Hi Girls,
I have my 12wk scan on Friday (I will be 15wks and 1 day then) and I am absolutely petrified. I was casually looking up "ultrasound scans" on another website and came across an article on "missed miscarriages" which basically was talking about people who go for their 12 week scan and find that the baby has not survived. These people would not have had any pains or bleeding and it would be a complete shock and surprise to them when the scan revealed it.
This has been really playing on my mind since I read it and I am now really scared that it might have happened to me. I guess reading about Dagny's horrendous news hasn't helped either as it makes you realise just how precarious this pregnancy business can be. You kinda think that once you get past 12 weeks all will be OK but I guess you never know.
Anyway, sorry to ramble on and be pessimistic, just wanted to share my feelings with you.
I hope that everyone is doing OK.
Love Julie xx
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hi jules
i now how you feel i did the same thing myself its horrible isint it and i was same at my 20 week
you have got to think to yourself that 99 percent are fine and things like theese are rare
i still panick now even though ive only got 3 weeks left and no doubt it will carry on when my baby is here
i think thats whats called being a mother lol non stop worry
i hope you feel a bit better
best of luck im sure you and babe will be fine
dianexx
i now how you feel i did the same thing myself its horrible isint it and i was same at my 20 week
you have got to think to yourself that 99 percent are fine and things like theese are rare
i still panick now even though ive only got 3 weeks left and no doubt it will carry on when my baby is here
i think thats whats called being a mother lol non stop worry
i hope you feel a bit better
best of luck im sure you and babe will be fine
dianexx
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Dawn Blake
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Julie
I think each and every one of us has feared that, I do at each scan, it's not all exciting like you imagine it to be, not until you see the baby moving etc anyway, and then it is great.
Try not to worry too much, missed mc's are rare, remember that!
Take care, and good luck, I will look out for you post to see how you got on.
Love D x
I think each and every one of us has feared that, I do at each scan, it's not all exciting like you imagine it to be, not until you see the baby moving etc anyway, and then it is great.
Try not to worry too much, missed mc's are rare, remember that!
Take care, and good luck, I will look out for you post to see how you got on.
Love D x
hi jules, i agree with diane and dawn, so far every scan is scary and was petrified at the 12wk scan and again last wk at 17wks scan. i'm sure when we reach the stage we can feel the baby moving that it'll be easier... or maybe that's a whole new ballgame!
i'll be thinking about you for friday, let us know how you get on.
best wishes
phil
i'll be thinking about you for friday, let us know how you get on.
best wishes
phil
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helenlouise
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Oh Jules,
i know how you are feeling because i am terrified of going to the 20 week scan which isn't for another 5 weeks and finding nothing there! Even though we saw our babies at the 12 week scan, i still don't 'feel' pregnant and keep poking my belly and wonder whether its growing or if its shrunk. I guess the worrying never ends. I was happy for the rest of the day after the 12 week scan, but then the worry started again. I'm sure all will be fine and i love looking at my scan picture and try to imagine my babies growing and healthy, and i just can't wait to grow and go for the next scan.
Stay positive and good luck,
helen
i know how you are feeling because i am terrified of going to the 20 week scan which isn't for another 5 weeks and finding nothing there! Even though we saw our babies at the 12 week scan, i still don't 'feel' pregnant and keep poking my belly and wonder whether its growing or if its shrunk. I guess the worrying never ends. I was happy for the rest of the day after the 12 week scan, but then the worry started again. I'm sure all will be fine and i love looking at my scan picture and try to imagine my babies growing and healthy, and i just can't wait to grow and go for the next scan.
Stay positive and good luck,
helen
Jules
I know what you mean but these are rare - I panicked last time about this and the 12 was fine - I had the shocker at the 20 but these are VERY RARE and so is what is happening to DAGNY!!!!!!!! We will all flap especially as it approaches the scans and we can't feel them move yet so we seek comfort in other ways and then panic if we are not growing,boobs no longer hurt, not being sick anymore etc etc......... I do! I am having massive flap for my 16/17 week scan in a week tomorrow - infact if I flap anymore I will take off! I don't do scans well with my history. It is natural to worry but it is very rare for these missed m/c to happen.
Take special care
Love
Tracey
xxx
I know what you mean but these are rare - I panicked last time about this and the 12 was fine - I had the shocker at the 20 but these are VERY RARE and so is what is happening to DAGNY!!!!!!!! We will all flap especially as it approaches the scans and we can't feel them move yet so we seek comfort in other ways and then panic if we are not growing,boobs no longer hurt, not being sick anymore etc etc......... I do! I am having massive flap for my 16/17 week scan in a week tomorrow - infact if I flap anymore I will take off! I don't do scans well with my history. It is natural to worry but it is very rare for these missed m/c to happen.
Take special care
Love
Tracey
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ttc 9 years. 38 yrs old, dh 8 hrs younger!First IVF in Aug 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF neg.3rd FET and negative.4th FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th FET and Alice Isobel and Emily Charlotte born 5th Aug 2004!
Jules
As much as I hate to admit it, but Tracey is right (for once!), what happened to her and to Dagny is very very rare. And I know it does make us all a little bit more panicky and aware that things do go wrong, but we must keep things in proportion. The %chance of such dreadful things happening are very low.
The best thing you (and the rest of us!) can do is try to keep calm and keep things in perspective. Worrying will not do our babies any good at all.
so take a few deep breaths and get your @ss back on site as soon as you've been so we can all stop PANICKING!!!!!
Love nikola.xx
ps it does get a little easier when you can feel them move because at least you have some reassurance that they are still there, but as we know, this doesn't take away all the worry!
As much as I hate to admit it, but Tracey is right (for once!), what happened to her and to Dagny is very very rare. And I know it does make us all a little bit more panicky and aware that things do go wrong, but we must keep things in proportion. The %chance of such dreadful things happening are very low.
The best thing you (and the rest of us!) can do is try to keep calm and keep things in perspective. Worrying will not do our babies any good at all.
so take a few deep breaths and get your @ss back on site as soon as you've been so we can all stop PANICKING!!!!!
Love nikola.xx
ps it does get a little easier when you can feel them move because at least you have some reassurance that they are still there, but as we know, this doesn't take away all the worry!
N
Can I have the I am right again bit again but with flashy lights and different colour lettering??!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You have said this more than twice now and this constitutes several times
Love
Tracey
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Can I have the I am right again bit again but with flashy lights and different colour lettering??!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You have said this more than twice now and this constitutes several times
Love
Tracey
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ttc 9 years. 38 yrs old, dh 8 hrs younger!First IVF in Aug 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF neg.3rd FET and negative.4th FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th FET and Alice Isobel and Emily Charlotte born 5th Aug 2004!
Hello,
thanks girls, I knew I could reply on my cyber buddies to offer some words of reassurance. I am feeling a bit calmer now but I guess the anxiety won't abate until the scan is over. DH keeps telling me off for worrying saying that I am stressing our daughter out (he has already decided the baby is a girl for some reason!!) and I guess he is right.
thanks again everyone, I will post as soon as I can on Friday to let you all know.
take care everyone
Julie xx
thanks girls, I knew I could reply on my cyber buddies to offer some words of reassurance. I am feeling a bit calmer now but I guess the anxiety won't abate until the scan is over. DH keeps telling me off for worrying saying that I am stressing our daughter out (he has already decided the baby is a girl for some reason!!) and I guess he is right.
thanks again everyone, I will post as soon as I can on Friday to let you all know.
take care everyone
Julie xx
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Hi Jules
Good luck on Friday with your scan and everything will be fine. I go for my offical 12 wk scan next Tuesday (i will be 17 wks) and i am thinking just like you as we all do. I had a scan luckily at 13 wks and its nerve racking but once you see the baby waving and bouncing up and down you will forget about all the worry (until the next one). It never ends.
Helen
Good luck on Friday with your scan and everything will be fine. I go for my offical 12 wk scan next Tuesday (i will be 17 wks) and i am thinking just like you as we all do. I had a scan luckily at 13 wks and its nerve racking but once you see the baby waving and bouncing up and down you will forget about all the worry (until the next one). It never ends.
Helen
hihi julie,
Sometimes i think the prob is we know too much !!! with all the
info available nowadays we worry (quite rightly) from one scan
to the next. Im sure everything will be ok frid but i do understand,
i have my nuchal scan trmw evening, and im worried sick as im
43 so straight away my odds are not good, and my dp and myself
realy havnt been jumping round for joy at the moment as we
both are very scared.
take care
alisonn
Sometimes i think the prob is we know too much !!! with all the
info available nowadays we worry (quite rightly) from one scan
to the next. Im sure everything will be ok frid but i do understand,
i have my nuchal scan trmw evening, and im worried sick as im
43 so straight away my odds are not good, and my dp and myself
realy havnt been jumping round for joy at the moment as we
both are very scared.
take care
alisonn
Alison
Good luck with the nuchal - will wait for the post - hope all ok - I was a nightmare before mine - my blood pressure shot up so much thought I was having a coronary. If all ok you can relax for a bit until the next scan.
Helen - my scan is next thursday - I will be 16.6 and I am bricking it! Convinced I am shrinking in the bump dept again - Nikola will shoot me!
Love
Tracey
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Good luck with the nuchal - will wait for the post - hope all ok - I was a nightmare before mine - my blood pressure shot up so much thought I was having a coronary. If all ok you can relax for a bit until the next scan.
Helen - my scan is next thursday - I will be 16.6 and I am bricking it! Convinced I am shrinking in the bump dept again - Nikola will shoot me!
Love
Tracey
xxx
ttc 9 years. 38 yrs old, dh 8 hrs younger!First IVF in Aug 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF neg.3rd FET and negative.4th FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th FET and Alice Isobel and Emily Charlotte born 5th Aug 2004!