For Sally P - Thinking of you on scan day!!!

Anonymous · Post by **Anonymous** » Tue Jun 24, 2003 8:22 am

Hi Sally, Just a short post to let you know that I am thinking of you today.. keep us posted with your news.. All the best Ursula xxxx

bubblymichelle · Post by **bubblymichelle** » Tue Jun 24, 2003 10:51 am

Hi Sally Hope your feeling better then you have been. I just want to wish you lots of luck with having your scan today. Please keep us updated. Love Shell. xx

SallyP · Post by **SallyP** » Wed Jun 25, 2003 2:35 pm

Hey girls, thanks for this - I had the day off work yesterday to go and tell my mum and dad and DH's family, so couldn't post. The scan was fine thank goodness - one little heartbeat, and I'm 8 weeks pg on Saturday (still getting my head round it!!). Ursula - how are you feeling - you sound a lot stronger and my thoughts and prayers are with you if you decide to have another go. Shell - I feel loads better now thanks - I think the excess hormones after the IVF really affected me, but relaxing more, doing some long walks and seeing the scan yesterday have really helped, so I feel tons better and now hopefully the mood swings are a thing of the past! Hormones eh - what a bloody nightmare! Thanks for your support - it means so much, love Sally xxxx

Anonymous · Post by **Anonymous** » Wed Jun 25, 2003 3:01 pm

Hi Sally, I am sincerely very happy for you, listening to the heartbeat must be so reassuring... I am feeling better now, and I think that one of the reasons is reading postings about positive pregnancies....that keeps my spirits and hopes up. Anyway.. I must say that I did not expect for this to hit me so badly.. although feeling better than before, I am by no means back to normal.. I think it will take a little time. I am looking forward to next time which I think it will be in September.. till then I can only keep positive.. I think it will be more challenging next time. Once again.. Congratulations.. I will keep looking for your postings to see how you are getting on. Love Ursula xxx

SallyP · Post by **SallyP** » Wed Jun 25, 2003 3:49 pm

Hi Ursula, I know exactly how you feel - devastated and hopeless one minute and almost OK and coping the next. My first attempt failed, and the second time I was much calmer, more relaxed and better prepared as I knew what to expect, what would hurt, how I would feel, etc, so I think that definitely had something to do with it - on my first go I was so scared and I'm sure that the nervousness affected me. Don't be too hard on yourself - when I got a negative I was really emotional for 2 -3 weeks after the result - very up and down. One minute I thought I was fine and coping, the next I was crying my eyes out, and convinced I would never get over it. But you do, because you've been strong enough to go through it, and you decide to have another go and not be beaten. I now you think the second time will be more challenging, but I found it easier - not only did /i know what to expect, but the best thing about this is that the clinic will know how you reacted to the first cycle, so can improve things if necessary (eg in my case I had more ampoules the second time,so had better quality eggs). For now, just be kind to yourself - the hormones are so strong and magnify your emotions horridly anyway, and it's so sad when you get a negative, that you've got to be kind to yourself, and give yourself time to grieve, cope and be strong again. Just remember that you've been strong enough to put yourself through this, and it's taken an enormous toll both physically and emotionally, so you've got to be gentle with yourself and know that it's normal to feel very down and vulnerable for a while. But you will get stronger and move on a stronger and more experienced person - and you'll go into your second time much more prepared - or you'd better be as you've got to come over to the other side! Thinking of you, and sending you positive vibes across the ether! love SAlly xxx

Anonymous · Post by **Anonymous** » Thu Jun 26, 2003 10:30 am

Dear Sally, Thanks so much for your support. It is funny isn't it how we experience the same feelings, when I read your posting, I thought God... we all feel the same.. anyway... once again thank you. Keep us posted with your news.... I am sure that one day I will join you on the other side.. in the meantime.... PMA all the way. Love Ursula xx