A Cock Up - So Fed Up

gillyf · Post by **gillyf** » Fri Aug 08, 2003 4:51 pm

Hi all, I warn you this is going to be a bit of a rant so sorry in advance.... Had E/C yesterday and we got 6 eggs so came home and waited for the dreaded phone call re fertilisation. At 2pm my consultant rings to tell me that they had made a cock up. They didn't do ICSI (our history - 1st IVF failed through no fertilisation even though eggs & sperm were fine. 3 ICSI's since then all -'ves). Apparently because the eggs & sperm looked fine & healthy, no-one bothered to check our notes and they did IVF!! Although this was our first treatment at this clinic we have stressed the whole time and on each visit that we need ICSI and even at my scan on Monday the consultant went over our history again!!! I'm really emotional as you can imagine and to be honest when I took the phone call I didn't say much because I just wanted to cry. DH on the other hand is as mad as hell and is waiting to speak to the clinic to vent his anger. I'm completely numb at the moment and although they have said I can have a 'free' treatment in October,I really don't know what to do. The care from this clinic was very good, and up to this I felt really positive about the whole place (they also have really good results). I'm not sure how I feel about goin back there. Anyway, sorry for the rant, just needed to get it off my chest. Good luck all. Gill xxx

kathryn · Post by **kathryn** » Fri Aug 08, 2003 5:14 pm

oh gill thats terrible, you poor thing. Its all very well the clinic offering you a free go in october but right now you must be so upset, to get this far and then told you cant go any further because of their stupid mistake. the whole tmt is soooo frustrating at the best of times. I really feel for you gill and your dh. Ive had a tmt cancelled before but not in the cicumstance where it was at someones mistake. Ive also had tmts delayed because theyve not read our notes and have assumed things. sorry for ranting on, its the last thing you need but not reading our medical notes really gets my back up. dont lose hope though gill, all our little baby dreams will come true one day. sending lots of love to you both, kathryn x

caz1 · Post by **caz1** » Fri Aug 08, 2003 5:50 pm

God poor you I didnt have that problem - but I did find my tmt was good but pretty chaotic -I felt that I was the one in control and running the show - which REALLY shouldnt be the case. Thats so scary that that can happen tho. I think most of these clinic are just quite disorganised - which I suppose if you really think about it has quite scary implications. Anyway - lest not go there. So so sorry for you - I hope you are having a large glass of wine. ps - did you say?? Did any of the eggs fertilise - I'm supposing not? Cx

Lynned · Post by **Lynned** » Fri Aug 08, 2003 7:22 pm

Hi Gilly, So so so sorry to hear about the hospitals cock up, I can't believe that they could miss something like that, you and dh must be devastated, angry, in shock and lots more. Do we not go through enough stress without people making major mistakes like that, I am sure the people at the hospital must be feeling really bad though, but that will not help you and dh at the moment. Feel free to rant at anytime I am sure I can speak for all ACB's in saying that our hearts go out to you both and there is always a shoulder to cry on here. Hopefully you can start again in Oct and you will get your ++ve, but in the mean time try to stay positive Lots of Love and massive hug Lynne

bertie · Post by **bertie** » Sat Aug 09, 2003 11:41 am

Gilly I dont know what to say. I agree with dh in that he wants to kill them but I would be also in shock too if it was me. I am gutted for you. This has been my first time as a 'buddy' and I feel for you. This time is v emotional and how can they put you through something like that. Stay positive. When you start again I think they will treat you differently. I know thats no conselation for what has happened but next time all the i's will be dotted and t's crossed and crossed again. I'm so sorry for you both. luv bertie x

sharon · Post by **sharon** » Sat Aug 09, 2003 6:09 pm

Gilly, OH gilly you poor poor thing, I really feel for you. I just want to repeat what everyone else has said, theres nothing anybody can say to make you feel better - what a total nightmare!!! When you calm down and start to get over the shock, I think your DH right you should go to the clinic, what the hell are they doing - there playing with peoples lifes. Ok you get a 'free' go but what about the emotional side of things how are thet going to compensate for that? Take care lots of love Sharon G XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

gillyf · Post by **gillyf** » Mon Aug 11, 2003 9:00 am

Hi ladies, Thanks for all your messages. Had quite a nice weekend considering, it was my birthday yesterday, so all my pressies cheered me up a bit. Still fell a bit fed up - I don't really know how to feel as it wasn't a failure as such but I've still ended up with nothing at the end of a cycle. DH is still spitting mad!!! Hope you are all doing ok especially you ACB's on your 2ww. Take care and wishing you all the best of luck. Gill xxx

Alison · Post by **Alison** » Mon Aug 11, 2003 9:51 am

Gill - what a dreadful thing to happen. I'm so impressed with you for sounding so positive. But what the clinic did was negligent. I can quite understand you not wanting to go back there again, and offering a free cycle next time doesn't seem to me to be sufficient, and doesn't give you any compensation for what you've been through. If I were you I think I'd be inclined to write a really stiff letter requesting your money back from the cycle, plus the costs of any drugs etc., plus some sort of compensation for putting you through all this, and then mention getting legal advice, going to the media etc. I know that the money doesn't really help, but at least if they gave you your money back you could decide whether you wanted to go back there or somewhere else next time. All the best, love Alison

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