WHAT IF WE DON'T FEEL THANKFUL AT THANKSGIVING?

[unexplained infertility]

So many of us who struggle with infertility find it difficult to list reasons to be thankful for during Thanksgiving, as we feel rather unthankful for the unsuccessful efforts at parenthood. Also, the prospect of sitting at the holiday table with pregnant or nursing women or infants in high chairs can make us very apprehensive. Not to mention the dreadful question coming from those blissful new mothers unaware of our situation: “When are you planning to have children?” You just want to stand up and leave in order not to burst into tears in front of a lot of people.

What are your ideas on how to cope with Infertile Thanksgiving?

[mommyoneday]

I read through these blogs incessantly, but this is the first time I felt like commenting. I completely know how you feel and actually starting crying when I saw your post. Please please just remember that you are doing a wonderful job. One day we'll all come out on the other end of this nightmare and be better parents and more caring people for it.

Right now, I try to focus on my husband and how lucky I am to have a partner who is really with me through this whole ordeal. I definitely loved my husband before we found out about my infertility issues, but I really love him (and know he loves me) for going through it with me with such care and compassion.

Good luck to you! (And take an extra bag of chocolate and box of tissues to Thanksgiving. You are allowed to cry.)