(Whoops! This was meant as a reply to the Bay Area post below)
Wow, great that I finally found a forum with the IVF info we NEED.
I literally spent my entire Sunday with Google and researching all the places around the Bay Area. FPNC, NovaIVF, RCS San Ramon, Stanford, AltaBates, UCSF, Laurel, etc.
Put together this wonderful spreadsheet of all the info I could find on all of the above listed places (and more), and now I find there's an IVF specialist within walking distance of our house!
Zouves Fertility Center in Foster City sounds great, both from the recommendation here, to their listed success rates, and their prices don't seem out of line.
And also Dr. Shen at Kaiser in Fremont sounds great too.
My wife and I have been trying for about 2 years now with no luck at all. We've been seeing an IUI specialist down in Fremont, but after a year we haven't even done 1 IUI cycle and we've spent quite a bit of money.
The ultrasound scans showed some possible cysts, so we went in for laproscopic surgery and they wound up going all the way in and removing the cysts.
At that time they found the tubes to be blocked, so we did 3 months of hormone down-regulation (lupron?), and we're just coming off that, but getting very impatient.
She'll be 39 in less than 6 months, so we really need to get moving on IVF ASAP.
It's great to know we've got some of the best in the world within a short driving distance of home.
God bless America and our hard-working doctors and researchers.