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gem · Post by **gem** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 3:31 pm

Hi everyone Thank you SOOOO MUCH for the lovely goodluck wishes,but I'm afraid to say it was negative. Feel gutted,DH and me just keep hugging and crying and saying the usual why us? is'nt life cruel? Any way the hospital have been really good,I couldn't finish the phone call so DH had to take over,we phoned back when we'd had time to take it all in,the nurse seemed really upset for us. We've got a appointment for 4th Sept to start FET we have 6 frozen,as this worked for anybody and what does the treatment entail do I inject? I now feel numb. We said these things are sent to try us and we've got each other,is it possible to love your husband more. Soz for rambling on,I'm relly intrested in the tread Caz started on the Marilyn Glenville vitamins would theses be any use to me with me doing the FET? And does asprin work my hosp said not to bother. Soz for asking loads of questions I've just got loads of things going round my head. Thans again for making me feel really welcome on this site I feel like I've got lots of cyber friends and this as been more bearable with all of you. Any way tonight I can have my first alcoholic drink in the 1st time in 7 weeks,I even stopped drinking weeks before the treatment started-thought I'd have a better chance! I keep asking DH will we ever be parents? He keeps saying yes we will and I've got to keep believing him. We keep saying its not the end of the world and there are worse people worse then us,I know it does'nt feel like it today but I will keep reminding myself of that. Got to go now,that was the hardess message I've had to write. Thanks again A BIG GOODLUCK to everyone whos on their 2 week wait. Love gem xx

Jo Locker · Post by **Jo Locker** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 3:49 pm

Gem really sorry. I know its just so painful you think you can hardly bear it. The drugs mess you up too. Hugging each other is the only thing you can do. BUT.... you have your frosties - Tracey Sharp is the one you need here as she's had a positive recently with FET on her 4th attempt. This procedure has a good success rate. I know its all raw and horrible at the moment though and I send you and your DH all my love. Jo. XXXXX PS - I'm sure Tracey S will be writing to you soon (if she hasnt done so already - you take her PMA on the FET issue cos she's got loads!!)

Becky28 · Post by **Becky28** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 3:50 pm

Hi Gem and DH, I'm really sorry to hear things haven't worked out this time. It must be so hard for you right now. Your DH is right though - you will be parents, hold on to that thought if you can. Thinking of you - be strong, it sounds like you've got a great partnership going there and it does really help. Be kind to yourselves and enjoy a big drink (several!) tonight. Love Beck x

Jo Radley · Post by **Jo Radley** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 3:51 pm

Hi Gem, I'm so sorry it was a negative result for you and your DH. I've been thinking of you all day today as we both registered on to this site around the same time and remember you were the first person to reply to my 1st posting. Everyone has said to me if our first attempt at IVF doesn't work, look at it as a learning cycle. Again, it's very easy for people to say that, but perhaps it can bring you a bit of comfort during this time. You know you produce eggs, you know they fertilised and have 6 frozen with which to hopefully use next time. Take some time out to spend with DH and pamper yourself. I'm sure it's been a gruelling 5 weeks or so for you, which I am just about to find out myself (waiting for AF to start 1st IVF cycle), so you thoroughly deserve to relax and be pampered. My thoughts are with you. Love and hugs, Jo xx

bertie · Post by **bertie** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 4:35 pm

Gem and DH So sorry to hear. I've been logging on all aft also. Everyone on here understands what you are both feeling and all our love and support is with you both. Look after each other. luv Bertie x

Dawn Blake · Post by **Dawn Blake** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 4:42 pm

Gem I can't tell you how sorry I am for you both, it is by far the worst feeling in the world of IVF. At least you have some frosties,which is something, so you don't have to do the whole horrendous treatment cycle again. Thinking of you pouring a huge glass tonight, you deserve it! Bigs hugs and lots of love to you both, D x

MARTEEN · Post by **MARTEEN** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 4:47 pm

HI GEM I AM SO SORRY TO HEAR YOUR NOT PREGNANT, I AM THINKING OF YOU BOTH, IT IS SO HARD, I WILL NEVER FORGET THE FEELING AND PAIN YOU FEEL. IT IS GREAT YOU HAVE GOT DH FOR SUPPORT. IT IS GOOD NEWS THOUGH YOU HAVE SOME FROZEN, AS AND WHEN YOU FEEL UP TO IT, I NEVER HAD ANY. YOU REALLY NEED TO PAMPER YOURSELF HAVE SOME TIME OUT AND THEN WHEN YOU FEEL UP TO TRY AGAIN. I HAVE JUST ORDER THE MARILYN GLENVILLE TODAY AND I WILL GET THEM TOMORROW, I HAD TO TRY THEM, TO SEE IF IT DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE THIS TIME ROUND, ALTHOUGH I HAVE LEFT IT A BIT LATE, AS MY SNIFFING STARTS NEXT WEEK. I ALSO BOUGHT TODAY LINSEED OIL 1000MG AND VIT C 1000MG. WORTH A TRY ALTHOUGH WHEN RINING MARILYN GLENVILLE'S TODAY THEY ADVISED NOT TO TAKE WITH ASPIRIN! TAKE CARE LOVE MARTEEN

Alison · Post by **Alison** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 5:30 pm

Hi Gem, I'm so sorry about your news. I've been logging in on and off all day to see what had happened. I don't think there's anything harder than getting a negative, particularly a first one - when things go reasonably smoothly through a cycle its difficult to imagine how it can not work! Its really good that you've got some frosties though - there are several people on the PG side now who succeeded through FET. And it really is much less invasive than the full IVF - the first appointment I had for an FET was a week ago today and I'll be having transfer Fri or Sat - it doesn't feel real not to have been through all the sniffing, jabbing etc. Anyway, really just wanted to say how sorry I was. You take good care of yourself and DH, Love Alison x

july ann · Post by **july ann** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 6:20 pm

hi gem so sorry to hear your new's life is not fair... fet is not as bad as ivf and you are lucky you have frosties. you should give your self a break and have a weekend away with friends or your hb it works everytime for me. well i will be starting tmt in august so we could be buddies. hope you feel better soon, have been thinking of you july ann

louli · Post by **louli** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 6:42 pm

Dear Caz, Have been following you through all this and know that nothing I can say can make you feel any less wretched, but the gutted feeling will pass and you have the frozen embies so once you have got over this you will feel stronger and ready to try again. Have some lovely things to do with your DH and spoil each other. I am thinking of you, Lou

Traci · Post by **Traci** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 7:37 pm

Oh Gem how gutting for you , you know the rules lots to drink buy lots of cloths and have lots of nice cuddles with each other . it's great that you have some frosties and yes of course they will work, once you have your next date you will feel alot better, I will be your cycle buddy if you like but Im having a donor egg and god knows how that works!!!! Anyway keep your pecker up girl and we are all here for you . {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}] Trace x

kateg · Post by **kateg** » Wed Jul 16, 2003 8:36 pm

Hi Gem Read your msg earlier but couldn't bring myself to reply, I'm just so gutted for you. The whole process is so stressful. I hope you're looking after yourself, take it easy Gem. Love and hugs Kate

bubblymichelle · Post by **bubblymichelle** » Thu Jul 17, 2003 6:34 am

Hi Gem I just want to say that my thoughts are with you and DH on your negative. I know this will be a very hard time for you, but spend some quality time with DH pamper each other and be strong for each other. I wish you all the best when you decide to go for your next cycle. Love Shell. xx

jen · Post by **jen** » Thu Jul 17, 2003 9:50 am

Oh Gem, so sorry it didn't work. My heart goes out to you both. Love Jen xx

GB · Post by GB » Thu Jul 17, 2003 10:24 am

Hey Gemm, I'm really so sorry and gutted for you and your DH. As you may know, I was there about 3 weeks ago with a negative after the 3rd attempt at IVF. So I really can empathize with how you are feeling. I know that everything seems raw, sad and bleak at the moment..but give yourself a couple of days to recover and you'll get there... And yes, of course it'll work for you one day!!! We've just got to keep on plodding on! So take your time, pamper yourself and when you're ready, try again with your frosties as it's gonna work for you someday.... Thinking of you lots. Take care. Gila x-x-x

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