Me working from home too
Must admit haven't been too productive yet. Was it snowing down your side this morning?
Bummer about DH being away from Velentines. When is your appt in Prague?
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Becky i'm so sorry you come and vent when ever you need to cause thats what we are all here for i still cant believe this has happened to you its so unfair i cry every time i read a post from you cause i know you are hurting so much right know and i know nothing will help take your hurt away 
but just know we are here for you
lots of love to you and brain
Rachel x x x
but just know we are here for you lots of love to you and brain
Rachel x x x
Becky,
We must have posted at the same time. Just saw your post now. I'm so so sorry. I do hope you have taken some time off work to recover, physically and emotionally.
I don't know if anyone has the answers to your WHY? I wish we did.
I know you'll always remember your little beanie in your heart, but I do hope with passing time, your hurt lessens.
We must have posted at the same time. Just saw your post now. I'm so so sorry. I do hope you have taken some time off work to recover, physically and emotionally.
I don't know if anyone has the answers to your WHY? I wish we did.
I know you'll always remember your little beanie in your heart, but I do hope with passing time, your hurt lessens.
hi ho ladies!!!
Sophie!! Man, i missed you. I was wondering when you would pop in again. I am sorry to hear you didnt have a great time with your family. That just stinks. But, I am glad you all were able to talk and communicate about things.
How are the furbabies?? I bet they missed you guys terribly when you left!! Our Christmas was exhausting, but very nice. We have two different homes to go to on Christmas Day. We go to his parents in the morning. Then in the afternoon, we go to my parents. I bring my furbabies to my parents. They love them as much as we do. And I would feel horrible leaving them all day. They would be so sad.
Hi there Angie. I feel ya sister!! I am going to be busy today as well.
Hey Angel! How are you doing? You havent really talked about it much...I hope you are confiding in someone. Thinking of you as always love!!
Rachel! You are such a sweetheart. How are you doing?
Hey Wishfull!! Sorry I wasnt around earlier. Not sure how much I will be around later either. I have a lot of work to do.
How much longer till your appointment? So Dh is going to Saudi? As in Saudi Arabia??
Ok ladies...I will try and check back in a little while. Big hugs to you all!!
Sophie!! Man, i missed you. I was wondering when you would pop in again. I am sorry to hear you didnt have a great time with your family. That just stinks. But, I am glad you all were able to talk and communicate about things.
How are the furbabies?? I bet they missed you guys terribly when you left!! Our Christmas was exhausting, but very nice. We have two different homes to go to on Christmas Day. We go to his parents in the morning. Then in the afternoon, we go to my parents. I bring my furbabies to my parents. They love them as much as we do. And I would feel horrible leaving them all day. They would be so sad.
Hi there Angie. I feel ya sister!! I am going to be busy today as well.
Hey Angel! How are you doing? You havent really talked about it much...I hope you are confiding in someone. Thinking of you as always love!!
Rachel! You are such a sweetheart. How are you doing?
Hey Wishfull!! Sorry I wasnt around earlier. Not sure how much I will be around later either. I have a lot of work to do.
How much longer till your appointment? So Dh is going to Saudi? As in Saudi Arabia??Ok ladies...I will try and check back in a little while. Big hugs to you all!!
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yes we had snow this morning - still here bt more icy than snowAngel505 wrote:
Me working from home too
Was it snowing down your side this morning?
Bummer about DH being away from Velentines. When is your appt in Prague?
We go to Prague next Thursday
- it seems to have come round soooo quickly !1Have you started new health regime today??##I have and am peeing for england !!!
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You're such a sweetie Mir.Miracle08 wrote:
Hey Angel! How are you doing? You havent really talked about it much...I hope you are confiding in someone. Thinking of you as always love!!
Nope not confiding in anyone. Don't know why but I seem to have shut my feelings away somewhere this time round. I haven't even been able to talk to DH. I know its not fair, but I strongly feel that unless someone has gone through this rollercoaster themselves, they won't understand what I am feeling. Its not true, and I am fully aware that people who love me are in pain because I am in pain. The main thing is that I myself don't know how I feel. I guess this is what people mean when they say "numb with pain". All I know is that I don't feel happy, and everytime I see a bump or a baby, it reminds me of our situation.
Anyway, enough babbling about me. You mentioned that you were going to start tmt in summer. You looking forward to it?
Hi Angel,
I understand how you feel. People that have no idea what infertility does to you does not understand how you hurt. I hope you feel a little different towards the girls here. I know that I havent had any treatment yet but all of the others have. I just worry about you keeping it all in. That cannot be good. Just remember, you feel free to vent or talk about anything you want here. I also understand about you not being able to talk to your DH. When I get a little down when seeing all the bumps and sweet babies my Dh will ask me what is wrong, and sometimes i feel like I hurt more then he does. I mean, I know how desperately he wants a child, but I feel like it breaks my heart everyday and his on occasions. Do I make sense?? Anyway, I am not thinking about our tmt yet. I am just scared something will come up and we wont be able to start again. So, it is there in the back of my mind. Of course I think about it...a lot. Yesterday I went to a friends child b day party. She turned four. She has a sister who just turned one. Of course there were babies and newborns and toddlers everywhere. I just wanted to take them home with me. I love them. Another friend of mine was their and she just had her baby boy. He is 2 months old. She offered to let me hold him, but I declined. I know if I held him the waterworks would have definitely turned on...he was so sweet. He weighs 17 pounds already!!!
But anyway...babies...cant live with them...we cant live with out them...
I understand how you feel. People that have no idea what infertility does to you does not understand how you hurt. I hope you feel a little different towards the girls here. I know that I havent had any treatment yet but all of the others have. I just worry about you keeping it all in. That cannot be good. Just remember, you feel free to vent or talk about anything you want here. I also understand about you not being able to talk to your DH. When I get a little down when seeing all the bumps and sweet babies my Dh will ask me what is wrong, and sometimes i feel like I hurt more then he does. I mean, I know how desperately he wants a child, but I feel like it breaks my heart everyday and his on occasions. Do I make sense?? Anyway, I am not thinking about our tmt yet. I am just scared something will come up and we wont be able to start again. So, it is there in the back of my mind. Of course I think about it...a lot. Yesterday I went to a friends child b day party. She turned four. She has a sister who just turned one. Of course there were babies and newborns and toddlers everywhere. I just wanted to take them home with me. I love them. Another friend of mine was their and she just had her baby boy. He is 2 months old. She offered to let me hold him, but I declined. I know if I held him the waterworks would have definitely turned on...he was so sweet. He weighs 17 pounds already!!!
But anyway...babies...cant live with them...we cant live with out them...
Hello lovely ladies!
Becky,
The worst part is over sweetie, it really is. You're right, going to the clinic and have the confirmation that everything is out gives you a sense of closure and that is vital. It doesn't make the experience any easier, and nope, most professionals absolutely don't get the fact that you lost a BABY and not a bunch of cells. We're there for you sweetie... *HUGS*
Carolyn,
Hey, so unfair! I replied to your post yesterday and you said that no one was around!
Wow, Prague next week already? So cool!!! How is work? LOL and what kind of regime makes you pee so much??? Drinking lots of water I guess?
Angie,
Hi girl! Oh, it's always so GREAT to have you around, even for a quickie! Come back soon!!!
Angel,
I read your post and I understand you too. During hard times, and even now, most people around me are unable to understand what I've been through. Some tried, but most failed. I think it's like that in general, when you think about it. Each person goes through their own experiences with their own points of view. Sometimes, it's similar to yours and you feel they understand you more easily, sometimes it's very different and you feel that they can't help you. I don't think there's a good and bad way to deal with that, it's a personal choice. About keeping it inside, well... I can say from experience that "talking about it" is not always the best option, even if so many people believe it is (thanks, pop-psycho!). If numbing your emotions is what's happening right now, then it means it's what you need right now to keep your sanity and keep functioning. Forcing you out of it might make matters worse. Numbing will never solve problems, but it's protecting you now. Eventually, you'll come out of it, either gradually or something will act as a catalyst. Respect your rhythm. Sometimes, when I feel like I can't really speak about something with anyone because they won't understand, writing it down helps. It structures my thoughts and many times I'm surprised to find new explanations to how I think or feel. Hence my long posts, LOL! Bottom line is, don't feel guilty for not doing this or that. There is no one good way to deal with a BFN. Respect your limits, but don't let this unhappiness drag for too long. It's one thing to numb a part of you and bury it for a while, it's another thing to feel unhappy in all the other areas of your life. *HUGS*
Miracle,
Hi girl!! So happy to see you around! Aw, you're such a sweetie, I missed you too you know! Your Xmas card stayed on my mantlepiece and I often had a thought for you, DH and your furbabies during the holidays! By the way, did you receive mine?? Yeah, the family reunion we had will have lots of consequences, some bad I'm afraid. But despite all that, I still think it's for the best. Some things need to be said, period. At least I have my husband and furbabies to come back to; we love our love nest and we have a very healthy relationship! That's a start! I'm so glad you got to celebrate with Mollie and Charlie!!! Did they get nice presents? Daria and Toulouse got a new rope to munch on (still have to teach them to munch on THAT instead of, say, the carpet, the doorframe, and so on!) and homemade cookies!
Okay ladies, take care!
Sophie xxox
Becky,
The worst part is over sweetie, it really is. You're right, going to the clinic and have the confirmation that everything is out gives you a sense of closure and that is vital. It doesn't make the experience any easier, and nope, most professionals absolutely don't get the fact that you lost a BABY and not a bunch of cells. We're there for you sweetie... *HUGS*
Carolyn,
Hey, so unfair! I replied to your post yesterday and you said that no one was around!
Wow, Prague next week already? So cool!!! How is work? LOL and what kind of regime makes you pee so much??? Drinking lots of water I guess?Angie,
Hi girl! Oh, it's always so GREAT to have you around, even for a quickie!
Come back soon!!!Angel,
I read your post and I understand you too. During hard times, and even now, most people around me are unable to understand what I've been through. Some tried, but most failed. I think it's like that in general, when you think about it. Each person goes through their own experiences with their own points of view. Sometimes, it's similar to yours and you feel they understand you more easily, sometimes it's very different and you feel that they can't help you. I don't think there's a good and bad way to deal with that, it's a personal choice. About keeping it inside, well... I can say from experience that "talking about it" is not always the best option, even if so many people believe it is (thanks, pop-psycho!). If numbing your emotions is what's happening right now, then it means it's what you need right now to keep your sanity and keep functioning. Forcing you out of it might make matters worse. Numbing will never solve problems, but it's protecting you now. Eventually, you'll come out of it, either gradually or something will act as a catalyst. Respect your rhythm. Sometimes, when I feel like I can't really speak about something with anyone because they won't understand, writing it down helps. It structures my thoughts and many times I'm surprised to find new explanations to how I think or feel. Hence my long posts, LOL!
Bottom line is, don't feel guilty for not doing this or that. There is no one good way to deal with a BFN. Respect your limits, but don't let this unhappiness drag for too long. It's one thing to numb a part of you and bury it for a while, it's another thing to feel unhappy in all the other areas of your life. *HUGS*Miracle,
Hi girl!! So happy to see you around! Aw, you're such a sweetie, I missed you too you know! Your Xmas card stayed on my mantlepiece and I often had a thought for you, DH and your furbabies during the holidays!
By the way, did you receive mine?? Yeah, the family reunion we had will have lots of consequences, some bad I'm afraid. But despite all that, I still think it's for the best. Some things need to be said, period. At least I have my husband and furbabies to come back to; we love our love nest and we have a very healthy relationship! That's a start! I'm so glad you got to celebrate with Mollie and Charlie!!! Did they get nice presents? Daria and Toulouse got a new rope to munch on (still have to teach them to munch on THAT instead of, say, the carpet, the doorframe, and so on!) and homemade cookies! Okay ladies, take care!
Sophie xxox
1st and 2nd IVF = BFN 1st FET BFP! m/c at 7 weeks. 2nd FET BFP! 3rd FET BFN
Now let's spend the rest of our lives having fun together!
Now let's spend the rest of our lives having fun together!
Hi Sophie!
Yes, I did receive your Christmas card. I thought it was really cute that you translated it.
Yes, Mollie and Charlie had a very nice Christmas. My Dad and his girlfriend got them each a stocking filled with toys, my sister got them new collars and each a warm blankey!! Charlie boy LOVES his blankeys. It is so cute. My Mom and her husband got them a "manicure set" and "gourmet Christmas cookies!!!"
Mommy and Daddy (me and DH ) got them a bunch of Nyla bones and some Kong toys. They loved it. They are so spoiled. But that is ok.
That is so cute Toulouse and Daria got a new rope. I bet they love it!!! They will learn what to chew on and what not to...All in time!
Yes, I did receive your Christmas card. I thought it was really cute that you translated it.
Yes, Mollie and Charlie had a very nice Christmas. My Dad and his girlfriend got them each a stocking filled with toys, my sister got them new collars and each a warm blankey!! Charlie boy LOVES his blankeys. It is so cute. My Mom and her husband got them a "manicure set" and "gourmet Christmas cookies!!!"
Mommy and Daddy (me and DH
) got them a bunch of Nyla bones and some Kong toys. They loved it. They are so spoiled. But that is ok. That is so cute Toulouse and Daria got a new rope. I bet they love it!!! They will learn what to chew on and what not to...All in time!
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hiya
Well survived the dya without the alptop going out the window
Just seen weather and we have forecast for more snow and hard frost - bloody typical as have to be up and out by 6am - arghhh it is so darn cold today - had fire lit all day even had to go get more coal but it is sooo cosy - going to get in the bath read a trash magazine and then snuggle in bed and watch celebrity BB - more trash and I love it !!!
Sophie - are you getting all organised now - remind me ahve you done the nursery yet?
Mir - you must gt a plan in place for treatment .. we need to be able to support and encourage you like you support and encourage all us xxx
Angel - know where your coming rom but sometimes best to vent - you know we are here for you honey xx - thought anymore bout another cycle??
Rachel - I can't believe how time flies - you are nearly 13 weeks - are you feeling any better in yourself or still quite hormonal and emotional ?? - bet ruby is keeping you on your toes though !!! - have you told work yet ??
Icsi - too busy to play - hey thats no excuse - any news for DH on job front??
Becky - in my thoughts and I know words won't help but thinking of you honey xxx
Shantala/Jayne - hope all ok
Catch you all later xx
Well survived the dya without the alptop going out the window
Just seen weather and we have forecast for more snow and hard frost - bloody typical as have to be up and out by 6am - arghhh it is so darn cold today - had fire lit all day even had to go get more coal but it is sooo cosy - going to get in the bath read a trash magazine and then snuggle in bed and watch celebrity BB - more trash and I love it !!!
Sophie - are you getting all organised now - remind me ahve you done the nursery yet?
Mir - you must gt a plan in place for treatment .. we need to be able to support and encourage you like you support and encourage all us xxx
Angel - know where your coming rom but sometimes best to vent - you know we are here for you honey xx - thought anymore bout another cycle??
Rachel - I can't believe how time flies - you are nearly 13 weeks - are you feeling any better in yourself or still quite hormonal and emotional ?? - bet ruby is keeping you on your toes though !!! - have you told work yet ??
Icsi - too busy to play - hey thats no excuse
- any news for DH on job front??Becky - in my thoughts and I know words won't help but thinking of you honey xxx
Shantala/Jayne - hope all ok
Catch you all later xx
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