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JULES K · Post by **JULES K** » Wed Dec 17, 2003 10:50 am

Hi Girls, Still a bit weird posting on this side as if I am tempting fate somehow. Have been reading the 1st Trimester gand threads and a bit worried as everybody on there seems to feel sick or nauseous and I don't at all. I have lost my appetite and am having to force myself to eat but I don't feel sick. Still having the odd twinge now and again but they don't seem to be in any one place, back is really aching though and keep getting shooting pains in my legs which I normally get when af is due so they are a bit worrying. I have also noticed (sorry to be graphic) that I have quite a lot of mucous, I was shopping yesterday and as i was walking around I was convinced that I had started bleeding as I felt really wet however when I checked there was nothing there. The scan on 2 Jan seems a lifetime away, I think I will be 7wks and 1 day then, what can I expect to see at that point? can you see the heartbeat? in a strange way I almost don't want to go for the scan as at the moment I can live in blissful ignorance, I don't think I could take it if something were wrong especially after I had written this cycle off anyway. To have it snatched away from me again would be so cruel. Lots of love to everyone Julie xx

Jules R · Post by **Jules R** » Wed Dec 17, 2003 11:00 am

Hi Julie Try not to worry, even though I know that's easier said than done. Everybody has different symptoms so you can't compare yourself with anyone else. I had no symptoms at all during the 2WW or until I was past 6 weeks when the nausea arrived (for a week initially). Later on I had the AF type pains quite badly. I had lots of mucous too until I was about 14 weeks pregnant so don't worry about that. We had scans at 6 and 8 weeks. At 6 weeks we saw one sac but no heartbeat. At 8 weeks we saw 2 sacs, yolks and little heartbeats. So at 7 weeks, you may or may not see a heartbeat. Is it possible for you to get to your Early Pregnancy Unit before 2nd Jan to reassure yourself? You seem to have been through so much already so I hope that everything goes OK from now on. Take care. Jules

Dagny · Post by **Dagny** » Wed Dec 17, 2003 11:43 am

Hi Julie Welcome to the other side! Like Jules said everybody is very different so to compare symptoms makes you paranoid. From what you have described it all sounds normal. You will get AF type pains and mucus and not all people feel sick. It may creep up on you though and you must keep hydrated if you can. You may have read that I dehydrated really badly and spent over 2 weeks in hospital on a drip. I don't recommend it, it was awful and my sickness was 24-7. We had a scan at 5wks 6ds and we did see a heartbeat which really suprised us. Again we are all different and it can depend on when and how long it took for the embryo/s to embed. You could try going to the EPU before xmas but I would wait and enjoy yourself and do try not to worry. Whatever you decide, good luck and I am sure everything will be fine. love Dagny x

bubblymichelle · Post by **bubblymichelle** » Wed Dec 17, 2003 2:36 pm

Hi Julie, I just want to say try not to worry to much, easier said then done I know but you have to try because you will make yourself ill. I was exactly like you I used to use alot of muscus and at times I convinced myself I was bleeding, (I did bleed though uptil 18wks on and off) The heartbeat can be detected at different times, you may or may not get it, I got to see the heartbeat at 8wks and it was amazing. Try not to work yourself up, if you don't feel you can wait till the 2nd Jan then go to the EPU but I was advised they didn't have the equipment that the clinic had. Good Luck. Love Shell. 34wks 6d pg xx

helenlouise · Post by **helenlouise** » Wed Dec 17, 2003 2:53 pm

Jules, i'm in exactely the same position as you and we are the same time wise. I want to feel SOMETHING! Don't care if i'm sick because at least i'll feel pregnant. I must admit that yesterday i brought another hpt to do just to reassure myself that i still was! I'm getting af type pains mostly in the evening and also a wet discharge that often has me too running to the loo thinking that it felt like a clot of something. I keep half expecting to see blood. Some days i'm very optimistic and others i feel really low. I just want to make it to 12 weeks safely and see something real and growing on the scan ( mines jan 7th). How we get throught it i don't know. Just tick each day off. we are telling our parents and close family on xmas eve which will make it seem more real. I'm so happy about it and wish i could relax more but i too keep reading my week by week book and looking for little signs good or bad however often i tell myself that we are all different. We'll get through it. goo luck, and lets keep comparing notes! helenx

phil · Post by **phil** » Wed Dec 17, 2003 3:23 pm

julie, helen from what i know, what you're both experiencing is really normal. the early days do seem as though nothing has changed. my nausea started at wk6. talking to others, some people never have sickness and then others can have it for months. excess discharge is really normal too as the mucus plug is forming and i think it carries on for sometime yet. julie at the 1st scan you may be able to see the heartbeat, i did and some of the other girls did too but some had to wait a little longer. i know that jan must seem ages away. if it gets too much for you then you could go to an early pregnancy unit for a scan, might have to be private though. best wishes with whatever you decide. phil x

JULES K · Post by **JULES K** » Wed Dec 17, 2003 4:22 pm

Hi Girls, thanks for your reassuring words. I am trying to keep positive but it is really hard. I don't think I will go to the EPU as I am thinking that it will be really early and if they don't see anything it will just upset me more. At least if I wait until Jan when I am over 7 weeks they should at least be able to pick something up. I am such a chicken, I am scared to even do another pg test in case it shows negative but I think i will have to muster up the courage as I think it might make me feel better. Helen - do you have any symptoms at all? the only way in which I feel different is that my boobs are tender, more so of an evening. I feel exactly the same as you' I don't think I would mind if I was throwing up every five minutes as it would seem more real. We have only told my parents and sister, all our friends still think the treatment failed as I told them it had when af arrived. We have decided not to tell anyone else until after the scan but it is really difficult as our friends keep ringing to see how we are and we have to keep telling little fibs! Once again thanks for all your wise words, I really think I would have gone insane without being able to come on here and talk to you all. Lots of Love Julie xx

helenlouise · Post by **helenlouise** » Wed Dec 17, 2003 6:08 pm

Julie, yes I have very achey boobs in the evenings. When i take my bra off at night they feel like a heavy weight has been released! and they hurt if i accidentally lay badly.They are definately bigger and more lumpy feeling, so i think that is good. I wish that i could stop reading my week-by-week pregnancy guide, because i really am looking at signs far too deeply. The times i've convinced myself that i feel queasey is more likely to be nerves! In a way i can't believe how lucky i am that this has happened and i so want it to go well, but relaxing is so hard. Also, the af type pains that i often get are really quite strong, although the nurse said they were not uncommon and i'm feeling them more in the evening because i've less to think about than in the day. I feel like staying away from work because i don't want to get stressed by it and living on the sofa for a few weeks. I'm sure we'll be able to look back at these postings in months to come and laugh at our paranoia, but i do find its helping sharing experiences and reading back through past postings. Off to have a big glass of milk for extra protein now! helenxx

Tracey S · Post by **Tracey S** » Thu Dec 18, 2003 8:05 am

Hiya Helen and Julie Like the others it is all different - telling myself that to keep sane! I have had 2 pg's - one ectopic and one was to 20 weeks (funeral tomorrow!) and always had symtpoms - sore boobs and af pains and funny smells around me (not me I hope) and feeling nauseous. This time - sod all - not even sore boobs - my nipples feel slightly tender and the other day I was sick but probably because I got myself in a state about the funeral and not feeling pg etc. Then had a bad night last night and night before and felt nothing yesterday not even tired so convinced myself they or it has disappeared. I am due for scanning on 29th when I will be 7 weeks but bringing me in on 24th when just over 6 so got in a right state that nothing there or no heartbeats etc - don't do scans well as you can imagie with the last 2! Hard to say - all pg's are different - I remember Sarah on this site lost hers at 10 weeks and had loads of symptoms - next time pg with twins and no symptoms at all - no sore boobs or sickness. Maybe we are all being a bit premature! Good luck to you all from another mad one Love Tracey xxx

beck · Post by **beck** » Thu Dec 18, 2003 9:52 am

firstly .tracy hope all goes well tomorrow for you hunnie. my little boy is now 23wks..........1st attempt of ivf (lucky i know). i tested a day early as i was convinced i had a -..but to my surprise i got a +. i didnt have any preggie feelings till around the 8wk mark i got a little sickie but my main problem was pains.....and i was told that pregnancy was a pain in the belly and true enough it was true.so go with the flow as all of our bodies will do something differant to the girl next door....my friend cycled with me and she was glowing from day 1 and i felt great around 18wks. wishing you all good wishes and a heathly pregnancys. beck & jack xx

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