failed 1st ivf

[Alison190]

had my 1st go at ivf not very sucessful,i have 2 eggs frozen,will try again in the new year.

[Sand]

Hi Alison190

I'm sorry to hear your first IVF cycle wasn't successful. That's no reason to think that next time it won't be a +ve - keep thinking positive thoughts !! .... I've had 2 -ve cycles, and hope to go again around March. We may be cycle buddies Just use this time in between to make sure your body's as ready as it can be - good diet, supplements, cut down/cease any alcohol etc ...

Take care

Sandra x

[julie n]

Alison,

I understand how you must be feeling, it is so hard when you get a negative result. Just remember that the clinic will have learnt things about you from this cycle and when you are ready to pick yourself you go for it!

Julie

[sophiejane]

Alison,
I am so sorry to hear about your negative. I know how hard it is .. how devastatingly sad. I was so angry and cried for ages when I had my first negative. But it will work for you, and for the largest percentage of people it doesn;t work first time. It didn't for me, but I have just had a positive on my 3rd go.
I have no idea why it worked this time for me and not the previous two times as I didn't do much different.
So take time to grieve, and then enjoy chocolate, alcohol and dancing at Xmas before having another tretament in the new year. Those frosties will come up trumps for you in the New Year .
All the best
From Sophie-J

[Leanne]

Hi,
I am so sorry to hear about your first cycle. I have just been through my third cycle with a neg. From my own personal experience ( I know not everybody will agree) I found the first negative the worst. I think it's because I had so much hope and all my family and friends knew all the dates and it was like a big adventure that ended badly.

I was so upset, I cried for days, I had time off work, luckily my boss has been very supportive. Once I had cried it all out I started to think positive again. My cousin made me feel better by telling me that, most pregnancies do not succeed first time (and many women don't even know they are pregnant) as the new cells are rejected from the body as a foreign object, well for the body to get used to the cells it needs to experience them, sometimes several times, to understand that they are not bad cells. It is just hearbreaking that many of us have to go through more than we deserve. My way of feeling positive ( and I am looking into my 4th try) is to think well at least I'm another step closer. It might sound strange but in many ways I am getting more positive each time.

My personal advice would be, let all your emotions out, feel the pain and then put it behind you. Please don't give up!!! If you are like me, IVF is the first experience my body has had of actually trying for a baby ( my tubes are damaged and chances are sperm has never made it very far) so it would be like the "average" persons 1st month of unprotected sex.

I hope this is of use or comfort to you. Keep positive!

Have you tried reflexology????? I heard it can help with fertility, not sure how true it is. I have been going for a few months now and my beauty therapist said it can help, in the very least it helps you relax and the bonus is - it feels great - treat yourself, you deserve it!!!!