sex of baby ya or na

ogr · Post by **ogr** » Fri Jun 20, 2003 8:27 pm

i am going to find out. it doesnt matter if it is a boy or a girl. but i figure waithing 13 years not knowing anything about what is going to happen threw our ivf stuff it is going to be nice to finally know something. and when i rub my tummy i want to beable to call the baby by its name.. what do you guys think love becky

KirstyC · Post by **KirstyC** » Sat Jun 21, 2003 6:39 am

Hi Becky, We have our last scan next friday and are going to try and find out..my dad and nan are both dead against it..but we really would like to know..it's a personal thing really but I would like to call baby 'him' or 'her' instead of 'it'. Also we are redecotating the spare room and it would be nice to choose blue or lilac accordingly. Having said all that sometimes they can't tell if baby is shy or in the wrong position so we will have to wait and see... So exciting isn't it??!! Hope you are enjoying your long awaited 9 months too... Lots of love Kirsty x

fi · Post by fi » Sat Jun 21, 2003 7:00 pm

awww, thats very nice to have the choice! i have just come over from the other board to see what you guys are up to over here!! go for it, and let us know!!!! hug to your bump, love fi XXX

ogr · Post by **ogr** » Sun Jun 22, 2003 2:12 pm

my father in-law is against it also . my grandmother says that it is just plum wrong.. but if we can we are going to find out.i think when we do find out i will e- mail everyone and say if you want to know if boy or girl open attachement!!!! then we will see who can resist..i bet they will open it. becareful of the fumes while painting.... i like the idea of lilac. i dont know yet what we are doing as far as a nursery goes.i know that we will have a crib in are room and a crib upsaitr in the living room. with 10 boys and 3 big dogs i will feel better knowing that the baby is safe... so when is your do date? hello fi. how are you doing? love ebcky

Helen G · Post by **Helen G** » Sun Jun 22, 2003 5:13 pm

Hi Becky I've got my scan on Friday too (same day as Kirsty) and we're going to find out as well. Can't resist! Have decided we might as well make the use of the technology - we have done so far!!!!!

Glad to hear you're sounding so well. My bump's growing nicely now annd can't wait for Friday to check that my babies are progressing well! take care all of you! LOL Helen xx

Sarah30 · Post by **Sarah30** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 8:42 am

Welllllllllllll I was desperate to know the sex of the babies and then at the 12 weeks scan I FORGOT TO ASK!!! I phoned the clinic the next day to ask if he'd written anything on my notes to indicate but she said he hadn't and wouldn't have told me anyway (strong believer in not spoiling the suprise). After a few comments from the nurse about spoiling the surprise and taking away half the fun of the birth and birth announcements I have decided not to find out the sex of the babies. After all, I was going to do the nursery in a neutral colour and brighten it up with pictures and things and clothes can just be white until we know what they are. So, now I'm a convert and beleive it's best not to know. Plus there is also the possiblity of them getting it wrong! Sarah x

Tracey S · Post by **Tracey S** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 9:20 am

BEcky know exactly what you mean - we would like to know - mum wants to do but dad has suddenly gone all shy! Have first midwife appointment today to get referral and book nuchal and was as sick as a dog this am - thought had got away with that as just feeling tired and sore melons! Love Tracey xxxxxxxx

mands · Post by **mands** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 12:49 pm

Hi there I'm now 30 weeks with twins. We found out at the 20 week scan. (I thought the babies sex could oly be detected at 16 weeks) It's really fantastic knowing. I feel a much closer connection with my babies and feel that they have developed personalities already. Shopping has been easier as well - we can choose any colour we please. People advised us against knowing we couldn't really understand any of their arguements - it doesn't take away from the birth and what is 'natural anyway'. Funny thing was all those who advised strongly against knowing still insisted on being kept in the loop. People have very peculiar attitudes when it comes to reproduction and babies as I'm sure we've all encountered the arguement that 'IVF is just not natural' before. It's not really important what sex they are although I have to admit I'm relieved that I'm not having 2 boys as they are completely exhausting but I don't think it really matters. I'm having a girl and a boy. We've choosen the names and everyone knows those as well (except my family who are much too opinionated and would try and talk us out of our choices). Good luck and run with whaatever makes you feel happy but it's just as exciting knowing in a different way. Good luck with your pregnancy Mandsx

Jules R · Post by **Jules R** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 1:08 pm

Hi Becky We found out what we were having. At our 23 week scan we found out we were having a girl and 4 weeks later found out that the other one was a boy. We partly did it for logistical reasons; with buying double the stuff it was easier if we knew colours to buy things in. But as Mands said, it really helped me to get to know my two before they were born; I could link their movements and behaviour for scans with whether it was typical girl or boy behaviour. My daughter always seemed to hate it when we went shopping which really worried me as a shopoholic. But she now loves it so she was obviously trying to tell me that she wanted to be out and joining in! Jules

ogr · Post by **ogr** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 1:13 pm

good to here from you tracey. i was getting a little worried. you used to post all over the place. i think you hold the record for posting. for my sore melons my dh massages them at night. it really helps. crongrats mands on your very sooon son and daughter. what names have you chosen? sarah, what great news that you have made it past the 12 wks..i didnt think they could tell,at the earlyest 16 wks.but not normaly until 20 or more.. helen your scan on friday is your 20 wk.. wow. look how far you have come!!!!i have 2 wks to go to see mine again.. it is so great when you get to see the heart abounding.the kicking and waving at you.. make sure and let us know how much they have grown.. kristy how far along are you? ok everybody have you been drinking your 80 ounces of water everyday? it is getting alot harder for me to get it done.. BUT DRINK IT AND GET THE FEET UP ONCE IN A WHILE!!!!!!!!! LOVE BECKY

mands · Post by **mands** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 5:11 pm

Hi Becky We've choosen Oscar and Caitlin although that's subject to change following the birth. Saw them this morning, consultant tried to catch a picture of the little girl opening her mouth but it's a bit mirky. Due to a series of complications (The little boy tried to create a little brother for himself so I was essentially carrying triplets, and feotal surgery at 22 weeks risking both babies, I'm now a nearly normal twin Mum again. Every day at the moment is an achievement reinforced by a repeated congrats from medical staff when they see I'm still holding on. It would have felt bizzaar to have as many difficult conversations as we've had with medical staff and between myself and dh referring to our babies as twin 1 and twin 2. Told this morning that I'll be heading for a CS at 37 weeks if I can hold on that long. I've got everything crossed. Look after those bumps! Mandsx

RLV · Post by **RLV** » Mon Jun 23, 2003 8:14 pm

Hi Becky & everyone else We didn't ask the sex of our babies at 20 week scan. Hubby is definate that he wants to wait for the surprise when they're born and I'm sort of half & half about wanting to know. Trouble is if I find out, I won't be able to speak to DH without letting it slip and won't be able to buy anything in pink or blue without hiding it away from him, so I reckon I'm going to go along with him and wait and see??!! It is very tempting to ask when they're scanning you, but I think it does spoil the surprise on birth day if you already know. Luv Rachel X

tshepher · Post by **tshepher** » Tue Jun 24, 2003 11:49 am

Hi all we found out at the 22 week scan and it's been great knowing the sex. You can actually start to assign a little personality to your bump. The way we looked at it there will be enough surprises on the day and we would rather know what we were having to be really prepared (it's a boy by the way...little Joshua)and due on the 22/8 Good Luck XXX Terri

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