No other way?

[raven]

We have been working on the baby project for about 2 years. I am 36 years now, my husband is two years older. So far it looks like things are ok with me, but husband's sperm is low in quality and numbers. He has had numerous tests done, which has been somewhat frustrating for me, because it just takes a gigantic amount of time, where I can't do anything to help the process. We have completely changed our diets, although we both are healthy and normal weight, and stay away from processed food.

So we finally went to a fertility clinic. They had a free seminar where they were mostly talking about IVF and they offered a free consultation, which we went to. The clinic and the doctors seemed very knowledgeable, it's a big clinic and we were able to talk to different people who work there. We left with a good feeling. But now I get more and more doubts about the whole thing, mostly because it seemed to me, that they practically advertised IVF without knowing anything about husband's condition. At the point of our talk with them, they did not have any of his tests or medical work. All the doctor knew, was, that his sperm count was below 10 million, which is what we told her.

I have since received a whole schedule of when what is going to happen, had a quick US to see if there are any cysts and had some blood work done today. Husband is going in for blood work and sperm on Monday. We also got prenatals and some other vitamins prescribed right away. With the blood work today I got a more detailed schedule with medication that I will need to take once the cycle starts, without explanation. I'm sure, I can get someone to talk to me about all this, but I just got a weird feeling all of a sudden. I'm not sure, if I'm simply overwhelmed by what is happening, or if I feel like we are being pushed into 'the last resort' without exploring other possibilities. On one hand, I would love to be pregnant yesterday and not spend any more days with tests and trials, but on the other hand, would it not be better to try and find out what exactly makes us infertile?

Any similar experiences? Thoughts?

[Happy Bunny]

Some women try other things first and are successful others try other things and wish that they had gone on to IVF first.

When the diagnosis is something that can be treated via different methods usually time, finances and insurance coverage play big roles in the decision. Personally, I had no choice and had to go right for IVF.

As for the meds... At my clinic, they give us the schedule first and then teach the meds just before you are to use them so the instruction is fresh. I wouldn't worry as they might be doing the same thing at your clinic.


Welcome to the board, here you will find the most caring and supportive women.

[tuffy4u]

I felt the same way, in the end I decided that I wanted to be pregnant and didn't want to wait any longer. It's so overwhelming, especially once the box of medications arrives. ON the other hand when I started the drugs I was really excited. I ended up doing two cycles to get my pregnancy and the meds seemed easy by the end (although still annoying). It's worth it I ended up with a two for one, twins!

For me it came down to two questions 1. Can I afford this? and 2. Do I really want this bad enough to do this? If your answer is yes to both then I think IVF is the way to go.

Good luck, joining this board really helped me. You are in a good place.