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hey anyone who is listening. march i started my first ivf attempt and i got the news april 27th it failed. today is may 4th a week later and already starting to do another attempt. im afraid to fail again and it costs so much but i think its so worth it. i'd give anything to have a baby of our own. i like to hear others stories and make my self feel better or reassurance that it does work and is possible. im going on vacation on the 20th to bahamas and i didnt think it was a great idea to go thru with the second so fast or before we go on vacation. im just hoping for a miracle i dont no. nothing goes perfect and so far its no where near. i wanted to wait for my first attempt til after we got married and now i feel like i was asking for too much and too perfect. i guess i feel like im to blame but i need to pick myself up and think happy thoughts. its just so much. the cost, the injections hurt, the wait sucks then failure it really bummed me out. if anyone has anything to say to make me feel better i could use it. my story is too long i dont wanna bore anyone to type it all. well it was nice to vent a bit.
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I wish I could give you great news. I did a fresh last Sept and BFN and FET in Nov and had a miscarriage. I was preggars though and that always gives me a little hope. Recently found out DH has low morphology, so I'll be doing ICSI next time. I actually do have a DD after 2 ectopic pregnancies, so I know all things are possible. Plus I know several people who have done IVF and get preggars , 2 couples even had twins. Wish you all the best and enjoy vacation as much as possible.
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Hi first Iam sorry for the failed Ivf, I think you should wait for a month at least in order to give your body some rest. Remenber your went trought a lot, I had my fresh cycle on september 09 got positive beta but it was a ectopic I waited 4 months for the second which was frozen I did the transfer on March but negative beta, now I am going for another cycle for June. You reminded me of myself after both times I wanted to go for another cycle right away but my hoby wanted me to rest, I know it's hard to wait but give yourself and your patner 1 month , before going for another stress. By the way if you like reading pick up this books at Amazone "Empty Womb, Aching Heart" and "The Hollow Heart" great books it will lift your spirit I highly recomend it. Take care and good luck with everything, enjoy your vacation.
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hi
i do counsel infertile couple time to time. do,nt u think postponing ur vacation may save some money in case u need a 3rd attempt?. this way u may decrease ur stress load. what i read from ur mail u r really stressed inside in a situation not to think even of a 3rd attepmt.
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Hi,

I am sorry that you got a negative but i wanted to tell you my ivf journey and try give you some hope and faith that it can work. Never for one minute did we think we would end up doing 7 ivf attempts but here we are 12 wks pregnant on the 7th attempt. The 1st 3 attempts were BFN, 4th attempt no embies survived to blast so no transfer - doc. told us that day we would never concieve!!! 5th attempt BFP!! but m/c at 7 wks, 6th attempt FET BFP but mc at 10 wks - changed clinics got lots of tests done diagnosed with elevated natural killer cells, had 4 intralipd drip sessions, put on steroids, clexane, aspirin, estrogen 7th attempt BFP!!!! Had my 12 wk scan today and Thank God baby is perfect, we are hopefully now out of the danger zone and with the help of God will carry full term. Its been a long hard road but we never gave up after each negative and even m/c we jumped straight back in and so far (touch wood) our determination has paid off. I know you dont want to hear it took 7 attempts, if someone said that to me 2 yrs ago i would have cried!! but you just need to take it one cycle at a time and keep focused on the end result. I wish you the very best and hopefully you too will get your bfp soon, just remember some of us can take longer than others. Also my cycle buddy Katie also got success on her 7th time - seems like 7 can be a lucky number :mrgreen:

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hello,
first off i want to say thank you to you all for responding and give me some input. i know it'll happen eventually i just hate the thought of knowing it could take alot. im young they at the clinic keep telling me. they expected me to do great the first attempt again they said cuz im so young. me and my husband are indeed young and healthy but i guess inside the things you cant see you'd never think would be wrong. he has retrograde ejaculaion were his sperm sometimes comes out a bit and goes into the bladder. i have pcos and we never would of known this until we finally went to the clinic. in our first cycle i had six eggs retrieved and only five made blastocyte embryos in day five and the sixth one didnt make it to mature. so i had two transfered and now im going for three this time in the 2nd attempt. the dr didnt want to put three the first time he wanted to avoid multiplies and none took. we wanted atleast three transfered but they thought they would implant. again because im so young. my body reacted to the medicine well they said. im just so worried we want children so bad and we want to make sure its possible. CONGRATS!! you pregnant thats great news. do you mind me asking your age? i cant imagine 7 attempts. how did you afford all that. my goodness im trying to get thru one cycle. did any of you wait a while before you could try again? see my insurance only covered one attempt for a liffetime so now its all out our pocket this attempt and we just want to try again as soon as we can. our original dr died halfway thru our cycle unexpected in his sleep. so we had his assistant do our retrieval and transfer. it was hard to adapt to a new person we didnt want, plan or sign up for but we were too far in to the cycle to turn back and stop. it was a hard decision. so we got married march 20th 2010 and we started going to the fertility clinic in november of 2009. now its may 2010 and i feel we'r right back from the beginning. he tells me to stay positive and stress free. its hard. we planned and booked our honeymoon for after im done with school this semester( im in school for nursing) and we didnt think we'd be on a 2nd attempt we planned to be pregnant right now on the vacation. now we're doing too much i think. well orignally we were suppose to have our first cycle back in january 2010 but i got bad results on my endometrial lining it was low. so they put me on lupron treatment for three months and thats what lead us to april for the attempt. but in january we planned we'd be pregnant on our wedding. that didnt happen now neither did our honeymoon. but i believe they are really pushing it close for us to do our 2nd attempt a few days before our trip. but we either have the choice to do it for $2500 or wait and see what they decide to do with the clincic because they'll need a new dr. my dr's assistant was only there til may 21 2010 so thats why we're rushing it in to get the same deal. personally i feel fine. i dont feel stressed about new cycle. i just want to be done with school all the exams is stressfull because i have one everyday mon- thru. and it will finally be over for the summer as of may 11th. and then we go on vacation on th 20th. so i have my next appt for my 2nd cycle monday may 10th and that'll show us how my linning is building up. im on estrace right now and im increasing my dose tomrw to three pills instead of two. i just never thought i'd have to suffer with not being able to beome pregnant on our own. and have to go to a dr to help. everyone in my family has kids. i wonder why im different and having problems. my husband too he feels the same way. i tell him theres a reason we found each other. to go thru this together. the battle the struggle. but i understand why we should give it a break but then we have other circumstances. it's just great to know someone is pregnant im mso happy. i wish it were me. i see ladies complaining and saying dont go thru it and dont have children they are bad, me and my husband always look at each other and say to ourselfs if people only knew how hard it could be and how much we want what they have. good luck and thank you for talking to me i enjoy it. its nice to talk to other people who been there done it and know what its like and not imagining the agony. so 7 attempts whoo and im only on 2. how long did you go thru all 7 attempts it had to been a few yrs huh?
btw im not familiar with some of the abbreviations whats BFP and yes sounds like 7 is your lucky number. congrats again to the both of you on your pregnancies.
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Hi natasha,

I turned 30 last novemeber jason is 30 as well. We started ivf in Aug. 2007 so about 2.5 yrs at it. IVF is not covered in Ireland so unfortunatley all out of pocket but it is cheaper here, a fresh cycle costs about €5000 and a frozen is €1000, you get all your ivf for €100 this is the only part that is covered. It does add up and we are by no means well off, we remortaged our house a few yrs ago plus my mum and jasons mum have also given us money, without them it would have taken a lot longer but we would have found it somehow. I know 7 attempts sounds a lot but actually it went by very quickly. I think your clinic gave you false hope that it works 1st time and thats why you are so disappointed. Our clinic gives a 33% success rate so jason and i said right it may take 3 attempts we didnt get too worrried or upset untill after the 4th attempt (where we had no blasts to transfer). I think you had a great cycle and to get 5 blasts out of 6 is fantastic!!! Know one knows why it doesnt work after its transfered but you have got to have belief in your remaining 3 blasts there is a high chance you little baby is in that frozen bunch :lol: We are all naieve when we 1st do ivf but now you know the ins and outs and have experienced a negatve result you will be more prepared. Dont get too disheartened it will work its just a matter of when, just keep focused on the end result and it will keep you going. Relax on your hols if you have had the transfer it will be good for the embies and congrats on getting married. Jason and i had to cancel our wedding we were due to get married this xmas but after our last miscarriage it was either ivf again or wedding and a baby is much more important.

Also ignore any of those comments people make you dont need to hear it right now, i have had many stupid comments said to me and they hurt some people havent a clue. Best of luck with your exams try not to get to stressed out. And also the very best of luck with your cycle you have a great chance of finally becoming a mum.

gi xxx
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p.s BFP means Big Fat Positive :D :D we love seeing those around here
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hi gi,
thanks that lightened my day. i never would of guess big fat positive but it made me laugh. yes seven sounds like alot. i agree about waiting to get married a baby is much more important. if i knew what we had to go through before we sent out announcements we would have waited too. i would of rather of had the money go towards the ivf than a big wedding but too late now. we decided not to tell no one about our problems or that we are doing ivf. or i guess the fact is we need ivf. since your pregnant now you'll have our wedding soon and you can relax. im proud for you. im hoping this honeymoon trip will relax us and we can forget for a few days about everything in reality an escape for a few days. im just anxious monday i find out more about my cycle or atleast futher in depth.i praying they wait to do the transfer after we get back cuz if they do it right before we go i'll be a nervous reck the whole time thinking about it. this will be our second and last attempt for awhile we cant afford to do another anytime soon. so our fingers and toes are crossed. im 22 my husband is 25 so we're praying i hope it'll happen for us. i no they say the younger the better so we'll see they havent proved themselves right in my books do far :D. im going to be patient i have a break no tuesday is my last day of school so it'll be nice to just relax and not have to think so hard constantly.thanks for your input im smiling and i wont be so down i now the chances are low and eventually it'll work just hoping sooner than later. ttyl
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has anyone heard anything about airplane traveling while doiong ivf? i just found out today that i probably will be doing my FET the day before my trip to bahamas and im nervous becuase i atleast wanted time between the transfer and the trip i dont want anything to go wrong. im hoping it doesnt ruin this chance or attempt for us. i cant afford to go for another attempt. im a reck thinking about it. my dr office knows when we're leaving and they are still scheduling it too close. but they are following my linning they said so when its thick enough they will do the transfer and they are expecting it the day before to be ready. egh!! my luck i guess it never goes right ever.if you heard anything about travelling let me no. i reserched it on google and i only found that know one really knows they dont know for sure if its bad to travel on a plane.
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wish me luck. wednesday i have my fet.!! please work this time please!!
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Natasha10,

I wish you the best of luck, and try as much as possible to put all the advices yu have received on this thread to good use. My little advice to you is, don't do too many things at the same time. Your body needs to avoid stress. Different Doctors have different opinions when it comes to flying. My Doctor will tell you to at least rest for 24 hours before thinking of flying, and if you don't have to then don't. As sitting for too long reduces blood circulation, this is something you don't want if you want to attain success this time around.

Take Care and we all wish you the luck and success in this second trial.

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Natasha,

Best of luck on wed all my fingers and toes are crossed for you. I am sure flying is ok just take it easy let dh carry all the luggage, relax on you hols. enjoy the sun and let those embabies snuggle in tight. Keep us informed how you get on, i really hope you get your BFP xxxxx

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mally
thank you so much. i will try not to sit too long and move around. im going to rest the whole day before in bed. im going to try not to do too much at all. thank you and i'll keep you posted on my return next week. thanks
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gi,
we're hoping for that BFP so im going to try to do as less as possible. im going to relax in the sun too. i'll keep you posted on my return nd my news. thanks.
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