Feb 2009 Moms to Be

[children]

Gennessa,

We tell close friends that we went through ivf. To others, my policy is if they don't ask, don't tell. I told few colleagues who went through the same thing. All my side of the family know that we used ivf but not DH's side.

Good luck on your us tomorrow!

ftg,

Congratulations to a strong heart beat and graduation to your regular ob. Boy, your clinic releases you early. My first released me on 12 weeks and this one will only release me after 9 wks. We will need to go back next Monday to be determined whether I can "graduate"!

All other preggos,

Take care of yourself and do update whenever possible.

[Rubylee]

Ganessa - I have had some people just come out and ask me if I did IVF! I guess it is so common anymore some people don't see it as a sensitive subject. I don't think there is one person that I have told it's twins that didn't asked about it one way or another. I am a bad liar, so what I have said is we did get a little help. If they press further I say I took fertility drugs, and I stop it at that. My close friends and family know.

Neffi - My ms started about a week ago (6.5 - 7 weeks along). Before that I just had these random moments of nausea that would come on quick on go away. Now it is pretty constant. It may not have started for you yet, or maybe you'll get lucky and it never will!

Smattison - Welcome. I am so sorry you are having such a scary time right now. It is going to be a long weekend for the both of you. Your numbers are really good though! Your babe is probably just a late bloomer and needed a little extra time to get in there. I will be thinking of you and looking for your post on Monday. Try to stay as positive as you can, your little one needs you to.

[unexplained infertility]

ftg- congrats! Isnt it a relief? I also cried when I saw the HB! It is a very emotional moment.

genessa- only my family knows we did IVF. It has been such a long route and since I didnt tell anyone at the begining I never found the right moment to tell them later and I do not intend to. Twins can just happen to you, they dont have to run in the family. You just ovualted with more than egg, that's it. Now if it would be triplets, then it would be suspicious. You dont have to tell anyone

Girls, I know that is it pretty early for this question, but have you thought about telling or not telling your child that he/she is from IVF? I definitely would not want him/her to find out from anybody else, that is why I chose to tell only the closest, most trusted people.

smatisson- my peanut was measuring 6 days late and the nurse freaked me out because at me 2nd u/s when I was 6.5 weeks according to the transfer day, that the sac is too small. It had a yolk in it though and that's a relief becasue you at least know that the embryo's food is there, so an embryo hopefully too. I had my next U/s at 7.5w, whcih turned out to be 6.5 according to the size of the peanut, and we saw a very strong HB at that point. Just wait one more week till you see the HB and you will be so relieved. The docs and nurses should sometimes get a good kick on the butt for the words they choose when they talk to their patients... try to stay calm, that is the best you could now.

neffi- I am almost 8 weeks and no MS. But the peanut is in there. Just hang in there till Monday.

Children- I am soory to hear about you severe MS. I bet it is no fun. Well, at least you have a very strong confirmation that you are pregnant. Some of us need it from time to time I got into the habbit of checking if my boobs are still sore. I do it tens of times per day

Rubylee- we didnt do it after your last post We want to wait also till week 10. We were trying to have a baby for almost 4 years. We do not want to jeopardize it now. Better safe than sorry.

Anyway, enjoy your weekend. It is almost here. We are going camping and white water rafting (no- I will not be rafting) tomorrow for the whole weekend. I have to make up excuse to my friends why I am not rafting. Maybe I will get a headache...

[IMBlessed]

Hi Ladies! May I join your thread? I just had my first ultrasound today and found out my due date is Feb 14th, so I guess I belong here. My info is in my signature.

I got to see my little bean today! I was so elated to see the little heartbeat flicker! I almost became emotional. DH was excited as well. The baby measured on target and everything is coming along fine, except my ovaries are still swollen. That's probably why it looks like I'm already showing. RE told me to drink plenty of Gatorade. I'm 6wks and 4days along. And get this.....my due date is Feb 14th....the same as my RE's birthday (how neat). DH also proposed to me on that day. Anyway, I'll get another u/s next week, then I'll be released to my OB (whom I already have an appt with). They gave me a pic of my little bean...I can't stop looking at it! DH and I are truly blessed! THANK YOU GOD!!!

I was with many of you ladies on the May/June Cycle thread. I look forward to sharing my experiences with all of you.

[crogers]

Well guys I had a bad day of MS all day long with bad body aches. I think I ran fever as well. Should I be running fever with these symptoms? Just curious. Wandering if I should be worried about this.

[ftg]

IMBlessed-welcome! I was with you on the May/June thread, and am really glad to hear your news! I also saw the bean for the first time today, and it is a great experience. Welcome!

crogers-have you told your dr's about your fever? How high is it? You may want to let them know just so you are all on the same page on what to do. I am sure that all will be ok. Is this more than your normally high basal body temp (bbt)? If you have ever taken that, I have been at a higher temp ever since I became pregnant. I wake up each morning in pretty much a sweat Poor DH keeps his own blanket if I'm throwing covers off early in the a.m.

unexplained-that's a great question. I guess at this point it hasn't crossed our minds. If it ever comes to that, it may be something DH and I discuss. I really don't know at this point though...

[IMBlessed]

Unexplained - That is a very good question. I hadn't thought about it, but now that you bring it up, I don't see what would be wrong with telling your child that he/she was conceived via IVF. So what, you needed a little extra help to have a child....there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. It wouldn't change the fact that your child is still your child, and I think it would make for an interesting conversation. I know I would find it very interesting if my parents had told me that I was conceived unconventionally......to know that my parents went thru great lengths to have me would've made me feel very special. So, having said all of that, when my child is old enough to understand, I would (and will) tell them that they were conceived via IVF. But, the choice is yours.

[unexplained infertility]

Good Morning All

Friday is here!!! I am leaving work early today. Yay!

IMBlessed- my only but huge concern is that I don't want my daughter or son be worried that they might not be able to conceive (fertilty problems can be genetic). Because worrying about it does not help to conceive (dont we all know that?) so amybe it would be better to tell them AFTER they have their own kids. On the other hand, I completely agree with what you wrote. It is just a proof that the baby is so much special.

ANyway, it is still early, and life will show, but I was just wondering...

Have a good weekend.
A lot of U/S are coming on Monday. Keep us posted, ladies.

[LB]

Hi everyone! Glad to hear everyone is doing well!

I have been busy at work and have been feeling really awful the last few days - I agree, I think I would rather throw up than feel nauseous all day. I feel bad complaining because I have been working towards this for so long, but it still stinks!! Be glad if you don't have ms - you are lucky!!

Had another u/s today - I am measuring 8wks, 5dys. They said everything looked good and there is plenty of fluid. They pointed out the head and a little black spot which is the brain - crazy!! The heartbeat was 160 which they said is right. I have an appt with my ob/gyn and should be released from the RE soon. I can't wait to get off the PIOs, they are really hurting these days - very few unbruised spots left!!

Hope everyone has a great weekend!

[Neffi211]

Hey ladies--

Hope everyone is doing well. I am anxiously awaiting my prenatal visit next week and then my u/s the second week in July. I felt a little crappy today, but I wouldn't call in nausea. LB-- sorry to hear you are feeling so awful...hopefully this will only be your first trimester. You guys need to get tickers! Hope everyone has a nice weekend!

[ftg]

LB-sorry you are so sick, but you're right. It will all be worth it in the end. I told my RE if I have to deal with this constipation for this outcome, it will be the best constipation I could ever have! Awesome results on your last U/S!!

Neffi-good luck on your visit. I am betting all results will be great.

I hope you all have a great weekend!

[IMBlessed]

I just had a terrible, terrible scare! I was home eating some lunch earlier and got up to get something to drink....when I went to sit back down I saw a huge blood stain on the chair. I almost lost it! I went rushing upstairs yelling for DH to take me to the ER. When I went to the bathroom, there was so much blood that had soaked thru my undies and my sweats. I quickly got cleaned up, changed my clothes and DH and I rushed off to the ER. I tried to call my nurse on the way, but got her voicemail that she's on leave until Mon. I tried to reach my doctor, but the clinic doesn't answer their phones during lunch time. So, I called their emergency number, but kept losing the call, because we ran into a dead area (I live in the country). When I was finally able to get thru and stay on the line, they connected me to the clinic and they told me not to go to the ER, but to come to the clinic. The clinic is a 40min drive from where I live, so DH turned around and started speeding like crazy. I was so emotional and scared.....emotional, because I didn't know why I was bleeding and scared because DH was driving so darn fast. To add to my worries, we ran into Fri afternoon traffic (which was stop and go) and a sudden thunderstorm (which made it difficult to see). By the time we reached the clinic, the bleeding had stopped. I had an ultrasound with a different doctor and we still saw a healthy little bean with a strong heartbeat. I was so relieved and thanking God. However, the doctor also saw a sac behind my little bean, which had blood around it. Since I had 3 embies transferred, the doctor said that the sac was probably one of the embies that implanted, but didn't make it. He said it was good that the bleeding stopped and that I still have a healthy pregnancy, but to continue to take it easy until I'm beyond the first trimester. Whew, this experience has truly taken a lot out of me today. DH had to keep reassuring me that everything is gonna be fine. I'm just thankful that my little bean is still going strong.

[children]

IMBlessed,

WElcome to the club. What a day for you, I was holding my breath reading your post and was so relieved at the end! BTW, we have a long list of each of us in this forum in page 1 in case you want to catch up with every one.

I am sorry some of you also have ms but i hope it will go away soon. Mine started to be better, i just need to eat and drink slowly and frequently to avoid accidents. Last week, i had to eat crackers before slowly getting out of the bed!

Have a nice weekend, all!

[crogers]

IMBLESSED, I am so glad things are good with you. I almost wanted to cry reading your story. I would have been scared to death as well!

I posted the other day I was feeling bad but I got up this morning and I am feeling really good. If my ms comes and goes then that is completely fine wit me. I have my first u/s Monday to see how many we have and I can't wait to find out!! We are secretly wanting twins but will be blessed with whatever we have. Have a great weekend everyone!!!

[Babysoft]

Hello Pregnant Ladies,

I hope all is well with everyone. First I just want to again congratulate everyone that has graduated to their ob.....best of luck and enjoy the net 8-9 months.

I'm sorry for all of those who have ms...it's a good and bad thiing...you dont want to be sick, but it lets you know that your still preggors...so it's good. I believe ms usually goes away after the 1st trimester so just a little longer.

Now about sex...I haven't been in much of a mood for it! I guess most of it has to do with me worrying about being pregnant and being so happy that I was able to get pregnant. I've prayed a lot about being able to conceive! I've been here since 2004 and I've been ttc since 2001! I have poor egg quality and was turned away by several clinics who didn't want to mess up their statistics!! I was just about to give up after my first ivf...I figured it would be too stressful to go through something like that and not get preggors, so if it didn't work the first time....it would be the last time! But what do you know...we weren't as broke as we thought we were because we did it!!

Anyway...I have a question can anyone tell me when they first saw their fetal pole? I have an u/s on Monday and I should be 6 weeks. I'm wondering what I should see..Im hoping to see the heartbeat..taht would ease my mind so much, but if I could at least see a fetal pole..I'd feel a lot better. I know there was a yolk sac and gs the last u/s...so we'll see!!

Well best of luck to us pregnant ladies..I'll check back in on Monday with my u/s results!!