October Mommies-2-B Club!!!!

[riogirl71]

Well girls, looks like insulin for me! I really don't get it, I have been measuring everything and doing exactly what I am supposed to but my fasting numbers are high. So I am going to try and see the doctor next week. I just get really down on myslef even though I shouldn't blame me. I am not overweight, not in risk group, the nurse was shocked I had it. Anyway, I just want a healthy bean!

Weezie - is there a particular reason you need to do the BPP test? Or is it something to put your mind at ease?
Suga- I am praying your girls stay put! Sorry about the yucky magnesium. Sucks about the girl and the baby shower, that is selfish.
Katie - Make sure you check the certification on the person who will do your 4D, I read lots of articles on it and decided against it since some places don't have the qualifications. Ultra sounds are energy waves and can create an amount of heat. Just make sure they know what they are doing! Post the pics!
Mellie - New Zealand - how fun! My ex and I went diving in Tasmania and the great barrier reef on our honeymoon. I really wish I had gone with current DH - way better guy all around! So you are trying in April already - you are so brave! We think we will try after the bean is 8 mos and I am not bfeeding anymore. Do you have frosties? We don't It is crazy to think of going through all this. I have some worries about things, I would like to see a singleton again, the GD, etc...
Can I convince you to join Gecko and I in June? How fun would it be to do it again together!!!
Hope you girls are having a fab weekend!!!

[sugabeanzs]

Rio: Sorry about the insulin. I know many people who get it that are not overweight...just your body and the way it works. But the baby will be fine so do not worry. Thanks for the well wishes...they will stay put I have a feeling! Just ups and downs along the way.

[geckogirl]

Jomae - It was nice to have some time with DH but it was short lived. He is now at a fire hear Yosemite and there is no end in sight. So far he has only had 6 days off ALL SUMMER! It is really hard and is beginning to take a toll on me. An NST is a non stress test and it is supposed to measure the baby's heartrate to determine if he is under any stress. I think they just hook you on a monitor for a half an hour and hope the baby moves around enough to measure the heartrate. I will fill you in more after I have one.

weezie - Wow! Your step kids sound like they are a real nightmare. I would have slapped the one who said she didn't care if your baby died right into tomorrow! I hope your regular check on Tuesday goes well and that your blood work is normal. Have fun at your shower! I have a big shower with family and friends next Sunday. I am really looking forward to it.

Katie - Let us know how your shower goes. It is so exciting that we are all at that point! I can't wait to see Parker's room. How awesome that you get to have a 4d ultrasound. Post some pics if you can.

Sugabeanz- Oh you poor girlie! I can't believe you had to be in the hospital again. Keep resting and know that soon they will be here and healthy and all this will be a story you can guilt them with later when they are teenagers! The girl throwing your shower sounds very selfish. Just blow her off and concentrate on your girls. You can always have a shower later. She is the one who is looking bad.

Mellie - Looks like you, rio and myself will all be cycling next year. It would be fun to do it together again. Although, this trimester is beginning to be difficult for me. I hope I can muster the strength to do it all again! I am sorry about your parents. It is REALLY had to tell parents what to do, but you could try guilting them about being healthy and around for your baby. Being that overweight is not a benign problem. I have been overweight most of my life and am used to fighting it and can really tell how much healthier I am when I am at a better weight. My DH is very overweight but when I needed to lose weight to get pregnant he was really supportive (although he refused to diet with me) and I lost almost 45 pounds. I would think it would be next to impossible if your partner is egging you on with bad eating habits. Let us know what happens.

Rio - I am sorry about the insulin. That really sucks. But it isn't for very much longer and you and your son will be fine. It isn't anything you can control either, it is just how your body responds to the pregnancy hormones. Let us know how it goes with the injections and monitoring.

Well, I am on my own yet again. DH was only around for a few days and got called back into work early. Then he got sent to the fire near Yosemite. I have no idea when he will be back. I am totally overwhelmed trying to take care of our home and training our puppy and I have to go back to work full time in a few weeks. I never though I would be married and so lonely..... I am really beginning to question whether we did the right thing getting pregnant. He is gone so much that I am basically going to be a single mom and I don't think I am going to be able to handle it. He is the more rational and nurturing one. I don't know how good of a mother I will be when I am left on my own. I wonder if it is fair to our child. Oh well, what is done is done, right? Right now I am just trying to hang in and hope it gets better.

Have a good weekend everyone!

[geckogirl]

oops - double post.

[Mellie_1233]

Rio - Well, crap. I'm sorry about the insulin. That's lousy. I'll try to be positive for you, though, and just say that it won't be that long that you'll have to deal with it and we're so lucky to live at a time when problems like these have treatments. Lots of people have GD. Your baby will be healthy. Sounds like you have good medical care. And, of course none of this is your fault. Just another biological betrayal -- just like infertility!

Gecko and Rio - Yeah, looks like we're gonna all be going through round 2 together! I expect to see the doc in April, but the actual retrieval may be May or June. I don't know. Last time, my first IVF retrieval was scheduled for September but I didn't actually make it to retrieval until January! My body does not respond correctly to the pill and that delayed me a couple of months. I also was cancelled after my first round of stims and then we switched to the clinic in CO. So, if I start in April who knows when my body will decide to cooperate enough to make it through a cycle! I'm also in a hurry b/c I was dx'ed with diminished ovarian reserve when I was only 35. I found out (after I finally got pregnant) that my grandmother went through menopause at 39-40. I'm not that severe but my body appears to be on the "fast track" to menopause and since a woman loses her fertility a decade before menopause, I don't have time to waste!

Gecko - I think everyone doubts themselves, their decisions, everything at some point when they're pregnant. And, we'll all probably still doubt ourselves sometimes when we are parents. I know that when we were thinking of TTC it was hard for me to imagine being a parent and I wondered whether or not it was the right thing. But now I just think of all the joy this baby has already brought -- to us, to our parents, even to our friends. Nothing is perfect or ever will be but you made the decision to have a baby with good intentions and a big heart and that's what your little one needs most. I'm sorry that your DH is away so much. That isn't something to be trivialized at all b/c I think that would be incredibly hard. But I also believe that you and your DH will find so much joy in your baby that it will overcome these difficulties.

Gecko ptII -- Thanks for the advice about my parents. I feel such sympathy with anyone struggling with a weight problem. I've watched my mom, aunts, and grandmother struggle for my whole life. It's such a tough thing. I think you're right that guilting them with talk about the baby needing them to be around is maybe the only card I have left to play. I thought I might try to approach them in a way that is more of a kind gesture than a lecture by maybe sending them a nice cookbook with a letter saying how much I want them to take care of themselves and be there for their grandaughter. The letter was my best friend's idea. I thought that might be a good approach.

Well, it's 7am here. I've been up since 5. Hormones again! Yesterday I got a good long nap and then we went for a long walk. Last night we went out with our dinner club to an African restaurant and had very interesting food. It's been a nice weekend here.

Anyone else have acid reflux? I had a terrible bout of it last week. Ate too much right before bed. What an awful feeling.

[geckogirl]

Mellie- Thanks for the words of encouragement. I think I just get a little down when DH is absent for so long. Being a firefighter's wife is often a scary and lonely business. When he is home I am very happy and grounded. Let us know what you decide to do about your parents. I am sure they are good people who just don't see the long term effects of their health decisions. Perhaps this will be a wake-up call for them. And as for acid reflux - yuck- I am right there with you. I got my first bout of it on the 4th of July. Since then I try to not eat big meals and avoid food that will create more acid - tomatoes, citrus, and super spicy food. It is kinda hit and miss. You just need to try different things until you find what works for you.

[KatieG]

Rio---My US is at my doc office but I did read about dangerous US at mall like places or people who are not qualified. ---Im sooo sorry about the GD. Just take it easy nad 10 weeks are goign to fly by and then its home free. I would be bummed as well but at least its nearing the end.

Gecko---You will be a great mom just remember all the hormones do crazy stuff to us right now.

I have heartburn like no other---It started last week and its just like this constant annoyance. I get it after my morning PBJ sandwich, Its not been so bad the last few days but pretty much all week it drove me nuts. Guess it comes with the end. I cant beleieve we are all getting so close. Its crazy to think and last Jan seems just the other day.

I thought about trying to #2 pretty quick but we've deceide to see how it goes. Im afraid of feeling lazy ache tired preggie and having a littleone running wild approaching 2. So we will see how it goes. We def. want a second. BUT i am NOT going to transfer more then one frozen at a time. I think id go mad with 3 under 3. So it may take a while. Who knows how I will feel I've gone back and forth a few times now.

The will be a good short week I have wed off (vac day) for appointments and then its my Friday off so I hope the week flys by!!!!! Have a great last day of your weekends!!!!!!!!!!!

[riogirl71]

Katie - I am glad you are doing the 4d at your doc's office, I wish mine had that! Please post pictures! Have you tried TUMS for your heartburn? Try the ones with no food coloring since FDA is now thinking about banning some food colors. I am also nervous about the next IVF, I wish we had frosties! I really don't know how many to transfer since we did 4 this time and one took, such a numbers game!

Gecko - I can't blame you for being down when DH is gone so much, you are a brave girl! I am sorry he had to go to the Yosemite fire, it looked pretty bad on tv. I hope they are able to control it quickly so you can have DH back! Wow you lost 45lbs that is amazing! Especially considering DH didn't diet with you. I got acid reflux also even with water! I have no doubt that you will be a wonderful mother, look how wanted this baby already is! It is normal to have doubts and be scared, I get that way too, it is a big life change but I am sure that once you look at your baby it will all be there in a second! I am also nervous about the next IVF and it will be great if we can cycle together for support! Is it possible for DH to transfer to a local agency where he doesn't have to be gone so much?

Mellie - I hope your cycle coincides with ours! I know what you mean about being in a hurry. My DH has fertility issues and I don't want to wait and then find out that I also have them due to age. So we want to go soon for a sibling. I would love to be like Jomae with one boy then one girl! Makes me really nervous to figure out how many to transfer since I did 4 last time and ended with one, I hope Murphy doesn't work against me! No frosties though Sorry you are having a hard time sleeping I am there with you. About your parents, I think a letter is a great idea. My 1/2 brother who is much older than me did that, completely ignored hi health until he had a heart attack and almost had to amputate his feet. Let them know that you don't want a scare to wake them up (my brother is doing much better after his scare and is now taking care of himself and dieting) that you love them so much that you want them to always be there. Do you have a relationship with their doctor? People can be very stubborn and reluctant to change, I really wish you luck so that they can take your letter to heart and change so that they can enjoy their grandchild for many years!

Suga How many weeks before your OB will let you have the twins? I know the ideal is as long as you can, but did he give you a minimum? A friend of mine had twins at 31 1/2 weeks and they gave her steroid shots to mature the girls lungs and they were perfect! I am still crossing my fingers they stay in a very long time!!!

[cornybaby]

Hi girls. This is tough for me to write but I wanted to let you all know...the TTTS has finally gotten the best of us and we lost one of our baby girls. She died last Wednesday at 24 weeks 2 days gestation. Her little heart just stopped beating. It all started last Tuesday when we went for our routine weekly u/s. The babies were doing great but my cervix had shortened to 2cm. He sent me straight to the hospital for 24 hours of observation and the FFN test to see if I would possibly be going into labor. They had me on the fetal monitor and were watching both heartrates and all was fine. We had the FFN test on Wed at 2pm. At about 3pm they came and told us that the test was negative (yay!) and we were being discharged, but they wanted to check my cervical length one more time. Anyhow, the u/s came in to check the cervix and the nurse suggested we get one more heartrate before we left and low and behold, Madison's heart was no longer beating. Everything else seemed perfect. They have no explanation other than to say it must have been some sort of "acute event", where the blood just stopped pumping to her heart. I spent the last 6 days in the hospital so they could monitor Abigail and make sure I don't have any infections. We were discharged this morning and went straight to the peri for another u/s. Abigail is still doing well and I was given the steroid injection to develop her lungs in case she comes sooner rather than later. I am 25 weeks today. I am resting at home now and will have twice weekly u/s for the remainder of the time. And the hospital says if I am nervous or would like Abigail to stay on the monitor I am welcome to go back and finish out my pregnancy on hospital bedrest. For now we have decided to come home. I don't know how long I will last here, as it is impossible not to worry that Abigail may suffer the same fate, and at least if I was in the hospital and she got into distress, they would be able to do an emergency c-section. To say we are heartbroken is an understatement. All we have at this point is hope and prayer. As long as I feel her move I find some comfort, but in between movements I am a basketcase. DH is at BRU now buying a home heartrate monitor. I am hoping that might give us some peace of mind. Please pray for Abigail. Right now she is doing great and we need to keep it that way.

[geckogirl]

Oh Corny - All my hopes and prayers are with you during this difficult time. I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. There are just no words to express how sad I am for you and your DH. I will pray for Abigail's healthy birth. We are here for you if you need us.

[sugabeanzs]

Corny: I am so sorry hun. That is just horrific that it just happened just like that. Abigale will be perfect and if you feel safer in the hospital I would just go back there. I know it is boring there but do what you feel best doing. Words can not express how sorry I am.

Rio: The OB wants me to at least get to 34 weeks because their lungs would be better. I did get the steroids when I was last in the hospital. That is nice to know that your friends did fine at 31 1/2 weeks. How long were they in the NICU? I just take it week by week.

Ladies: TMI question but still curious...are any of you having leakage issues in the breast area? My friend is 21 weeks and says she leaks all the time. I have yet to do that. Does this mean breastfeeding is less likely? Will I have less milk?

[Mellie_1233]

Corny I am so very very sorry. You are in my prayers. I can't think of anything more to say except that you shouldn't hesitate to vent here because I think this is a good place for it if you think it would help.

[KatieG]

Corny my prayers are with you. Take it easy your little one needs mom as calm as possible. I cant imagine the pain you feel and we are here for you and your family.

[weezie]

Corny, I know there is nothing that I can say to ease your pain. And I know first hand its a pain that will stay with you forever. However, focus on Abigail for now. She needs for you to be strong. You and your family are in my prayers. Hang in there!

[riogirl71]

Corny, I will be praying for Abigail's health and for your little angel, Madison, she will be watching over you and her little sister forever. I am so sorry honey, please consider yourself hugged many times by all of us.



Suga Her twins were in the hospital for one month but she said they couldn't stop her labor cause her water broke, she had no clue that she was in labor and no signs of early labor so she wasn't closely motitored like you are being. She was shocked, they gave her the steroids and they were born at 31 1/2 wks, she said that the next day already the girls were fine and breathing on their own with no issues but they had to keep them at the hospital anyway. I just wanted you to hear about a happy ending with an early labor, hopefully your girls will stay put and you don't even have to think about it!