Hi
I could really use some advice about timing from people who've been through the dreaded 2ww. Had my first consultation on Friday and I want to get started asap. They've said they want to monitor me for a month (blood tests, scans etc) then decide which protocol to put me on, but because I'm an old bird (42) I'll probably be on a really short programme, where you do the down reg'ing and the injections all at the same time and ET is about 17 - 20 days after day 1 of your cycle.
The thing is the timing is looking like it'll work out that ET happens just before my sister and her family come over for a 3 week visit from New Zealand. I haven't seen them in 4 years and am obviously looking forward to it immensely. We have a big family holiday booked in Devon for the first week of July. All of this could be part of my 2ww. Is this likely to be a) a fantastic distraction which will keep my mind off the obvious or b) an utter emotional disaster, which ruins everybody's holiday? My sister has 2 kids (2 & 5) and we are going to a holiday village which is likely to be full of toddlers, being pre-school hols. I seem to be past the stage of weeping at the sight of other people's babies or very small shoes, but who knows what the hormones will do to me.
On the other hand, if I wait then my next cycle after that will probably start while we're in Devon and my clinic's in London (and this is the quick programme where the first 10- 12 days of your cycle are where most of the action takes place and I'd have to be in London), so I won't be able to do that one and I'd have to wait til August and, well, time is marching on.
So, should I wait til August or risk doing it all while my sister's here?
any advice gratefully received
Caroline
Should I wait?
Hi Caroline
It's a tough one isn't it?? I think I would go ahead with it when you sister comes because like you say it will keep your mind off it and you won't have time to worry too much either. It will be nice having someone there like your sister to help you through it as well.
It's horried having to make decisions like this as you want to be prepared with no stress etc but you don't want to put treatment off for months either.
I hope you decide the best thing for you.
Good luck Caroline
Love Dagny xkx
It's a tough one isn't it?? I think I would go ahead with it when you sister comes because like you say it will keep your mind off it and you won't have time to worry too much either. It will be nice having someone there like your sister to help you through it as well.
It's horried having to make decisions like this as you want to be prepared with no stress etc but you don't want to put treatment off for months either.
I hope you decide the best thing for you.
Good luck Caroline
Love Dagny xkx
Me 38 DH 40
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle
Hi Caroline,
I had a similar problem. My sister (who I haven't seen for several years) was scheduled to visit me in May. It took her forever to be able to get time off from work. I thought that I would be done with the 2 ww by the time she visited but the problem was it ended up taking longer to downreg and stim than I had anticipated. On top of that, they decided to do a 5 day transfer instead of 3. Basically, as it turned out, she would have ended up visiting a few days after the transfer. My concern was that I wanted to have a clean house when she was here and go shopping for things she likes, etc. In addition, I wanted to be able to show her around the area and go to some fun places. Of course, after the transfer, one is supposed to take it easy so I just didn't see how it would be possible. I was also paranoid about the possibility of OHSS or some other complication arising. At any rate, I ended up canceling her visit. Fortunately, she thinks she can come in September instead. I think it was the right thing to do. As much as I was looking forward to seeing her, I think it would have just created additional stress for me at a time when I needed the ability to relax.
However, your case is different in the sense that it looks like your family coming at a different time is not an option. I think that if it had been a choice between prolonging when I started the IVF or having her visit during the 2 ww, I would have had to go with the latter and just try to make it work the best I could.
Staci
I had a similar problem. My sister (who I haven't seen for several years) was scheduled to visit me in May. It took her forever to be able to get time off from work. I thought that I would be done with the 2 ww by the time she visited but the problem was it ended up taking longer to downreg and stim than I had anticipated. On top of that, they decided to do a 5 day transfer instead of 3. Basically, as it turned out, she would have ended up visiting a few days after the transfer. My concern was that I wanted to have a clean house when she was here and go shopping for things she likes, etc. In addition, I wanted to be able to show her around the area and go to some fun places. Of course, after the transfer, one is supposed to take it easy so I just didn't see how it would be possible. I was also paranoid about the possibility of OHSS or some other complication arising. At any rate, I ended up canceling her visit. Fortunately, she thinks she can come in September instead. I think it was the right thing to do. As much as I was looking forward to seeing her, I think it would have just created additional stress for me at a time when I needed the ability to relax.
However, your case is different in the sense that it looks like your family coming at a different time is not an option. I think that if it had been a choice between prolonging when I started the IVF or having her visit during the 2 ww, I would have had to go with the latter and just try to make it work the best I could.
Staci
Thanks Staci & Dagny
It's interesting that you both seem to have come to the same conclusion, ie go for it. Staci, though, you seem to have had all the same concerns as me about how much you'd be able to do with your sister. I've got a bit of time to think about it, but actually as the reality of it all sinks in, I'm getting slightly cold feet about the whole thing. It's such a lot of money and it probably won't work at my age. Maybe I'm just setting myself up for disappointment.
Anyway, thanks for your encouragement. Going to put off making a decision yet again and go to the garden centre instead (looking forward to the garden centre, I ask you - I'm clearly too middle aged to be a new mum!)
Caroline
It's interesting that you both seem to have come to the same conclusion, ie go for it. Staci, though, you seem to have had all the same concerns as me about how much you'd be able to do with your sister. I've got a bit of time to think about it, but actually as the reality of it all sinks in, I'm getting slightly cold feet about the whole thing. It's such a lot of money and it probably won't work at my age. Maybe I'm just setting myself up for disappointment.
Anyway, thanks for your encouragement. Going to put off making a decision yet again and go to the garden centre instead (looking forward to the garden centre, I ask you - I'm clearly too middle aged to be a new mum!)
Caroline
Hi Caroline
I hope you don't get cold feet. Can I just tell you that a friend of my Mum's had IVF twins at the tender age of 47!! It worked 1st time and she hasn't looked back. Her girls are beautiful.
Love Dagny xkx
I hope you don't get cold feet. Can I just tell you that a friend of my Mum's had IVF twins at the tender age of 47!! It worked 1st time and she hasn't looked back. Her girls are beautiful.
Love Dagny xkx
Me 38 DH 40
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle
Hi Caroline,
Cold feet and doubts are so normal but IGNORE THEM
I agree with the pps, I'd go ahead sooner vs. later and use the holiday as a fabulous and happy distraction. I've had 3 x 2 wws to date and always needed to inject a huge dose of work to help get me through.
Debra (Another old bird - I've just turned 40)
Cold feet and doubts are so normal but IGNORE THEM
I agree with the pps, I'd go ahead sooner vs. later and use the holiday as a fabulous and happy distraction. I've had 3 x 2 wws to date and always needed to inject a huge dose of work to help get me through. Debra (Another old bird - I've just turned 40)
I'd also say go for it asap. And please don't get cold feet...its not that bad and at the end you have a chance of having a baby. I am flying off on a holiday 2 days after et (in June). This is with a group of friends, two of them are bringing their babies with them.... so I know it will be tough but for my first 2ww I did nothing. Was a billy no mates and was thorughly miserable. I am determined not to do that again. Other people get pregnant without changing their lifestyle ...
Good luck .....
From Sophie-Jane
Good luck .....
From Sophie-Jane
Aged 32. 1st ivf failed March 04. Going to try again with my frosties.
Have a scruffy dog called Tobye.
Have a scruffy dog called Tobye.