hello again

[sarah stead]

Thank you to everyone who has welcomed me to the forum. You have alrready helped me by letting me know there are women in the same situ. as I am. Thanks to loobyloo for the break down on terminology, I thought I was losing the plot. I stayed online until late last night but everyone seemed very quiet, do you all log off early or have I not got the hang of this yet. It's great to see so many people commuticating about such a delicate subject. i remember trying to explain IVF to my brother and ended up saying "most people just need each other to get pregnant, but I need a hospital room 3 doctors and a couple of nurses" He didn't see the funny side. There is something I have noticed and that is that I am not allowed a sense of humour although my opinion is slowly changing. Does anyone have family that they feel jelous of because tey get pregnant at the drop of a hat? It's terrible is'nt it. I am also god mother to loads of babies as everyone wants to make sure that I will be a mum in some form and I just cannot sya no when I see those liitle bundles of joy. Especialy when they chuck up all over me. Great fun eh, and we want this every day, are we nuts???

[loopylou57uk]

hi sarah,people tend to log on more during the day i think,as some only have pc`s at work,
iknow what you mean about getting jealous about other people,i have`nt really had that problem with family,but with a friend,she has a 6 month old and another on the wayand shes only 21.im pushing 32 this year and struggling to get 1.i think its more envy rather than jealousy,and unfairness,i just really hope this go works.why dont you join in on the june or july thresd your more than welcom and you will have more chance to chat,you only live down the road from me,i am in middlesbrough.
spesk soon.love loopy.

[sarah stead]

I don,t understand what you mean by june/july thread. I would

[DebraP]

Sarah....we group together in 'buddy' groups if we are all having tmt in a certain month. If you look at the post titles you should be able to see 'June cycle buddies' and 'July cycle buddies'. They start about a month before by someone who hopes to start their tmt then. I started the June board in mid-May. Other people who plan to do the same join in and we chat about the different drugs, feelings, apts., scans, news etc. It's really supportive and there's usually at least 4-5 people each month. If you look at July, there are maybe 10 people all preparing. Anyone can join/post/reply.

Looking through a whole buddy board can be quite time consuming but you'll get a really good idea of how it works.

Good luck!
Debra.

[sarah stead]

I think your right about the envy rather than jelousy, but it still seems terrible. I have 2 sisters who both have 3 children, they fell pregnant very easily each time. People at work think I don't like kids, strange that isn't it? No baby, no maternal instinct!!!! I think after the age of 30 (I'm 34) people think you should have a babe in arms, if not, your odd and want to know why. No, I think I'm being a bit neg. there. Never mind. I work but our internet usage is monitored and I think this would be a disallowed site, so I can only log on at home. I would like to be your cycle buddy but I don't know how it works and I don't know when my cycle will start as I have not had my opp. to see the specialist yet. Sorry I got your name wrong by the way.

[DebraP]

Hi again. Lots of people read and post on the cycle boards but aren't having tmt yet. If they've experience of something and can help with a Q. for instance. Or want to wish people luck for an important date. I know there a few people planning for Aug/Sept but it only becomes obvious the month before when a thread appears. It's also not uncommon that people find the board just before their tmt begins. They've waited for the green light and then realise they've a 1000 Qs so look on line and bingo! Most people are in the UK but there are also some elsewhere, the US, the odd one or two in Europe (me included), a couple in Australia etc. That's why you'll sometimes see different drug names or regimes (someone in July might be having 4-5 embroys put back etc.)

Enjoy,
Debra.

[sarah stead]

Thanks for the Debra,

I have had some exp. with IVF having 2 attempts in the past. I am having difficulty keeping a conv. going though and find I am skipping into different conv. How did you find thid site if your in Norway, I wouldn't have found it without the info from the hospital.I feel as though I know nothing about IVF now as it is 5 yrs since my last attempt, I don't think there was a web site to look into then except medical.
I hope I can keep in touch with the ladies as my poor hubby gets more stressed than I do when where we go through IVF.