IVF Nightmare!! Someone Please Help!

[savi]

Hello - I'm new here. I'm needing some help (advise) for our situation. I did an Ivf Treatment on Aug 14th. 3 embies transfered. The first hcg came back at 10!! not good but positive atleast. four days later the hcg came back at 11! I was told to stop meds, that it wasnt a viable pregnancy... and my period would come. I did as they instructed and sure enough, w/in a few days later, I had a bleed that lasted 5 days. I returned to the dr. office did a follow up hcg to make sure numbers were going down - the hcg came back at 200!! They're watching me like a hawk... u/s and blood draws every 2 days. it's been doubling ever since. Heres the kicker... they cant find the pregnancy! Today my levels were over 700... I'm six weeks along, and they're havn't even been any changes to the uterus! I've read they can't see anything till you get to 1000? Is that right?
They're so convinced this pregnancy is ectopic and not viable (even though they can't find it) They actually handed me the paperwork today to start the methotrexate!! I demanded a second opinion and left to go find it! ( In fact I was so upset when I left, I was supposed to go to work right after, but ended up calling in at the last second so I could find another dr. - I pissed off my work pretty bad... I'm pretty sure I lost my job today too because of this roller coaster, emotional hell, these dr.s have put me thru)!!
Seriously?... "This pregnancy isnt viable, your going to have a miscarriage... We're sorry for your loss, but your pregnant!? This pregnancy is most likely in the tubes... but we can't find it, and you have no signs of it being in there... so here's a drug thats gonna kill it - oh your numbers are up again - we need to treat this like your pregnant"!!
You want to talk about a nightmare! This has taken any joy out of being told we're finally pregnant! I'm so scared at this point -I just want to make sure my baby is o.k. So I'm reserching like mad and driving myself nuts because no one can give me an answer!
My questions are: Could this have been caused by vanishing twin syndrom? Or could this have been caused by a late implantation? Maybe I'm not 6 weeks - maybe I'm only 5 weeks along?
Someone - Please. This can't be any worse than it is!

[savi]

Hello again. I see a few people have looked at my previous post. No one has chosen to reply. I guess it's like seeing a horific car wreck... most people don't do anything to stop and help - but you cant help but stare.
They determined today thats its a tubal pregnancy. The uterus is empty, but my levels keep going up. I'm awaiting the confirmation, but they'll be starting methotrexate either this afternoon or first thing in the morning. My next question - has anyone gotten pregnant after using this drug? And how long did it take you?

[savi]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ET0NP5NWlH4&feature=fvst

[Happy Bunny]

Welcome to the board; I'm sorry to read that you are going through such a tough time.

While I do not know what to make of your circumstance, I do know that many women on this board have gone through tubals, taken the drug and started IVF treatment again in a short period of time. Please check out the IVF forum... It's a lot busier and there are several posters in there that have been through what you are going through.

[savi]

It seems like such a waste. A waste of money. A waste of a life. a waste of time waiting to do this again. What a disaster!

[savi]

This nightmare just never ends. I went in today to see if my levels had dropped after the methotrexate... they actualy had come up a bit!!!I'm schedualed for another blood draw in a few days - possibly yet another inj. of methotrexate... which just sets us back even more!
You ever see a small animal get beaten w/ a baseball bat. It's bloodied it's battered, it's crys become whimpers... yet it still clings to its life... the doctor has to continue stomping on it till it's gone! THIS HAS GOT TO STOP!! There is no closure in this. You get to a point of acceptance, and the hell starts all over again!! The entire experience for me has been more than horriffic! They have no answers - they cant answer why were not getting pregnant, they cant answer why this ivf isnt in the uterus - they cant even tell me exactly where it went!

Really? Anybody? Has anyone been thru this? could use a friend here.

[Softball20]

I am sorry to hear what you are going through. I am new at the whole board and posting thing as well so I am not sure what to write. I hope they figure everything out for you.

[hope 2012]

What ever happened? Did you miscarry? I am asking b/c I got pregnant and then the embryo had no heart beat so it had to be removed. I always wondered if it really needed to be removed. I was in doubt and still wonder today. Did they ever find it? What happened in the end?