Keep in touch August buddies!

[Jeanie]

Hi to all ex August buddies! You've been such a wonderful bunch, I hoped we might be able to keep in touch. Fantastic that so many have had BFPs and would be wonderful to know how you get on. Also, as over half of us are sadly still trying, would love to know how you are and what's next for you. I don't know if this is a bit unusual, but I have valued your support so much it would be nice to know each of us has our wishes granted. Please drop a line if you can - our posts are already on the 'previous months' list. Thankyou to you all again for being so helpful and caring. Hope this gets some posts or I will feel a bit stupid!!!
Take care, lots of love, Jeanie xxxxxx

[ogr1]

please dont ever feel stupid.

sometime we are foolish and very crazy , but never stupid!!!!
i think that it is great that evryone sticks together
i know it is hard and wonder why someone else gets a +
and all though very very happy for them it still hurts when it is not yourself
and that i think is sometimes why people dont always come back on.
i know for me sometimes it is very hard to come on and sometimes i just sit here and wonder what the hell do i have to offer anyone?

god forbid if i srewed somebody up by something that i wrote

but i think that it is important to keep moving on and never standing still.
it isnt good to keep one foot in the past and one in the future
or you will be pissing all over your self

i guess i got way off track , and i cant even blame it on being up lat cause it is only in the afternoon!!!!!!
it is rainging here again.
i am so sick of the rain. i will be glad when it turns into snow!!!


good luck and when are going to give it another go?
becky

[gsn]

I still am struggling with a failed ivf. We have talked about doing it again. We hope to have another child. It is a hard thing. Good luck to all.
Gayle

[Mia]

Hi Jeanie,
We did have an awesome month in August didn't we? It is a shame some of that luck did not rub off on the two of us. I have been tracking the lucky ladies on the other side. I think getting pregnant is like a major extension of the 2WW wait. They are all over there worrying about every little symptom or absence of symptoms. Of course, if it would have been us we would be acting the same way.
I think Becky is right in part. I tested early in August with a negative, so when so many got pregnant I had to deal with a lot of anger and jealousy.
On the other hand we go from having so much support from other women on the board and then we just scatter even through many of us are still in the same boat and are still trying. I suspect you will get lots of posts to your message. I think many of the August Buddies are still out there even if they do not post as often as before.
I will be doing a FET in January, and I am really looking forward to it.
You can believe when I get a positive (whenever it happens) I will be posting my BFP in such huge font no one will be able to miss it!

Will you be trying again soon?
Love, Mia

[jaye]

Hi August buddies,

Jeanie, thankyou so much for starting this thread - of course you shouldn't feel silly!

This is probably the best place to share my bad news with you. Our little miracle was short-lived. My levels dropped over the last 4 days, so it was not to be. Still, we had a few days of hope.

DH and I will just spend some time together now. I feel confident we'll go again, if not this year then early next year. I might see some of you then. We are going to see the doctor again, but every time she just says the same - have hope, be optimistic, there's no reason it shouldn't work. I figure we are no worse off than we were before, and we are very happy. We have a lot to be grateful for and this has consumed enough of my life. I am not going to spend forever chasing something if it's not to be.

Mia, I know what you mean about the anger and jealousy. Somehow it's as if everyone else's positive somehow decreases your chances. Silly, isn't it. I will try and learn from this. Again.

Thanks again for all your kind words and thoughts,

Jaye

[AMITHIS]

Mia,

I'll be doing a FET in Jan. too (a medicated cycle). Will you be doing a medicated cycle too?

Jaye,

I am really sorry to see your news. Does your clinic have any explanation for why this happened again? Are there tests they can run? You seem to have a really good perspective on things and to be taking it well but I know you must still be quite upset. Take care of yourself and DH.
Maybe we'll be cycling together in Jan.


Staci

[ogr1]

oh jaye i am so sorry.
i hope that you are both able to find some answers.

please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers
becky

[Ellie]

Jaye
I am so sorry about your sad news, I was so hopeful for you and your dh.
Lets hope next time is the real thing!

I am trying to decide whether or not to do IVF again and have given myself until christmas to decide. I think I am happy to leave it all alone and enjoy my twins. I don't think dh is though he hasn't said anything but I just have this feeling.If he can't settle without having another try I guess we will be doing it again in jan or feb!!!so I may cycle with some of you again.

I am trying to fill my life with other things at the moment but do keep popping back just to see how everyone is. I think this is a really nice thread. Thank you Jeanie!

[Dolly]

Hi there, I think it is a fantastic idea to keep in touch. Hopefully those of us who wern't lucky enough to get a +ve this time can be buddies again in the future.

Jaye, I am so sorry to hear your news. Have your clinic offered you any tests. When I had my second m/c DH and I had some blood tests to see if they could find any reasons - unfortunately, apparently like most, they came back all clear - so they just put it down to "one of those things".

I'm glad to hear that you are going to give it another go... hopefully we will get to cycle again next time.

Take care

Love Dolly

[Paige]

Jeanie:

How sweet of you to start this thread and think of all of your August Buddies! What a journey everyone has been on. I would love to keep up with everyone. Hopefully every last one of us will end up with a smiley face someday soon.

Paige

[Sand]

Hi Jeanie .... What a great idea for a post

It would be good to keep in touch with all the ACBs until we all have those +++vvveees !

Jaye - I'm so sorry to read your news. My heart goes out to you and dh - I can't imagine what you're going through. Take care.

Sandra x

[JaneR]

Hi Jeanie,

What a great idea! Although i dissapeared mid August I did try and keep an eye on what was going on every few days, but felt I couldn't post as i was in a sort of limbo, not doing at reatment and not knowing when I could start the next.

I didn't want to count my chickens a second time until I actually started stimming and to day was the day, they've put me on a flare so its going to be very short, no hanging around this time. I'm nervous about joining the Sept buddies I don't know anyone on there I got to know you lot quite well and you were all a great support when things were going wrong.

Staci - its a pitty we're not under going treatment at the same time as we were going through the same things last time, and I always think better luck in numbers.

Well I'll be keeping an eye on all of you and will start posting again now I out of limbo.

Good luck to everyone.

Jane

[wendy30]

Jeannie

I think it is a great idea especially as a lot of us are in limbo just trying to decide what to do or waiting to go again.

Jaye, I was so sorry to hear that you lost your little miracle

Mia, I think you hit the nail on the head with your comment of a bfp just being an extension of the 2ww, but worse, my 2ww was fine I only became terrified when I knew I was pregnant, not sure how I will cope next time after miscarrying at 6weeks this time, still I need to do it again and be positive. Nov or Dec for me I think.

Couldn't have got through my cycle this time without this board and the August Cycle Buddies.

Wendy

[Paige]

August Buddies:

I have a question:

My friend just had her 4th IUI this month. They inseminated 2 days in a row. She went for her pregnancy test day ten after insemination and only had a level of 7. So the Dr. told her to come back, because they cannot 100% rule out the pregnancy, but her progesterone was so low as well they didn't give her much hope. AF came over the weekend so she cancelled her blood test that was to be on MOn. She was continually doing ovulation predictor kits throughout the entire process to monitor her LH surge....the LH surge did not go away. So yesterday she took an hpt and it was "barely positive", she thought she was seeing things so went to the store and bought a different test and it read positive. She's taken 2 more hpts today and they both say positive but she said the lines are not dark at all. She had a full blown AF. Does anyone know what might be going on? Maybe since she was on Follistim and produced 10 eggs one fertilized and on ovulated so AF came as a result of the ovulation? She goes to the Dr. tomorrow to clarify just what is happening, but I'll bet we've talked on the phone 10 times in these 2 days because we cannot stand not knowing. She's been trying to conceive for 3 yrs, and the Dr. cannot come up with a good reason besides egg quality that they are not getting PG.

Paige

[jaye]

Hi all,

You know, I was on the bus last night on the way home from work, and there was the gorgeous little boy about 4 or 5, being all cute and trying to talk to his mum and stuff. She was just looking out the window and ignoring him. The only thing she replied to was when he said, 'are you tired, mummy?' she was just like, 'of course i'm tired'. Finally he said to her, 'mummy, are you sick of me?' She didn't even respond. It was so heart-breaking. I know you can't judge other people, but I just wished there was some way I could make her understand how amazing that little miracle person was and how much others would give to have the same opportunity.

Sorry Paige, that didn't help with your friend's question - but it's just an observation.

jaye.