Egg sharing

[helenlouise]

Hi,<br>i'm new to this site and have made a few psots, but just thought I'd share this with you for info. <br>I have elected to egg share and never had any doubts about it from the very first meeting at the clinic. I wanted to start treatment as soon as possible and so the nurse went about finding a suitable recipient. Her waiting list was something like 15-20 long and of course she had to look for similar characteristics too. BUT, the first person she rang hadn't got back to her after a couple of the days, the next person never returned her call, neither did the next, despite a message being left that the offer was to start asap. Of course it is understandable that people may be on holiday or unavailable, but if it were me I'm sure i would make sure the clinic has all my info because you never know when a donor may turn up. Another person who had only been on the waiting list a short time said it was too quick, and others didn't want to do a cycle before xmas. Please don't misunderstand me and think that i imagine everyone should be waiting by the phone for news, but i am surprised that a recipient for me was finally confirmed who was at least number 10 on the waiting list.<br>So to those waiting make sure your details are kept up to date and even if you are on a long list you never know a donor could appear sooner than you think.<br><br>good luck to all<br>helen

[alypraying]

Hi Helen<br>This is unreal!! I was told by at least 3 clinics that I would have to wait at least a year and a half for an egg donor unless I brought one in myself then I would go to the top of the list (something I think is very wrong!) The clinic I attend now is in London and said that they would have a donor for me within 6 months of being on the list. personally if they said we have a donor now I would jump at the chance the only thing I can think of is that people have sort treatment elsewhere, I was told by Borne Hall and Essex Fertility centre that I would have to put up £1000 to just go on the list and following this they advised me to advertise for a donor myself. The clinic I'm at in London CRM have asked for £300 so that they can advertise for a donor never was I asked to recruit myself and they have been very informative about the whole process of egg donation. <br>If this has happened to you it makes me wonder how many other people have been through this. All I can say is from someone waiting for the gift you give thankyou and I wish you every success with your IVF.<br>Big hugs<br>Aly<br>xx

[louli]

Dear Helen,<br>Just wanted to echo Aly's sentiments and say a huge thank you to you for giving someone the gift of an egg. We too are waiting for a donor and have been told that the wait is at least 18 months. We have been waiting for almost 13 months, paid £100 to go on the waiting list and have spent £500 advertising as we were told that if we recruit a donor it puts us to the top of the list. In addition if it does not work we then have to go to the bottom of he list and wait another 18 months. We are considering going to the States although not sure that I like the idea of individuals being allowed to profit from the sale of their eggs,which is allowed in USA but which is illegal in the UK. Can't believe people waiting would turn down this amazing opportunity and gift. We would jump at an early opportunity,<br>Good Luck to you <br>What you are doing is truly giving someone a life, thank you<br>Lou