Bec:
Sisterhood's gotta be good!

But you know, one of the very first shocks I had about becoming part of the IVF community is that the best support I received was from fertile couples, and not from infertile ones! First there was the partner of one of my husband's colleagues/friends. They had been trying for about 9 months without success. They had gone through tests, but everything came back normal. And they were also told that no extra measures would be taken before they went through the full 12 months trial delay. I can understand that she was frustrated. However, there I was, still recovering from my surgery, and she asks what the news are. I tell her that our chances are now ruined for natural conception, and I tell her I'll have to go to IVF. Her reaction? A very cranky, "I hope you realize your luck!"

Even if I understand that not knowing why it's not working is
very frustrating, it was very tactless. I know exactly what's going on with my body, yeah, but it's still an awful loss nevertheless! hehehe, I remember how her partner complained about how having a spermogram was a pain in the neck.

some people just don't turn situations to their advantages: I accompanied my husband in the spermogram room last summer and brought nice lingerie. We had fun and it was very passionate, very
loving; we did not even need the magazines! And let me tell you, the same will happen on the ER day!
And this other colleague from Atlanta... I saw him at a convention this summer. I told him we would start IVF soon (told you the project was postponed many times...

) and the first thing he told me was: "Don't do it. Go to adoption directly; IVF is a very emotional process." He had gone through 3 IVF trials and failed... they adopted a lovely girl... but hey, they were both in their forties when they tried IVF. Again, it was very tactless to discourage me like that, knowing very well that I was much younger and that our situation was very different. So again, even if I understand his bitterness, the best support I got was from fertile couples. My best friend, for example... we're the same age, and she's currently trying to conceive with her husband. When I learned the news after the surgery, however, she was dead serious when she offered to wait until I had a successful IVF cycle before trying on her own, because she did not want me to suffer if she was successful and not me! The sweet, sweet girl!
Fortunately, the wife of one of my bosses just got pregnant after IVF. They were really lucky; they only had one blastocyst, but very strong... and it implanted successfully! It's a girl! She's due in March and she's given me precious advice... joining an IVF forum was one of them!

Even if I'm sometimes a little jealous of her splendid belly, it's not a consuming jealousy, for she is also a living proof that IVF works and it comforts me a LOT!
And for the record, of course I'll be there for you guys as well!
mel12:
Indeed, the more you want it, the less you get it

My body feels weird, too, cramps from time to time... heaviness as if I was about to start my menses... bwl. But! It will happen sooner or later! Thanks for replying!
Sophie
First IVF Dec. 06!
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