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Aawww......you are the bestest :D. I got such a warm feeling when reading your posts cause I have friends who really understand what it is like.

The problem is I have always run around for everyone. I would give up all my spare time to help out. And because I can be very organised I would manage things without anyone realising it. Now things have changed and I can't cope like before. I seem to have lost my organisation skills. And I no longer have the enthusiasm for throwing parties. But people still expect me to continue doing things I used to before. And when I don't I've suddenly changed and become mean.

Becks, I can't "talk" to MIL about backing off. Because turns into a sob story of her life and then I'm going to be consoling her and end up apologising :? DH tells her straight. And that results in an argument. Which I can't stand.
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Carolyn, so you're all by yourself till Friday? I know what you mean about the space though. I'd rather have DH at home any time, but I do enjoy those occasional evenings when he's gone out with his mates.

Make sure you eat properly - stuff the diet. And remember not to lift anything heavy - no carrying washing laods. Make the most of your time home...............by doing absolutely nothing.
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Becky, if AF is due anytime, then the scales would show an increase. But if they are the same, that means you have actually lost weight. Does that make any sense? Cause bloating around AF always adds water weight. Why don't you go and find out tonight hun?

My scales show no change, but my clothes feel like I have lost a bit. Dunno - maybe cause the last 2 weeks I went to the gym 3 times a week, and hopefully have become a bit more toned?? :? This week will go out of the window as I have no time.
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Carolyn: Yes, keep ur tummy nice an warm (but no hot water bottle!!) just make it nice an snug - an yes pineapple juice is meant to help with implantation so get drinking young lady - also for ur toilet problems, try cranberry juice, that should help to shift it, as should a nice stroll, get things moving :) xxx

Angel: I understand what ur saying about MIL, but u really need to think of urself, an other people can throw a party (u sound so like me tho, im the same lol, always the orginiser an party thrower) but i also find it hard to take my own advise lol .... but if u say to DH to talk to his mum nice an gently, maybe it will take some pressure off you - u need to be fit an well for ur next go hun an taking on too much is gonna be no good for you - if she puts on the gulit trip - then turn it around on her (not nastily) an explain that u too are having a hard time of it lately an u need a rest - a comprimise must be had or the two of u will be worn out trying to please each other, with her taking an u giving ... please try hun, for your healths sake .... :) Xxxx

Oooo an arc at u going to the gym - theres good u are! Im not home from work until 6.30, an the gym is about 45/55mins away from us - maybe i could walk there an back lol .... i really should get out an walk more often too .... oh all this is so much easier said than done ;) xx

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angel/Becks - I think we were triplets split at birth - I was also the one always running round helping people out - baby sitting for friends etch, throwing parties being organised - DH ut a stop to it and said we needed us time - still do bits and help when desparate but am no longer the first port of call as 'carolyn will be able to help she has no other comitments!' - any way off for a stroll to shop to buy some pinepple jiuce and have a stock of nice and some naughty foods to keep me going - might treat myself to one of thos cream egg twisters - has anyone tried them - I just adore cream eggs :D

will catch you later xx
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Becks, yes trying to get down to the gym more often. Like you I used to get in at 6.30 and then got busy making dinner and after clearing up, had no energy to go to the gym. So I changed my working habits a bit and started cutting back on my lovely morning sleep. I get into work early and leave early and go straight to the gym from work. The days I was working from home, I went in the mornings (I looked at it as using the time saved travelling to work = gym). This week I won't go at all, but hoping to get back to routine next week.

With you car sharing I can understand your difficulty. Could you take an extended lunch break and do a 30 min walk then?
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my-my you've been a busy lot today!!! was going to say "this morning" -- but i think is probably beyond morning over there?? i know we've discussed before -- but i don't recall the hour/time difference???? :shock: i have better things to pay attention to -- ya know?????

my angel sweetie -- i'm so sorry that people are so damn stupid!!! :evil: and you tell your MIL to handle her own social swarrays!!! just think --- she obviously believes that you are a very strong woman and that is why she leans on you................thing is ---- she's right about that!!! you're amazingly strong....helped many of us thru some of our really dark moments.............you'll always be one of our rocks :wink:

carolyn -- appears as though you're enjoying time off thus far eh??? ha, ha!! always love more people coming out to play!!! just keep rubbing your tummy and telling those lil embabies to stay put!! :wink: sticky baby dust hun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what day is official test day anyway???

beck -- you're sounding back to your old self again!! YEAH FOR US!!! so nice that you had such a lovely visit w/ andrea :D my bff of all time (from grade school) is coming to my house end of july for weekend and i'm sure will be much of the same going on!! can't wait!!!!!

a big hello to all my other ladies out there!!!!!!!!!!! so yeah, here it is the 2nd day of my new "10 hour days - 4 day work week" and i'm feeling COMPLETELY exhausted!!!!!!!!! OMG.......i originally thought "no problems!! i can SO handle this"........am already wondering whether i can change back if i want!! ha, ha!! am really only whining -- i'm sure it will take a little time for my body to catch up to what the hell i'm doing!!

talk soon girlies!!!
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wishfull27 wrote:angel/Becks - I think we were triplets split at birth
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

enjoy your stroll. Take it easy though. And have 2 extra treats on Becks and my behalf cause we can't have naughty things :(
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ICSI GIRL wrote: my angel sweetie -- i'm so sorry that people are so damn stupid!!! just think --- she obviously believes that you are a very strong woman and that is why she leans on you................thing is ---- she's right about that!!! you're amazingly strong....helped many of us thru some of our really dark moments.............you'll always be one of our rocks :wink:
Angie, that is so lovely. Now look what you've done - I just had a tear running down my cheek. Thank you sweetie.

As for your 10 hour work day, just give it time. When I initially started getting in early to work, I felt exhausted and hated having to give up on my beauty sleep. But now I feel more energetic. And when I slow down, I just think about the time I am freeing up by doing this.
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WHOA BABY!!! I sure had a lot of catching up to do!!!!

How is everyone today?

I am feeling better. My head is still hurting. Not as bad as Sunday but still there. I dont know, maybe it was from me stressing about DH leaving. Not to sound happy that he is away but I was kind of looking forward to a couple of days by myself but last night was really hard for me. He called me before he went to bed and I freaking cried. I couldnt believe it. I am not a emotional person so this was big for me!! LOL :lol: I didnt let him know though, it would of made him feel so bad.

Carolyn, heck yeah baby. We can chat it up!!! How are you love? Give those embies big hugs for me. So over there you can only transfer 2? You sound like such a healthy person. Gosh, I wish I was more like yoU!!!!

Becky, so sorry you are still not 100%. You need to go to bed early tonight. Try to recover some of your sleep. I also enjoy spending time with my childhood friend. It really is nice. Brings back so many happy memories. How is her bump?

Hi Angel!!! You tell MIL that if she wants to meet this "YANK" to keep it up!!!! Angie and I will come over there and do some major butt kicking. I am so sorry hun. The girls are right though, you need to put you first!

Jayne, how are you? Ready to pop?? :shock: :lol:

OOOHHHHH CHRISS!!!!!!!! WE ARE YOU??????? :(

Angie you are so lucky working 4 10's!!! I wish they would do that here. Gas really is to much! Here it is $3.95. What is it like in Michigan? And YES you have to get computer fixed!!!!!

Ok ladies!! I am at work and will be checking in all day!!!!

SENDING YOU TONS OF STICKY STICKY STICKY EMBIE DUST CAROLYN!!!
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where has everyone gone ... went for a little stroll - got pineapple juice, came home and have slept for 4 hours solid - thought best get up as will never sleep tonight!

Just been looking on internet as next week am going to Bath overnight its my 2 bestest riends (they are twins) 40th birthday) - its abig surrise for them and as one lives in Scotland and other in Cheshire we usally only get together once a year - was initially not going to o though as if original er/ET schedule had stuck it would have been on testing day and as they do not know about IF just could not face making plans for that day - I am sure youa ll understand what I mean :roll:

Anyway as will be testing on 8th and this will be 3/4th July I will be ok - need you to come up with some excuses as to why I cannot go in spa - cos they know I love it and will think it strange - for that reason alone I am only going for the one night and not 2.. need your devious minds to et to work and give me some excuses - one of the twins is a midwife too so got to be careful if reason is anything gynae related :roll:

Mir - how are you ??

Chris - how many days till finish for the sumer?

Becky - how was weigh in?

Icsi - I would love to do 4 10 hour days and alays have a three day weekend - as it is I do 5 10 hour days + and get paid for 40 hours - what joy!!!

Angel - yu go girl with the gym - had a choc chip cookie for tea - been to get weighed and had lost 2lb so have started eating more - feel sick now as had too much :lol: :lol:

Am sue you have all signed off for the night so will catch you all tom xx
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oohhh.....where did you all disappear to yesterday? I couldn't check after my last post and thought I'd have loads to catch up on.

Carolyn, now what makes you think that WE would have devious minds :? :lol:

Except for pregnancy, I can't think of much else that could actually stop anyone from going to a spa. This is not the best reason, but could you just say that you have a killer AF, therefore can't use most facilities. But as your back is killing you you'll just have a back massage? That might get you out of most things. As for not drinking alcohol, you could just say that AF has also given you a massive migraine and alcohol will make it worse.

Or that you are on anti biotics and therefore can't mix the two. And before you think that I'm devious, can I just say that a friend used anti biotics as an excuse for not drinking on her own birthday as she had just found out she was pregnant. Needless to say, I started suspecting then, but not many others thought about it.

I wish I was as good as you. If one cookie makes you feel like you've eaten too much, I feel like an absolute pig.
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Becky how did your weigh in go? Are we going to see a new ticker? Hope you're feeling better and the bug has cleared now.

Angie - come and play. You've only got tomorrow and then you're off for the weekend. Go get your computer fixed today missy.

Miracle - headache cleared now? Aaaww....bless you, you seem to miss your DH so much. When you achieve your dream of having a baby in future you can tell him/ her about your sacrifices for them :D
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mornin angel my sweets!!! you sound like you're feeling MUCH better :wink: and just as you said to carolyn -- OMG, i don't thing i've EVER in my whole life eaten only ONE choco chip cookie!!! in MY world -- there is a 2 minimum rule!!! ha, ha, ha!! (and my ass is evidence of that as well!!!) :D i think you also asked about breaking during my new 10 hour days --- meant to answer properly the other day - but forgot :? no - we are not REQUIRED to take a break.....so i just usually eat lunch at my desk -- shut my door and have a little "me" time!!! i'm not so sure my body is going to adjust though....holy-moly....last night i fell asleep on the sofa by 7pm and dh was waking me up around 10 to go to bed.....slept thru the night right into this morning when i had to get up at 4:45am and do it all over again!!! we'll see..... :?

carolyn.....oh what fun!! a 40th bday celebration of bestest friends!!! i do like angel's ideas of killer headache or antibiotics --- she's a true sneak that one!!! :wink:

hiya mir!!! feeling better girl??? headache all gone??? and how did you do on phone w/ dh last night -- any more tears :cry: poor thing.... is this the first time he's worked away from home??? that's always the hardest -- the "first" times....how far away is he anyway?? what does he do -- construction??? so you asked about gas prices in Michigan --- on my way into work today i see they've fallen to the bargain price of $3.97 a gallon!!! :shock: was 4.15 last week -- so i guess i shouldn't be bitching......and yes, my work is offering the 4x10's on account of gas prices.....helps some more than others obviously -- depending on how far they drive to work....for ME -- it will add up to savings of about 200 FEWER miles/month = $35.....not much - but i'll take it!!!

beck ---- hello my queen!!! you're awfully quiet these days....everything ok??? feeling any better yet??? and what about your weigh in --- have you lost more lbs?????

ok girls.....i'm off to start my work stuff for the day...boss is out of town for meeting today --- should be pretty laid back --- WOO-HOO!!!!! :P
:-) Angie
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Good morning/afternoon!!!!

Well, Angel you are one quick thinker. I was trying to think of a way out for Carolyn and I just couldnt think of one. Yes, my headache is much better today. I get them everyday, but Sundays was really bad. I am going back to the DR for them. I am so tired of them!!! How are you? Did you get your MIL problem all situated??

Hi Carolyn!!! Boy, it is a good thing we have a "DEVIOUS ANGEL" with us...right!!! :lol: :lol: She is no good that one!! How are you feeling? Been snuggling and talking to those sweet embies?

Angie!!!! YEAH you will be able to play more today!!!! HOORAY!!!!! WOW gas is really high there! I was complaining about my 3.95!!! Yes, this is the first time DH has been out of town working. He is down south, about 4 hours away. Yes, he is a pipe foreman in construction. He puts in all the underground utilities. It was better last night, thanks for asking!! :wink: Felt like a big baby Monday night!!! :oops:

OOOOHHHHHH BECKY & CHRISS!!!!!!! WHERE ARE YOUUUUUUUUUU??????
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