Bye Bye baby

[sophiejane]

You've only been in my tummy for 10 weeks, but I loved you. I'm sorry daddy and I never got to hold you. We are so sad.
Your twin baby brother or sister is still in my tummy. I am hoping that they will not leave me too.
I hope someone is looking after you...... I'm just so sorry it is no longer me.
Lots and lots of love.

[ogr1]

i am so sorry .. i wish i had words to help..
please give yourself time ... we become so attached i think even before they take our eggs. i know when i mc it has helped me to give my children a name.i will lite a candle for both of your children.
one for your angle and one for you to hold in your arms.

woppa had been pregnant with twins and had mc one and now she has the most beautiful daughter that she holds in her arms.
love becky

[sophiejane]

Thanks Becky,
I have been thinking of a name but I don't know whether the baby was a boy or girl. I'll speak to dh tonight and see what he thinks. I've been looking at the scan photo all day, and just left with the unanswerable "why"?.

[Sand]

Sophie-J ... I am so, so sorry to read your post. The only comfort, I think, is that for whatever reason, it was meant to happen.

You make sure you take double extra care of big brother/sister in there - he/she needs you to be strong, positive and healthy ...

Take care of yourself, and daddy ...

Sandra x

[ogr1]

becareful with the whys. i dont think that there is ever any good resons
for this crulity.

allow your self time to greive but remember that you still have one and try to hold on to that. hopefuly that will help you get threw some of the darkness.

and you dont have to name a boy or a girl you could just have a nick name or something...
i had held on to the fact that i had the gift of being pregnant....

becky

[Dagny]

My dearest Sophie

Words cannot comfort you at this time as I well know. My heart is aching for you though. I have followed your treatment and was overjoyed to see you get your BFP and then to see you were having twins - wow!

It seems so unthinkable that we should suffer anymore than we have already after going through the pain of IVF and negative results but there is a higher being who for some reason has other plans.

I can't tell you how shocked I was to read your sad news. It must have been such a bombshell. But please believe me when I say that this baby you still have growing in your tummy will have the most perfect guardian angel keeping he or she safe for the rest of it's life.

I too have just lost my baby again at 7/8 weeks and my pain is breaking me in two.

Sophie - you must be strong for your baby and your wonderful husband. I think it is a good idea to name the baby even though you don't know if it was a boy or a girl they were a living baby and had a soul. Have a ceremony quietly with DH buy a helium balloon and go to a beautiful countryside and let it go. Plant a rose bush with an apropriate name. We did for Katelyn. One was called Sweet Memories and the other Sugar Baby.

There is no right or wrong way to grieve but time will make it better. I promise you. Focus on the future and what joy this baby will give you. You will never forget the twin - they will always have a special part of your heart.

Thinking of you, take care and if you need to talk don't hasitate to PM me. I will say a prayer for your baby and mine tomorrow at church tomorrow morning.

Much love Dagny xkx