Hi Girls,
Well I managed the forum for us all to share our motherhood stories, I know there are a few who would love to share the photo's of the babies so do you think its a good idea?
Join in the poll and lets see what happens.
Would you like to share your baby photo's on this site? POLL
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bubblymichelle
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Hi Michelle, I just wanted to explain why I voted no 
I might be being overly sensitive but this is fundamentally an infertility site. We all know how painful it is to see babies when we were trying, yes it can be encouraging but I feel photos are just a step too far.
I also post on babycentre.co.uk where we group together in birth months and chat about what our kids are doing at their particular age. It helps to swap photos, Qs and developmental issues with mums of same-age children.
Don't want to be a wet blanket and I'm sure your suggestion will be popular, I just thought I'd expain my 'no'.
Debra.
I might be being overly sensitive but this is fundamentally an infertility site. We all know how painful it is to see babies when we were trying, yes it can be encouraging but I feel photos are just a step too far.I also post on babycentre.co.uk where we group together in birth months and chat about what our kids are doing at their particular age. It helps to swap photos, Qs and developmental issues with mums of same-age children.
Don't want to be a wet blanket and I'm sure your suggestion will be popular, I just thought I'd expain my 'no'.
Debra.
For what it's worth, here's my two pennorth! My view is that we hear so much about babies on this 'Parent after Treatment' board, I think it would be nice to see them as well as hear about them.
This board is an infertility site, and everyone tends to meet, chat and become friends when they are starting treatment or during treatment. Everyone wants to move over to the Pregnant after treatment board so they can then keep those friendships alive, chat and support each other further. I found the board to be such a comfort and support when I found it on the 2ww of my second IVF/ICSI. I also found the support from the girls on the 'Pregnant after treatment' baord to be enormously uplifting and comforting, and I know that when I was on the 2ww I hoped and prayed so hard that one day I would be able to join the girls on the other board.
Because it's such an emotional and scary thing to go through I think I made some real friends on the board - Shell, Jo, Tracey, Jules to name but a few. When we were blessed with a positive result we were there for each other, through the good times and the sad times when things went wrong. And we're still there for each other even though we've now had our babies, which is why Shell's Parents After Treatment forum was such a good idea. I think it's an incredibly positive thing that with God's help we have all triumphed over infertility and tragedy and been blessed with our babies, and we have all gone through this together.
As we can all testify - the worrying does not ever stop so I think we need each other's support now as much as ever, but for different reasons. Because we have all become so close I would love to see the babies that we have all tried so hard to get, and during the treatment and pregnancies we have supported each other over.
I know it's an infertility site but think that the Parents after treatment forum (with option to incl pics) is an obvious progression from the Prenant after treatment forum, and is a an excellent resource for support, advice and friendship, exactly as the IVF and general and all the other forums are.
I don't mean this to be insensitive in any way as we've all gone through the same process and most of us know exactly how devastating a failed cycle can be, but when I was on the 2ww, I didn;t feel that including a 'pregnant after treatment' forum was insensitive, I found it hopeful and motivating that people did get through this, so I hope that people will view the 'Parents' board in the same way, ideally with the facility to incl pics if people want to.
Think I have wittered on for long enough. Sorry. Will get off my soapbox now.
Love to all, whatever stage you're at.
love Sally xxx
This board is an infertility site, and everyone tends to meet, chat and become friends when they are starting treatment or during treatment. Everyone wants to move over to the Pregnant after treatment board so they can then keep those friendships alive, chat and support each other further. I found the board to be such a comfort and support when I found it on the 2ww of my second IVF/ICSI. I also found the support from the girls on the 'Pregnant after treatment' baord to be enormously uplifting and comforting, and I know that when I was on the 2ww I hoped and prayed so hard that one day I would be able to join the girls on the other board.
Because it's such an emotional and scary thing to go through I think I made some real friends on the board - Shell, Jo, Tracey, Jules to name but a few. When we were blessed with a positive result we were there for each other, through the good times and the sad times when things went wrong. And we're still there for each other even though we've now had our babies, which is why Shell's Parents After Treatment forum was such a good idea. I think it's an incredibly positive thing that with God's help we have all triumphed over infertility and tragedy and been blessed with our babies, and we have all gone through this together.
As we can all testify - the worrying does not ever stop so I think we need each other's support now as much as ever, but for different reasons. Because we have all become so close I would love to see the babies that we have all tried so hard to get, and during the treatment and pregnancies we have supported each other over.
I know it's an infertility site but think that the Parents after treatment forum (with option to incl pics) is an obvious progression from the Prenant after treatment forum, and is a an excellent resource for support, advice and friendship, exactly as the IVF and general and all the other forums are.
I don't mean this to be insensitive in any way as we've all gone through the same process and most of us know exactly how devastating a failed cycle can be, but when I was on the 2ww, I didn;t feel that including a 'pregnant after treatment' forum was insensitive, I found it hopeful and motivating that people did get through this, so I hope that people will view the 'Parents' board in the same way, ideally with the facility to incl pics if people want to.
Think I have wittered on for long enough. Sorry. Will get off my soapbox now.
Love to all, whatever stage you're at.
love Sally xxx
Hi...I'm just a miserable old trout at the moment (if not longer!). Two v. close friends have given birth to daughters this week and whilst I'm thrilled for them, I'm also unhappy as with 4 straight fails, we're not going to try again but I can't quite shake off the idea yet. I'm supposed to work from home but haven't begun today (and it's 12.15 here), all I can do is mooch around feeling sorry for myself.
I need a kick up the arse. The board is a lovely idea, I'll keep my miserable thoughts to myself
Debra.
I need a kick up the arse. The board is a lovely idea, I'll keep my miserable thoughts to myself
Debra.
Dear Debra- we all get trouty so don't feel you need to apologise. The good thing is that these forums are that - a forum for us to talk and get whatever is worrying/upsetting/uplifting us off their chests.
I have a horrid tendency to wiffle on (sorry!) and I do understand your 'no' vote. To explain my 'yes', I've only just come back on the board (returned to work after mat leave) so aftre 9 months I have been quite over-excited about meeting up again (in a cyberspace way) with the girls that I was on the 2 ww with - that's why I was so eager to share pics as we've shared each other's triumphs and tragedies over the past couple of years trying. I had no idea there was a 'parent after treatment' forum so I got a bit over keen. Sorry!!
I'm so sorry that you have had 4 negatives. I was devastated aftr 1 so can't imaging how you must be feeling. Think you're entitled to a trouty moment or two! I know that it's also doubly upsetting when every person around you is getting pregnant,seemingly after one night of unprotected sex. Have you already had a baby (you mentioned you post on Babycentre)? Was that through assisted fertility? Have you been IVF-fing and had 4 negatives? Will you try again do you think? Whatever you do, please don't give up hope. Sorry for being 'overzealous!'
love SAlly xxx
I have a horrid tendency to wiffle on (sorry!) and I do understand your 'no' vote. To explain my 'yes', I've only just come back on the board (returned to work after mat leave) so aftre 9 months I have been quite over-excited about meeting up again (in a cyberspace way) with the girls that I was on the 2 ww with - that's why I was so eager to share pics as we've shared each other's triumphs and tragedies over the past couple of years trying. I had no idea there was a 'parent after treatment' forum so I got a bit over keen. Sorry!!
I'm so sorry that you have had 4 negatives. I was devastated aftr 1 so can't imaging how you must be feeling. Think you're entitled to a trouty moment or two! I know that it's also doubly upsetting when every person around you is getting pregnant,seemingly after one night of unprotected sex. Have you already had a baby (you mentioned you post on Babycentre)? Was that through assisted fertility? Have you been IVF-fing and had 4 negatives? Will you try again do you think? Whatever you do, please don't give up hope. Sorry for being 'overzealous!'
love SAlly xxx
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bubblymichelle
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Hi Debra,
We are all here for each other and I respect your wishes I really do, I can understand your concerns with having failed cycles you'd probably feel like your nose was being rubbed in it. I will see what the outcome is and take it from there, but you don't have to keep your thoughts to yourself, I am here for ever one and that includes you, just because you don't agree with the photo thing doesn't mean that you can't voice your opinion.
Love
Shell.
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We are all here for each other and I respect your wishes I really do, I can understand your concerns with having failed cycles you'd probably feel like your nose was being rubbed in it. I will see what the outcome is and take it from there, but you don't have to keep your thoughts to yourself, I am here for ever one and that includes you, just because you don't agree with the photo thing doesn't mean that you can't voice your opinion.
Love
Shell.
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You two are so sweet. I'm that miserable that I cried reading your kind replies. I should go out for a walk, even though it's darn cold.... but really I should work (or go to the dentist and sort out what went wrong with a filling last week).
Yes my baby is from IVF. She was the result of our first try and it's been so hard having the fails afterwards. We thought we'd have no problems getting pg again. One of the FETs did work but only briefly. I didn't find the board until I was starting tmt #2 and couldn't believe how I got through the first time without the support and help of my buddies. I know how good it feels to share with people who truly understand.
Going to call the dentist now....
Thanks again,
Debra.
Yes my baby is from IVF. She was the result of our first try and it's been so hard having the fails afterwards. We thought we'd have no problems getting pg again. One of the FETs did work but only briefly. I didn't find the board until I was starting tmt #2 and couldn't believe how I got through the first time without the support and help of my buddies. I know how good it feels to share with people who truly understand.
Going to call the dentist now....
Thanks again,
Debra.
Hi Shell
Not sure if you remember me but when I first found this site it was when you were on the 2 ww & flapping!! I bet you LOL when you think back to those worrying times now you have your precious ALex.....
Anyway,
I am a bit of a lurker at the moment, waiting to find out if our Health authority will fund for us next April..........
We have spent £5k so far...(1 full cycle- no et due to ohss, and 2 failed fets) Finding it hard at the moment but life goes on an all that.......
Anyway, from a "no success" yet point of view I think its a lovely idea....AT the end of the day this forum is clearly titled PArents AFter Treatment and my view is if you think you will find it upsetting then dont look at this forum...........I dont think looking at photos is any more upsetting than reading about babies..............ANyway, clarly I have not posted for a while as I am waffling..........
So signing off and wishing all you new mums lots of joy and happiness
Sarah
xxx
Not sure if you remember me but when I first found this site it was when you were on the 2 ww & flapping!! I bet you LOL when you think back to those worrying times now you have your precious ALex.....
Anyway,
I am a bit of a lurker at the moment, waiting to find out if our Health authority will fund for us next April..........
We have spent £5k so far...(1 full cycle- no et due to ohss, and 2 failed fets) Finding it hard at the moment but life goes on an all that.......
Anyway, from a "no success" yet point of view I think its a lovely idea....AT the end of the day this forum is clearly titled PArents AFter Treatment and my view is if you think you will find it upsetting then dont look at this forum...........I dont think looking at photos is any more upsetting than reading about babies..............ANyway, clarly I have not posted for a while as I am waffling..........
So signing off and wishing all you new mums lots of joy and happiness
Sarah
xxx
Shell,
I think it's a great idea. We all post about our little one's and it would be lovely to be able to see who we're all talking about. Also, I'm so proud of Dan that I LOVE to bore people rigid with piccies of him.
Sue.x
I think it's a great idea. We all post about our little one's and it would be lovely to be able to see who we're all talking about. Also, I'm so proud of Dan that I LOVE to bore people rigid with piccies of him.
Sue.x
ttc for almost 4 years, diagnosed as unexplained. Just about to begin treatment when we were lucky enough to concieve naturally. Our beautiful baby boy, Daniel, was born on 27 Sept 2003. Now expecting again, baby due 22 Aug 2005.
yes it hurts to see babies i dont think that that ever completly goes away. i have been waiting 22 years for that.
but i do know for me that it does my heart and soul wonders when woppa sent me an e-mail when she was pregnant with her twins. and when she e-mailed me a photo of her daughter, and all of the photos of tracey 's miracales. it gives me hope for this world and it takes some of the sting out for me.
i kind of feel like i am an auntie or something. and yes i do wish that that was me sending every one photos of our child . i dont think i would be human if i didnt. and i think they know that.
i have gotten + and -s and have had to barry my children.
and i would love to see everyones miracales. we have shared so much with eachother why not share the reason why.
you know it was aslo great when i have gotten emails of well like traci and her camping (although with the bed she had i dont know how you call that camping) and the different wedding photos that i have been e-mailed have been great to. it is nice to put faces with the people that i have gotten to know. the photos that dagny sent ment touched my heart and soul.. photos can say more then any words ever could.
i think today was a good day.
becky
but i do know for me that it does my heart and soul wonders when woppa sent me an e-mail when she was pregnant with her twins. and when she e-mailed me a photo of her daughter, and all of the photos of tracey 's miracales. it gives me hope for this world and it takes some of the sting out for me.
i kind of feel like i am an auntie or something. and yes i do wish that that was me sending every one photos of our child . i dont think i would be human if i didnt. and i think they know that.
i have gotten + and -s and have had to barry my children.
and i would love to see everyones miracales. we have shared so much with eachother why not share the reason why.
you know it was aslo great when i have gotten emails of well like traci and her camping (although with the bed she had i dont know how you call that camping) and the different wedding photos that i have been e-mailed have been great to. it is nice to put faces with the people that i have gotten to know. the photos that dagny sent ment touched my heart and soul.. photos can say more then any words ever could.
i think today was a good day.
becky
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
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bubblymichelle
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Becky - just to say that i cried when I read your post. You always are so full of inspiration and comforting sensible words for everyone, and you are so brave. I think you are an inspiration to us all and just wanted to tell you how lucky we are to have you around.
love Sally xxx
love Sally xxx
Me - severe endo, DH - poor sperm. First IVF ICSI Nov 02 neg. Second IVF/ICSI May 03 Positive.
Miracle baby Jay born on 27th January 04
Miracle baby Jay born on 27th January 04
Oh Becky - you are a love. I'm sure every perosn on this board wishes they could give you what you want.
Shell - Sorry, I haven't voted as I can't make up my mind...B****y fat lot of good I know. I'm with Debra AND Sally. Also, internet awareness and piccies of babies also sets off bells (probably cos I've just done a child protection course...). The board in general is a fabby idea though.
Z x
Shell - Sorry, I haven't voted as I can't make up my mind...B****y fat lot of good I know. I'm with Debra AND Sally. Also, internet awareness and piccies of babies also sets off bells (probably cos I've just done a child protection course...). The board in general is a fabby idea though.
Z x
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bubblymichelle
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Hi Girls,
Just to let you know I have decided I won't be putting the idea forward to Marcus I know some of us would like to share photo's but the thing is I ain't going to do it. If we want to share then maybe we could exchange email addresses which is an idea.
Sorry if anyone doesn't respect what I have decided.
Love
Shell.
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Just to let you know I have decided I won't be putting the idea forward to Marcus I know some of us would like to share photo's but the thing is I ain't going to do it. If we want to share then maybe we could exchange email addresses which is an idea.
Sorry if anyone doesn't respect what I have decided.
Love
Shell.
xx