Is there any hope for us?

Amanda A · Post by **Amanda A** » Tue Dec 30, 2003 6:00 pm

Before I start, I want to say to anyone who has just got pregnant that we have just been very unlucky and that there is every reason that their pregnancies will be fine. I had some light spotting at 10wks on Sat and yesterday went to my local hospital for a scan. We were fairly confident as I had already had 3 scans, the last at nearly 9 weeks and our clinic were not concerned saying that spotting was common during early pregnancy. However, they could not find a heartbeat and I am booked for a D&C on Friday. As I had already miscarried in July we had the PGD test on this cycle, so we were pretty confident that nothing was wrong with the baby and as the weeks & scans passed, that this time, we were on our way. We are in bits and I really don't know where to start, except to ask anyone if they have had a similiar experience or can offer us any help at all. Many Thanks, Love RachXX

Lisa Ch · Post by **Lisa Ch** » Tue Dec 30, 2003 8:28 pm

Rachael really sorry to read your post. I have never had this experience so can't offer any constructive help just wanted to say how sorry I am and I hope you get some answers. Love to you and dh Lisa xx

jen · Post by **jen** » Tue Dec 30, 2003 9:50 pm

Hi Rachael So sorry to hear your bad news. I wish I could offer you some words of wisdom but I don't know why your baby didn't make it. I've just miscarried at 6 weeks and like you we had PGD done this time and also had IVIG for NK cells. We're at the ARGC too. Maybe when you go for your follow up appointment Mr T might have some answers for you. It's just so awful when you do everything right and then it's still taken away from you. I'm really sorry for your loss and hope that 2004 will bring you your baby. Love Jen xx

Amanda A · Post by **Amanda A** » Tue Dec 30, 2003 10:50 pm

Lisa, Jen, Thanks for your replies, I really appreciate them. Nobody really understands like the girls on this board. Jen, I am so sorry and I really hope that things come right for you too. I had 3 IVIG's after getting pregnant and was then told that I didn't need anymore. I was never tested for NK cells and we understood that the IVIG's were just a precaution, was that the same for you? I hope you don't mind if I ask you a few questions about your treatment at a later date. It may be interesting to compare notes. Going to try my best to get some sleep now, it's been a long couple of days. Love Rach XX

Grace · Post by **Grace** » Tue Dec 30, 2003 11:55 pm

Dear Rachel All I can say is that I am so very sorry. I can only imagine how you feel. It just seems so cruel. I have followed your story and progress and was really happy for you when you got pregnant. Your cylce coinsided with my last one. You are both in my thoughts, I wish I could understand why this happens. Love to you both Gracexxx

phil · Post by **phil** » Wed Dec 31, 2003 2:52 pm

rachael, i am so sorry to hear your news. it must be devastating for you both. i know that nothing can make the pain any easier, but we are here for you for support in anyway that might help.

i'll be thinking and praying for you both.

phil x

bubblymichelle · Post by **bubblymichelle** » Wed Dec 31, 2003 3:05 pm

Hi Rach,

No matter what anyone says, the pain and hurt your feeling won't go away. I just want to say my thoughts are with you and take as much time as you need, we will all be here for you!!

Love
Shell.
xx

Di · Post by Di » Wed Dec 31, 2003 4:39 pm

Hi Rachel,
So sorry to hear your sad news - as each week goes by you breath a little sigh of relief. I can understand somewhat of how you must feel - having lost a baby at 10 weeks gestation. We too had had previous scans - the 1st they were concerned that the baby was a bit small but were happy when we went back the following week. Then at the 10 wk scan there was no heartbeat - we were devastated as there'd been no bleeding and I hadn't felt any different.
That was 2.5 yrs ago and I'm now 19 wks pg after tests at The Park in Notts. I had steriods initially, also had x 4 lots of IUIG and am still on daily heparin injections.
So don't give up hope - unfortunately these dreadful things happen and there doesn't seem to be a reason, but it doesn't mean it will always happen.
Take care,
Di

Amanda A · Post by **Amanda A** » Wed Dec 31, 2003 6:36 pm

Thank you so much for your messages, they are a big big comfort to us both at the moment.

Tomorrow we are visiting the vicar who married us and he is going to say a prayer for both of our losses this year. We are not regular church goers but he is a good friend of my parents and I feel that I want to show my little one some respect before they take him away on Friday.

Di, I would be interested to know more about the tests you had following your miscarriage, as it sounds as though I may need to go down the same route.

Thank you again for replying, I know that some of you still have your own sorrows.

Love Rach XX

RLV · Post by **RLV** » Wed Dec 31, 2003 6:53 pm

Hi Rachael

I lost my first ICSI baby August 2002, heart had stopped at 11 week scan and I also had an evacuation day after. I know you feel absolutely gutted.

BUT... I was lucky enough to get pregnant on 2nd attempt again and now have 12 week old twins!!!!!!!

So, keep hoping and don't give up.

Good luck and take care,

Luv Rachel X

Tracey S · Post by **Tracey S** » Thu Jan 01, 2004 11:18 am

Rach

Just wanted to say how sorry I am - my circumstances are not the same - had one ectopic and then Oliver died at 20 weeks and now pg with twins - nearly 8 weeks and still bricking it as you can imagine. I know these things happen for a reason but what reason - sometimes it is hard to tell.
I hope you find the strength to find your dreams.
TAke care
Love
Tracey
xxx

Alison · Post by **Alison** » Thu Jan 01, 2004 6:33 pm

Oh Rachael, I just can't believe your news. You've been such a supportive cycle buddy and shown so much kindness to me and to Lucy when things didn't work out for us, it isn't right that you should have to go through this again. I've no practical advice or information to offer, but just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you and wishing that somehow things could be different. With much love

Alison x

luce · Post by **luce** » Sun Jan 04, 2004 7:53 pm

Hi Rachael

Have only just found the new boards and was really really sad to see your post, I can't believe how cruel life can be sometimes. I had really hoped that both you and Beckym would be reaching that magical 9 month mark.

I am sure there are no words that comfort you right now, but remember that we are thinking of you, and sending you cyberhugs

Love
Luce
xx