new to the forum and feeling blue

emmajane · Post by **emmajane** » Wed Jun 25, 2003 1:59 pm

Hello - my name is Emma, I am brand new to this site and feeling a little blue at the moment. I am fast approaching 36 and my husband is almost 44 - we have been trying to get pregnant for over 4 years now. I was referred to the local NHS fertility clinic in March 2002, waited until the August for an appointment at which we were advised that I undergo a laporoscopy (hubbie's sperm count was fine, as was motility, and I appear to be ovulating). The lap. took place in January this year and the results were fine. We then had another cons. appointment in March at which we were told that we were one of the numerous couples suffering from unexplained infertility. Our cons. thought that our best chance to get pregnant would be IUI with drug treatment and we were immediately placed on the 8-9 month waiting list. I was told that I will be over the age limit by the time we get treatment but that as we were being placed on the waiting list it wouldn't matter. I feel so tired of the waiting and tired of trying not to get my hopes up each month just for them to be dashed again. The family try to help by listening and are being great but they find it hard to really understand - both my sisters fell pregnant easily and we've just learnt that hubbie's 22 year old sister-in-law is pregnant for the first time. Sorry to babble on, but I'm hoping you will all understand and be able to tell me that I'm not losing my marbles for feeling so old and abnormal. Emma

jo mortimer · Post by **jo mortimer** » Wed Jun 25, 2003 2:51 pm

Hi Emma I know the feeling! We have just started first IVF but it took two years of tests, etc. You feel like you are getting somewhere and then it's 'right you'll have to come back for another appointment' and more often than not each of my appointments seemed to get changed at the last minute. It is worth the wait though and hopefully at the end of all this we'll have a little bundle of joy to hold in our arms! So please don't get too down, I'm sure it will all work out for you it is just a waiting game. Lots of love Jo x

emmajane · Post by **emmajane** » Wed Jun 25, 2003 2:54 pm

Thanks Jo - although it's nice to know that I'm not alone in feeling that it's all waiting, I wish for your sake (and for everyone else as well) that nobody was in this position. Lots of love Emma

hayley · Post by **hayley** » Wed Jun 25, 2003 3:06 pm

hi emma welcome onboard and sorry to hear you are feeling blue. our situations seem to be quite similar... unexplianed infertility that is. my dh & i have been ttc for 6 years with no success. we have had one ivf in aug 01 which resulted in none of my 30 eggs ovulating even though dh sperm was normal and again no obvious problems with my eggs/ovulatuon! we were totally devasted and because i am from northeren ireland we have such a long wait.. even to go private. Anyway i havent give up hope and my consultant called me last night and told me i can start treatment as soon as af arrives ...feeling both excited and nervous!!! We will need isci this time so fingers crossed we get fertilisation. I know it is so hard when everyone around seems to be pregnant, my younger sister has just had a baby boy so i completely understand. Sorry for the long message & hope you are feeling a bit better lol hayley

emmajane · Post by **emmajane** » Wed Jun 25, 2003 3:36 pm

Hi Hayley, Thank you so much for responding. Think part of my problem is time of the month + in-laws don't know we have been going to clinic (hubby doesn't want them to know) so they are naturally talking about new grandchild being on the way a lot. But we have holiday coming up on Friday (week down in Cornwall) so am going to chill out and try to relax. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you and really do hope you are successful this time. Lots of love Emma

hayley · Post by **hayley** » Wed Jun 25, 2003 4:35 pm

hi emma have a lovely weekend in cornwall and spend some uninterupted quality time with your dh! Im feeling realling positive about the treatment this time, dont know why , but hope it lasts!! will keep you updated. hope to hear fromyou soon lol hayley