boost my flagging courage and hope.
Man, I sound a bit desperate and needy. Forgive me, today is a wierd day. Its all very raw at the moment.

Thanks for your help and good luck with your ever expanding bumps!

Lots of Love, Lola
xxxx

[souris]

hi there!

one of my mum's friend had a daughter few years ago (natural pregnancy). Then got pregnant a couple of years later. One day she had loads of bleeding and passed out. She was rushed to hospital where the docs realised it was an ectopic.

A few months back, she gave birth to a lovely healthy boy!

SO yes, pregnancy happen after ectopics!

Loads of PMA
Take care
souris

[Barny]

Hi Lola,

I am so sorry to hear about your ectopic. Our first IVF cycle resulted in an ectopic so I know how you are feeling and my heart goes out to you.

I felt so cheated. I had waited so long to get pregnant and then that happened. My tubes were about the only bit of me that was in working order so it was very unexpected. People kept trying to put a positive spin on it by saying "well, at least you know you can get pregnant now, so it's a good thing." I felt like punching these people. I know they were only trying to cheer me up and I don't blame them for not knowing what to say because I wouldn't know either if I was them. But I just remember feeling like I had used up all my luck. If, say, one in four IVF cycles results in a pregnancy, then I felt like I had used up my 1 chance.

Anyway, I hope to boost your flagging courage and hope by letting you know that it turned out alright for me in the end and I did get pregnant again and now have a beautiful baby boy.

Hang in there and don't ever lose hope.

Love Barny

[lolajones]

Barny thanks so much for replying. I feel exactly like that.
I'm glad that everything worked out so well for you in the end with your lovely baby boy Your post has really cheered me up. Can I ask - you waited quite a while after your ectopic before trying again - was that your personal choice or was that your doctors advice? Sorry if that is too nosey, I just want to get an idea of when I can start again - I aint getting any younger.

Souris thank also for your post! I've noticed you spreading pma about all over the boards you are lovely!

Love, Lola
xxxx

[Barny]

Hi Lola,

It was our personal choice to wait 6 months before trying again. This was because of a few things. Firstly it took a couple of months to get over the mental trauma of the ectopic. I was scared of trying again because I didn't want to go through the ectopic experience again. Then we had a couple of holidays lined up and we just didn't get round to it for a while.

I guess that if you are keen to try again soon then you will probably only have to wait 3 months. It's excellent that you are looking ahead and thinking of the next go. I wish you buckets of luck.

Love Barny