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Hi Angel, glad you had a nice break away sounds like you both did lots of talking and relaxing and you know what :wink:

Sophie, What a beautiful blanket! as Carolyn said you are so talented, I would not have the patience to sit for so long.....
I can just imagine you sitting in front of the baby things thinking is this really me sat here looking at this stuff and yes I can actually buy it and will soon be using it!!! I guess when we have gone through so much to get our precious gift we can perhaps appreciate all of the planning and preparation before they arrive even more than we would have done if we had not struggled so much.
So can you fill us in a bit more on what the taste meditation involves sounds really interesting, have done guided visual meditations but thats all really.

Hi Carolyn, has AF shown up yet?

Hi to Miracle, Renee, Becky, Angie hope you are all ok......

Okay some advice needed..... We caught out our 15yr old stealing money out of a bottle we put loose change in this weekend, we do know she has done things like this before elsewhere and has never owned up to it. Well she did admit it in the end, and we talked about it. She did say she has never admitted something like this before and has never said sorry either and she can't believe she is admitting it to us and saying sorry to us. We did all the praise bit about telling the truth etc and did not go mad at her as this is what has happened previously and nothing has ever been resolved, however what we have done is said as she has admitted it we will forget about it and give her a second chance and start afresh, my difficulty is I now am going to be nervous about leaving her in the house alone now, but feel I have to do so to give her a proper second chance as we have said. I don't want to put locks on our doors or move the bottle as then she is not being given the responsibility to be trustworthy and prove herself to be so but then I still don't know her well enough to know if we are doing the right thing. She has only been with us for 13 weeks, how can I keep a check on her without her suspecting I am when we leave her in the house alone? Any ideas would be greatly appreciated I have not had experience of this before.......

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hi girls!! am really quite hating my work right now!! :evil: although, have an overwhelming feeling of needing to bite my tongue on account of how absolutely awful the economy is right now and seems every night on eve news --- another round of "big" companies are letting people go!!! so i've been on the "i feel damn lucky to have a job" kick lately.....

don't have a ton of time --- but wanted to pop in and say hello...that i've been reading and thinking of you all!!!!!

soph --- WOW!!!! guess i know who i need to put my order in with soon as i get my baby!! you really are 'martha stewart' on the side!!! :wink: and so nice to put a face to the name -- or should i just call you cookie monster!?? ha, ha!!

angel -- nice to have ya back hun!! sorry i can't stay and play... is major bummer dude! sounds like you and dh had some nice conversations (and other "stuff" :wink: ) while on holiday ----- i just imagine you taking a deep breath in ----- and then ooooouuuuuuutttt!!!!! and that's how great vaca was!!!!

carolyn ----- no time for dancing pics -- -but know that i'm standing here doing a little jig for af's arrival!!! always said it was the funniest damn thing that any other time we hate her arrival!!! and for the record -- i was saying OUCH as i read about the swab-torture-kit for dh!!!! NOT FUN!! maybe you should kiss it and make it feel better??? :wink:

lee -- sounds like terrible TEENS to me!!! sounds like you're doing everything you SHOULD BE doing......am guessing is just going to take some good old fashioned time....maybe our resident martha stewart -- i mean, soph, can offer some advice on this one!! my heart goes out to you!!

mir ---- TOO COOL!!!!!!!!!!!! she's goin' back to school!!! YOU GO GIRL!! is it a specific program that will take "x" amount of time to complete or is it more of a just getting classes started??? YEAH!!!!!

to all my other lovelies --- HELLO!!!!!!! love and hugs to all!!!
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Good morning ladies!

Whooooaaaa... I feel so weird this morning!!! Had to do the glucose test this morning and the weird fuzzy drink they had me drink made me sleepy and dizzy. Really flying high on sugar right now! :? :shock: :D

Thanks for your comments about the blanket and such... :oops: Really, I'm happy and grateful you asked to see all that, you're amazing ladies, we've shared a lot during the last months and I'm so honored and happy to share that with you! You're a blessing! *smooch**hugs* Thank you so much for your kindness and generosity!

It's so great to see so many posts this morning! I missed you guys!

Carolyn,
Hey sweetie! Sorry DH's wee-wee was sore yesterday.... :( but you,re right, it's small compared to the needles and ER! :) Still, I've heard that it's no longer necessary to stick a q-tip up a man,s urethra to do the clam test. Apparently, a blood test is all they need now. Ah, well, maybe you shouldn't tell him! ;) I guess AF hasn't shown up yet, the bad bad girl... I'll keep dancing!

Miracle,
Sorry to hear you're still super busy at work... awwwww I really miss your posts girlie! Have you had any other unpleasant interactions with that cow you have to call a colleague? :D DH doesn't really rub my belly, no. I think there's many reasons. One of them is that he probably thinks it's no use; the baby usually stops moving when someone puts a hand on my belly, or even when I lift my shirt to look at my belly in case I would see something move. Sure, I'd like him to be a bit more interested by my belly, give it kisses, talk to it, but he's just not like that. The baby is real to him, but he's the kind of man who'll wait to meet him in person before getting attached to him. He's still very demonstrative and tender, but I think he prefers rubbing my two other bumps... ;)

Law studies?? WOW! That's a fantastic project!!!! AND YOU START WEDNESDAY? Will you have to leave your job? Whoa, this is a complete surprise! GO GIRL!!!! :D:D:D

Lee,
Thanks for your kind words, you're very sweet. You're so right, and I didn't expect it, not that much, but the struggle to conceive really makes a difference when you prepare for the baby's arrival. The pregnancy itself is sometimes a bit unreal to me still, go figure, but the preparation, that's something else. I just could not assume I would see a stroller and car seat in my house one day, and to see it there... it just hits you again and again. I keep everything crossed so the wonderful ladies on this thread can all experience that one day.

For the taste meditation, I prepared 5 tiny bowls with lime juice (sour), dark chocolate (bitter), salt+water, brown sugar+water and tabasco. We began with the salt, and we dipped a q-tip in the liquid, closed our eyes, and explored the taste by putting the q-tip on the tip, sides and back of our tongue, and on the blind spot in the middle. Then we shared the images, colors, impressions, thoughts, sounds, chakra activations we had experienced, and so on. It was fascinating to see how each person, in turn, experienced similar or completely opposite things while exploring a taste. It was very basic, but it showed me how going back to the basics can sometimes have powerful impacts on people.

As for your teenager, wow, it's a toughie... first off, you seem to have done all the right things from the start. That young woman is very lucky to have a sensitive and skilled person like you and DH by her side. You,re in the tricky part; she's betrayed your trust and you want to give her a second chance, but you now know that she's betrayed you once. I think it's a very good thing that she's admitted to stealing to you, and in other foster families. However, I think it would also be fair that she understands the consequences of her actions. The tricky part is that you don't want her to understand that bad things happen when you admit that you did something wrong. But you can sure learn that, when you did something wrong, you have to face the consequences of your actions.

Why don't you pose that dilemma... to her? I'm sure there would be a way to have a normal, non-blaming conversation, and just tell her that you're faced with a dilemma. That, on one hand, you do want to give her a second chance, and you don't want to send her the message that you've turned against her because of what she did. But you're also faced with the fact that she stealed in the past, and she stealed again this time. It's your house, your stuff, and you don't want things to happen behind your back and now, you have no way of knowing if it will happen again or not. But at the same time, you know it might hurt her feelings if you start putting locks and hiding your stuff or become too controlling. In a word, you're a bit stuck. So, what would she do if she were in your situation?

The conversation you've already had with her suggests you can find the right tone, and a way to get to her (kudos to you girl!!!). That way, she'd participate to the decisions instead of just being imposed a change of atmosphere or behavior in the house as the result of what she did and said... Please, keep me posted about what you decided and how it went, because I'm very curious about this. Good luck! :)

Angie!
So great to have news sweetie! :D:D Yipee! LOL I agree with you; Carolyn should definitely kiss it better, LOL! :lol: Ya naughty minx! :) Sorry about the situation at work... hey, I think it's okay to feel that way. Yes, we're lucky to have a job, but still... that doesn't mean we have pleasant ones, certainly not every day! I'm sending you LOTS of good vibes darlin'! How is DH? Does he have any plans for the next weeks?

Okay ladies! Time to work a little... I've been buried under a pile of emails at work! ;) Lots of typing to do!

Take care lovelies, and I'll be around today! Then tomorrow... off to the convention and back on Friday!

Love,

Sophie xxox
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Hi ladies where to start cause you have been quite busy

Mir good luck with your degree how long will it take to do so your going to be busy busy from now on then hope you dont forget us

Angie sorry your hating your job but like you said it good that you still have 1 any news on when you will do more tmt

Carolyn hope af has arrived or arrives soon when will you get all your test results back time will soon fly though

Angel glad you had a good hol but back to work i bet it feels like you havent been away

Sophie the pics of all your handy work are fab any baby would beproud to sleep in that and you are looking good

Becks hugs to you and brian x x

Jayne sorry you are having a bit of crap time any news on your staff


Hi to all you other ladies lee and rennee hope your all doing ok

Well ruby had her 9 month check up yesterday all well expect he could here a mummer so have to go back in a month to see if it is stil there hopefully it will be gone i got my hrs at work so pleased about that i'm really dreading the thought of going back but its only for 13 wks i cant wait to finish i havent even gone back yet
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Hi Rachel!

So great to hear from you! Thanks for your comments, you're very sweet! :D Tee hee hee, I bet going back to work won't be so bad, given that you'll expect to leave 13 weeks later! Yippee! I really hope little ruby passes her next check with flying colors! Go Ruby! :)

Lee,

I talked about your dilemma to a few colleagues, because I found it so interesting. One of my colleagues, who is a mother of 3 and a grandma, suggested something very interesting. She said it might be a good idea for that teenager to understand why she's stealing stuff. Maybe she does it to get more attention, even if negative, because being ignored hurts so much more. Or maybe she does it because she wants instant gratification. Or maybe she does it because she already has such a low self-esteem and self-worth that she doesn,t bother making the effort to become someone better because she gave up already. Definitely worth exploring, with her.

My colleague also said it might be a good idea to ask her what she would do with the money she stole. Check what her aspirations are, and maybe start the old "piggy bank" thing with her... so, if she has plans, or projects, or activities that she really cares about, she might learn to save money instead of stealing it. And, maybe, that whole "I trust you" message that you want to send her might be sent through the pocket money you'd give her? Not sure if I'm making myself clear or not, just tell me. Lastly, she suggested that putting her in charge of the house when you leave, give her that specific responsability, because you trust her, might help with her self-esteem and help her behave better.

Hope it helps!

Take care ladies,

Sophie xxox
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I am BBBBBBAAAAACCCCKKKKKK... :lol: 8)

So glad to see more posts!!! WHOOHOO!!!

Rachel: Oh my gosh...I would NEVER forget you ladies. Nor am I forgetting my dream of being a Mommy!!! It shouldnt be too bad. I am only taking two classes at a time. AND everything is ONLINE!!! Isnt that awesome??? I have to go to "class" on Wed @ 8pm and Tues @ 7PM. I just log on to the seminar. It is kind of like instant messaging...I think. i will know more tomorrow. It will take me 18 months to get my AS degree and a total of 3 years to get my bachelors degree, which is what my goal is. I have always wanted to get my degree in law but I just never had the determination and discipline. I wish I was more like my sister. She went straight out of high school. Oh well...coulda, shoulda, woulda...! Oh no...Ruby might have a murmur??? Are they really concerned?? You seem to be handling it well. How is the pregnancy going? And your mental health? Are you doing better love??? I always think about you. And everytime you post and I see your tickers...one for Ruby and one for the miracle baby...well it just makes me smile. Big HUGS friend!!! Love hearing from you!!!!

Angie: MAN WOMAN!!! You really are working too hard. I am so sorry. I know what you mean about feeling thankful for having a job. My DH has a really crap boss and although we are VERY VERY thankful he is working, I get so angry it is at my DH expense. His boss treats his guys horrible. And if they call him on it, he says if you dont like it quite, there are 100 more guys that would thankfully take your job. Although he is correct I think it is very insulting and degrading. Employers are wrong for taking advantage of their employees while the economy is soooo bad. It is just awful. Darn...was AI on last night?? If so, I missed it. I will try and catch it tonight. How is DH and his legs?? Any hope on the job issue?? Have you brought up using DS to him again? Or are you not open to it either?

Angel: So...if you dont mind me asking, do you have anything in mind if you are having tmt again? If you dont want to answer that, I totally understand. I just cant wait for you, Carolyn & Becky to get your bfps. It is way past due.

Lee: WHOO BABY...I think Sophie is the right one to answer that. I am terribly sorry for what you are dealing with right now. That has to be pretty devasting when someone you trust takes advantage. However, I think you and DH handled the situation awesome!!!! Hats off to you lady!!!
Keep us posted on the situation.

Carolyn: I am hoping to hear that AF has arrived. My bootie is getting tired from all this dancing... :wink: I am so excited for you honey!! THis is going to be it for you. I can feel it!!! How is work?

Sophie: You are so smart!!! I love how you go to your colleagues to get their opinion on something for us girls here. You are so thoughtful!!! About the belly thing, I dont see my DH all lovey dovey with my belly, (if I ever have one) either. I agree, it is much more real when they see the baby in person!!! Oh, thanks for posting that webiste on the other thread. That is awesome. I have it bookmarked. My DH and I thought that we had made the decision on not telling our child it was conceived through DS. But sometimes I wonder...I wonder if that is the right decision...I wonder what if the child finds out somehow...how devestating that would be!!! We arent telling ANYONE that we are planning to use DS. Well...only you girls... :D :lol: :lol: :lol: But still...what happens if for some medical reason that is comes out?? I worry and think about the what if's all time. And like any DH I think my DH's biggest worry is the child rejecting him. AHHHH....WHY DO WE HAVE TO FACE INFERTILITY??????? Anyway...hope you have a great day lovey!!

Ok, so about school. Thank you, everyone for your well wishes. I have really been thinking and researching going back to school for a while. I really dont know why i havent metioned it. Maybe I am a little embarressed. All you girls are so smart and educated already... :oops: But like I told Rachel, it will take me 3 years to finish my bachelor's degree. I really wanted to go back to school but I also felt with the economy that I needed to. I want to be able to support DH and I if he gets laid off...I just want to be more prepared. He and I never thought we would see the day of him getting laid off and having such a tough time finding and keeping a job. It was a rude awakening. :(
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So, I have decided to go back to school. I start Wednesday. I am going for a degree in law studies. I love that kind of stuff. I am excited, nervous and ready all at the same time... :shock: :shock: :shock:
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am sooo proud of you Mir - it is a huge commitment to take on alongside work but will be worht it in the end - my DH is dyslexic and left school without any qualifications - h managed to do an HND at like 20 and since we been together he used to look at my graduation pic and say I want one - he did an Open University course and graduated 2 years ago ... I was so proud of him :lol:

we will all cheer you on in cyber world xx
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What a sweet story about your DH. That is awesome. I bet he is so proud of himself.

Thanks for all your postive support. You are the best!!! :D
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Sara30 wrote: Okay some advice needed.....
Lee xx
lee - big up you and Dh that its the first time she has admitted it - you have obviously formed a huge bond with her in a real short time :lol:

Understand where you are coming from though - I think you need to trust her - maybe count the money and see if it moves ?/ - don't know its a real difficult one - Soph has given some good advice I read though !!

Thinking of you xx
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ICSI GIRL wrote:carolyn ----- no time for dancing pics -- -but know that i'm standing here doing a little jig for af's arrival!!! always said it was the funniest damn thing that any other time we hate her arrival!!! and for the record -- i was saying OUCH as i read about the swab-torture-kit for dh!!!! NOT FUN!! maybe you should kiss it and make it feel better??? :wink:
don't you even go there encouraging him!! - he often checks the boards to see hwat i put about him ... paranoid!!

sorry work is ooooh so busy - but like you say at difficult economic times we have to be grateful for our jobs however shit they are at times :roll: :twisted:

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Carolyn-
oh so we better not let him know you PM us with juicy stuff?? :lol:
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PMApsy wrote: Carolyn,
Hey sweetie! Sorry DH's wee-wee was sore yesterday.... :( but you,re right, it's small compared to the needles and ER! :) Still, I've heard that it's no longer necessary to stick a q-tip up a man,s urethra to do the clam test. Apparently, a blood test is all they need now. Ah, well, maybe you shouldn't tell him! ;) I guess AF hasn't shown up yet, the bad bad girl... I'll keep dancing!
Sophie xxox
apparently our local hospital does not do it with blood at moment for some reason - thats what nurse told me yesterday!!!
Like they say ... no pain no gain!!!

Have a fab time at convention - well massage and realx - hope the rest is not too boring xxx
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Rachel - hope all is ok with Ruby - and 13 weeks to work - yipeeeeee!!

Angel - you appeared and disappeared - hope work not too bad xx

Becky - hugs honey xxx

Well still no AF - got the bloating, sore boobies and cramps but nothing else :roll: :roll: :twisted: so ladies please keep dancing !!!
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Hi Mir - just noticed you posted inbetween - yous till there ???
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mir - spotted by the internet police !!!!!
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