I had my collection yesterday, they got 25 eggs, only 4 were mature enough, all had ICSI, one lysed and the other 3 didn't fertilise...so that's it - I just can't get my head round it. All that money, time, pain, anxiety and I didn't even get to the 2WW. I feel like such a failure. please send me some 2nd time success stories, is it worth going through it all again?
feeling really low, X
all for nothing.
Rebecca, I'm so sorry about your news. I haven't been in your position so can't add much but I'm sure there are other ladeis who can help. You should remember that IVF is not an exact science and all of us are different. It sometimes takes more than one go to get the drug protocol right to maximise our chances of producing eggs and then fertilising them. Your clinic will now at least have some information about how you work and hopefully will adjust your protocol to get a better result next time. I've read about a lot of ladies that do better on subsequent tries. Hang in there! Fee
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rebecca: i am so sorry to hear about your cycle. On my #1 IVF i also didn't make it to ET. It was real hard... feeling, like you said, that all that work, pain and worry and i had nothing to show for it... not even a CHANCE. Well, don't have a bfp story for you (yet!), but did want to tell you that you aren't alone in this. My #s have improved significantly, and the two cycles i have done since i have had blasts for transfer. My protocol has been changed, and now i feel that we have really found the best drug combo for me. So, i am hoping that it at least gives you hope that things can change. Like Fee said... your RE now has more information about you, and a good RE will be able to use that for better results next time. The best of luck to you.
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REBECCAJ:
I WAS IN THE SAME BOAT LAST NOV. 06......12 EGGS, 6 MATURE, NONE FERTILIZED.......I WAS DEVISTATED & CRUSHED. I DIDN'T GIVE UP BECAUSE I FELT HELL IF WE'RE GETTING EGGS AND MY DH'S SPERM WAS GOOD....WE JUST HAVE TO TRY AGAIN AND WE DID. WE DID A FLARE PROTOCAL.....NO LUPRON. I'M 41 & DH IS 37.....WE DID ANOTHER TRY AT IVF AND THIS TIME WE GOT 10 EGGS, 7 MATURE, 4 FERTILIZED!!! WE PUT 2 BLASTS BACK AND WE GOT OUR BFP AND I'M WAITING OUR 1ST ULTRA SOUND NEXT MONDAY! EMOTIONALLY I WASN'T SURE IF WE SHOULD HAVE TRIED SO SOON......FINANCIALLY IT WASN'T GOOD EITHER. TALK TO YOU DH AND RE AND MAKE A PLAN THAT WILL WORK FOR YOU AND I HOPE YOU GUYS CAN TRY AGAIN, I'M SURE GLAD WE DID AND I HOPE YOU GUYS CAN TOO.
PLEASE DON'T BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF, I KNOW THOSE DREADED WORDS OF "UNEXPLAINED INFERTILITY" HAUNTS YOU DAY IN AND DAY OUT, BUT I REALLY FEEL IN MY HEART THAT IT WORKED FOR ME THIS TIME BECAUSE I DID ACUPUNCTURE AND RELAXED AND PUT IT IN GOD'S HANDS......
HUGS AND PRAYERS TO YOU & YOUR DH!!!
I WAS IN THE SAME BOAT LAST NOV. 06......12 EGGS, 6 MATURE, NONE FERTILIZED.......I WAS DEVISTATED & CRUSHED. I DIDN'T GIVE UP BECAUSE I FELT HELL IF WE'RE GETTING EGGS AND MY DH'S SPERM WAS GOOD....WE JUST HAVE TO TRY AGAIN AND WE DID. WE DID A FLARE PROTOCAL.....NO LUPRON. I'M 41 & DH IS 37.....WE DID ANOTHER TRY AT IVF AND THIS TIME WE GOT 10 EGGS, 7 MATURE, 4 FERTILIZED!!! WE PUT 2 BLASTS BACK AND WE GOT OUR BFP AND I'M WAITING OUR 1ST ULTRA SOUND NEXT MONDAY! EMOTIONALLY I WASN'T SURE IF WE SHOULD HAVE TRIED SO SOON......FINANCIALLY IT WASN'T GOOD EITHER. TALK TO YOU DH AND RE AND MAKE A PLAN THAT WILL WORK FOR YOU AND I HOPE YOU GUYS CAN TRY AGAIN, I'M SURE GLAD WE DID AND I HOPE YOU GUYS CAN TOO.
PLEASE DON'T BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF, I KNOW THOSE DREADED WORDS OF "UNEXPLAINED INFERTILITY" HAUNTS YOU DAY IN AND DAY OUT, BUT I REALLY FEEL IN MY HEART THAT IT WORKED FOR ME THIS TIME BECAUSE I DID ACUPUNCTURE AND RELAXED AND PUT IT IN GOD'S HANDS......
HUGS AND PRAYERS TO YOU & YOUR DH!!!
2 FAILED IUI'S
NOV. IVF 2006, CANCELLED NO FERTILIZATION
2ND IVF JAN. 2007, GOT BFP
M/C @ 11 WEEKS
NOV. IVF 2006, CANCELLED NO FERTILIZATION
2ND IVF JAN. 2007, GOT BFP
M/C @ 11 WEEKS
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Rebecca,
Sorry about your cycle. I am in the same situation as you. I am now gearing up to start my 2nd IVF. Please stay hopeful. Your ER might have some great suggestions on doing things differently. When they were doing the ultrasounds were the follicles large enough or were they hoping that the Hcg shot would get them to a good size? I am meeting with my ER tomorrow and I am going to be asking her about coasting in the hopes that it improves my egg quality. I would definitely make a follow up appointment with your ER. Hang in there..I know that is easier said than done. Plenty of people have success the 2nd time because the ER can tweak things a bit. I know that is what I am counting on. Good Luck.
Take care,
Michelle
Sorry about your cycle. I am in the same situation as you. I am now gearing up to start my 2nd IVF. Please stay hopeful. Your ER might have some great suggestions on doing things differently. When they were doing the ultrasounds were the follicles large enough or were they hoping that the Hcg shot would get them to a good size? I am meeting with my ER tomorrow and I am going to be asking her about coasting in the hopes that it improves my egg quality. I would definitely make a follow up appointment with your ER. Hang in there..I know that is easier said than done. Plenty of people have success the 2nd time because the ER can tweak things a bit. I know that is what I am counting on. Good Luck.
Take care,
Michelle
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I can only imagine how disappointed you are but don't give up. Talk to your doctor and see if they think a change in protocol is necessary. If you can produce eggs it can still work. It only takes one!
I just got a BFN yesterday on my first IVF cycle and I understand how sad and empty you feel. All we can do is grieve and then try again. Take some time for yourself and your DH to reconnect and have some fun.
We are all here for you.
I just got a BFN yesterday on my first IVF cycle and I understand how sad and empty you feel. All we can do is grieve and then try again. Take some time for yourself and your DH to reconnect and have some fun.
We are all here for you.
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ladies, thank you so much for all your replies and geckogirl - I am so sorry to hear your news. I felt so low yesterday and the bad pains I have from the collection didn't help either. This morning i feel a little brighter and your replies all helped me to put things into perspective a little better. I was so upset when the doctor called me that I didn't really ask any questions so will call back today and try and work out the next steps.
Good luck to all of you on your cycles, please stay in touch and let me know how you get on. Thank you again, I reallu appreciate all the support.
Rebecca X
Good luck to all of you on your cycles, please stay in touch and let me know how you get on. Thank you again, I reallu appreciate all the support.
Rebecca X
Best of luck to you Rebecca. It's so hard to understand why all of these things happen. I'll be thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers.
Me 35, DH 35
Ectopic Oct. 2005
IVF transfer 1-21-07. . .TWINS!!!!
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IVF transfer 1-21-07. . .TWINS!!!!
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Rebecca - I am so sorry - I replied back to yr other post without seeing this one, so it may come across as a little insensitive, I'm sorry.
I am truely sorry to hear and can't imagine how devasted you are - please take some time out for yrself and DH. Talk to yr Dr to see what other options there are - as I said before, we just scraped through and this time they are upping my meds to get a better result.
thinking of you and sending big hugs
jackie x
I am truely sorry to hear and can't imagine how devasted you are - please take some time out for yrself and DH. Talk to yr Dr to see what other options there are - as I said before, we just scraped through and this time they are upping my meds to get a better result.
thinking of you and sending big hugs
jackie x
1st IVF - Sep 06 - +ve lost at 7wks
2nd IVF/ICSI - Apr 07 BFN
BFP Naturally - m/c 12wks
3rd IVF/ICSI - Nov 07 - BFP!!
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2nd IVF/ICSI - Apr 07 BFN
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thank you all so much for your replies, this morning i rang teh hospital and have an appointment on Friday to figure out the next steps. I really appreciate all the support and wish you ladies all teh luck in teh world. PLease stay in touch XX
ps . sorry if I missed anyone X
Jackie, don't worry about your other reply, I read this one first! Good luck to you and keep in touch, i really hope that this time everything goes your way, x
Kholtan - fingers crossed for you, how long do you have to wait now?
Michelle, what is coasting? the ultrasound should that theh 4 mature follicles were all around 18mm, the others were really small (below 8mm)
Wisconsingal - congratulations, so happy for you. news like yours certainly helps keep spirits higher and makes me positive that one day it will be me, Good luck!
sassynlv, good luck to you and thanks for your reply. for a while there I thought i was the only one who'd only made it so far. It's really nice to hear that I'm not alone.
ps . sorry if I missed anyone X
Jackie, don't worry about your other reply, I read this one first! Good luck to you and keep in touch, i really hope that this time everything goes your way, x
Kholtan - fingers crossed for you, how long do you have to wait now?
Michelle, what is coasting? the ultrasound should that theh 4 mature follicles were all around 18mm, the others were really small (below 8mm)
Wisconsingal - congratulations, so happy for you. news like yours certainly helps keep spirits higher and makes me positive that one day it will be me, Good luck!
sassynlv, good luck to you and thanks for your reply. for a while there I thought i was the only one who'd only made it so far. It's really nice to hear that I'm not alone.