I had my first appt with midwife yesterday. It all seemed to go ok but I got the impression she wondered what I was doing there at only 7 and 1/2 weeks. She wasn't even aware it was an ivf pregnancy. When I told her that the clinic had said i was no more at risk than a natural conception and what did she think she replied "I'd just like to get you to 12 weeks". I know she's right but she didn't offer me the slightest bit of reassurance. Dh came with me and bless him he was like a spare part sat in the corner!! She didn't include him at all. He says she was just a bit shy but how can you be shy in that job??!!
I'm sorry to whinge about something so trivial but I just needed to get if off my chest. Dh thinks I'm imagining it but then he's so laid back he's virtually horizontal!!!
Sorry again to go on
Love Dawn
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We went for an early appointment with our midwife at about 8 weeks. It is routine here to have an early appoinment to 'check in' and she took down the history and recorded it in the pregnancy record that we have to take to each appointment. I wouldn't worry that she didn't seem very clued up. We saw a different midwife yesterday (16weeks) to the one we saw at 8 weeks and I thought she was better. You may well see a different midwife next visit and anyway you'll soon be at 12 weeks so just keep counting!
I feel my DP is a bit of a spare part at appoinments, but i think its good he comes every time as an extra pair or ears!
It can be scary and you just don't know what's happening - suddenly we are thrown into the normal system - yikes!!!!!!!!
Different doctors have different systems and we ahve found out we are pg very early remember! Some midwifes are v cautious and don't like to commit to anything before 12 weeks - it is just their way - not touch feely which I prefer - I understand what you are saying but please don't give it a second thought - they will probably get excited once you have got over that hurdle
Take care
Love
Tracey
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ttc 9 years. 38 yrs old, dh 8 hrs younger!First IVF in Aug 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF neg.3rd FET and negative.4th FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th FET and Alice Isobel and Emily Charlotte born 5th Aug 2004!
I to had a bad first appointment with my midwife but you just have to try and forget about it. What Tracey said is true they can be cautious (i suppose they see alot in there job) but when we have waited as long to get to where we are you would think they might be more understanding. My dh was there at the scan on tuesday and when we seen the midwife all he could do was yawn (didn't sleep much the night before) but i always like an extra pair of ears because i am terrible at taking things in.
Helen
Age 27
I.V.F started in 2001. 1st cycle +ve mc nov 2001 at 12 weeks. Fet mar 2002 +ve then -ve.
2nd cycle +ve eptopic oct 2002 6 weeks.
fet mar 2003 -ve. 3rd cycle over stimulated embies frozen. Fet nov 2003 +ve due 11/8/04.
Thanks girls for your replies.
I know your all right but I feel really negative now and a bit down.
Poor dh got it in the neck this morning because he got me the wrong orange juice!!! I just feel like I can't be arsed to get off the sofa and get myself moving. Is this just my hormones?!
I feel really crap moaning especially after Dagny's news and Nikolas scare as it seems so insignificant compared to them.
Maybe it's the crap weather here too!!
Take care all
Love Dawn
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I think we all feel the same at the moment with everything that has been happening. Don't think that your insignificant i only had my scan on Tuesday i am feeling really low today. What has happened has just made us all think twice that things can go wrong and scares do happen but we just have to keep our chins up and think positive. The weather doesn't help either.
Take care and think positive vibes.
Helen
Age 27
I.V.F started in 2001. 1st cycle +ve mc nov 2001 at 12 weeks. Fet mar 2002 +ve then -ve.
2nd cycle +ve eptopic oct 2002 6 weeks.
fet mar 2003 -ve. 3rd cycle over stimulated embies frozen. Fet nov 2003 +ve due 11/8/04.
hi Dawn,
i can sympathize with you, my moods are also all over the place these days and sometimes i feel really down just thinking ofall the hurldes ahead. then i feel guilty for not being more positive. Part of this is surely hormonal. Last week i got upset with dp for planning too many trips, he made them really short but i feel so scared being alone i cling to him in a way that's not very characteristic of me. after i complained initially now he is really good at appointments, and asks the right questions, i am usually too overwhelmed with emotion to ask all i want to. anyway, here they don't send me to a midwife at all, and my friend who is pregnant the ' normal way' tried to make an appointment but she will only see her at 12 weeks. i guess it must be the way they are. we will be moved to another clinic of the hospital though, next week after the next scan if all goes well. then i hope to get some more info on how they do things here in the netherlands. a lot of women give birth at home, including my dp's ex, but that's the last thing i would ever risk after everything we've been through...
take care and wait it out, you will surely feel more positive in a few days...
love,
juliana
She wasn't even aware it was an ivf pregnancy. When I told her that the clinic had said i was no more at risk than a natural conception and what did she think she replied "I'd just like to get you to 12 weeks". I know she's right but she didn't offer me the slightest bit of reassurance. Dh came with me and bless him he was like a spare part sat in the corner!! She didn't include him at all. He says she was just a bit shy but how can you be shy in that job??!!