Need support!

[yarnista]

Hey ladies,
Had another trip to the hospital last night and am having a lot of bleeding. The doctor today thinks that I'm probably going to pass the baby that is no longer viable and that presents a bit of a risk for the surviving baby. I'm trying to stay positive but it's hard after everything we've been through. The baby had a good heartbeat today and my cervix was closed which are good signs.
So in the mean time I'm taking it easy and my mum is driving here today from Canada, it will be so good to see her. Any support is so appreciated ladies.

[Mandy J]

Hi Yarnista

What a horribly stressful time for you, please try to stay positive and relax as much as you possibly can. I'm sure it will help having your Mum with you, but let her look after you when she is there, don't go running around after anybody at the moment. I will keep you in my thoughts and hope that everythings works out well for you and your baby.

Mandy
x

[CroElla]

...and don't go cleaning around the house because mom is coming:) Relaxing helps a lot but laughter is another medicine too. Stay positive for your baby and smile for her/him. I hope that you are not in physical pain!??
Having you in my thoughts.....

[Cocoa]

Yarnista... I am so sorry this has been so emotional and scary for you as if its not bad enough with the stress of the IVF and then the hormones...

Please read through the board to find many other ladies who have had similar problems with bleeding - singles and twins - and went on to go through normal pregnancies and have beautiful babies... I personally know a woman who, while pregnant with her second child, woke up in the middle of the night at about 3 months pregnant in pain, bleeding and passed what seemed to be her baby (greyish kind of mass). She had no choice in going through this at home as she said she was definately in labor and it progressed very quickly. She thought she had lost her baby. Well, she went on to have an adorable baby boy 6 months later and though they never got the tissue for pathology the doctors were sure it had been a twin.

You see when a baby is viable - like your little beanie - there is NO stopping it from getting to full term... Nature may want you to expel what is not good for the viable baby so let your body tell you to stay off your feet, rest, NO CLEANING I AGREE, and do what the docs say!!!

We are all here for you and pray you for you and your new family!

xxxCocoa

[Babyb]

Cocoa: Beautifully said and I'm sure the real life example must provide some comfort. My thoughts and prayers are with you Yarnista. Stay relaxed (easier said than done, I know), positive and off your feet as much as possible. Has your Dr. recommended anything in particular? I'll be thinking of you. So glad the mum is coming to be with you -- best support you can get.

[yarnista]

Thank you ladies for the all the kind words. I feel so much better since my mum got here and we have been eating lots of good food and having a lot of laughs. I've been having cramping but no more bleeding. Can't wait to have my ultrasound tomorrow wish it was in the morning! Will let you all know how it turns out. Love to all.

[Vickyp]

Hi Yarnista

How truly dreadful for you. I hope your scan went well and the other twin is thriving. Love Vicky

[yarnista]

I have good news to report, woohoo! Our ultrasound and visit with the ob doctor went well yesterday. The baby is a good size and has a nice strong heartbeat. I saw a new doctor in the group who was very kind and he said the chances now are pretty good. My cervix is closed also, which is good. I'm still having cramping so I'm not completely out of the woods just yet. I'm out of work for another week and am trying to not feel guilty about that. I have yet to speak to my supervisor as he was a jerk about the fact that I couldn't take a lifeguarding class so I'm avoiding that extra stress for now.
I went to see the naturopathic doctor today and she is ordering a special tea for me that helps with miscarriage. She also did a few accupuncture points to help. Having my mum here has been such a blessing, she has to head back to Canada tomorrow. She redid my bedroom yesterday and made it my "spa" room, what more could a daughter ask for?
Thank you to everyone here, your kind words have meant the world to me.