Anyone have live birth after IVF age 40 or older?
Anyone have live birth after IVF age 40 or older?
Hi, I'm 40 and in 2ww of 4th and last IVF. 1 previous IVF negative and 2 resulted in miscarriage theoretically from aneuploidy because of my age. I'm watching the clock tick and losing my mind. Has anyone 40 or over actually had a live birth after IVF with their own eggs? I need encouragement!
Hi, there are 40+ mums on here but I'll let them answer.
To help you pass the rest of your wait in like-minded company, there are 2 other 40+ 2wwers at the moment (have a look at the General Forum 40+ thread, for one of them this is her final try too) and over on the Pg after tmt are 4 others all currently half way through their 40week wait.
hth
Debra.
To help you pass the rest of your wait in like-minded company, there are 2 other 40+ 2wwers at the moment (have a look at the General Forum 40+ thread, for one of them this is her final try too) and over on the Pg after tmt are 4 others all currently half way through their 40week wait.
hth
Debra.
Me: 44, DH: 31
Game Over.
Dates: Aug 02 - May 06
Tries: 5 fresh + 4 frozen.
Results: 1 daughter, 2 m/c, 1 ectopic.
Game Over.
Dates: Aug 02 - May 06
Tries: 5 fresh + 4 frozen.
Results: 1 daughter, 2 m/c, 1 ectopic.
its seems like a life time ago when i was on my 2ww, last year i gave
birth to my beautiful baby son Ben at the age of 43, and it was also
my 4th attempt all previous icis treatments were negative.
I hope reading this helps, and wish with all my heart that i will be reading
some positive news from you soon.
alison xx
birth to my beautiful baby son Ben at the age of 43, and it was also
my 4th attempt all previous icis treatments were negative.
I hope reading this helps, and wish with all my heart that i will be reading
some positive news from you soon.
alison xx
Thank you so much for your replies. I took a HPT this am even though it's 4 days before the blood test is due and was hysterically crying because it's negative. My husband is totally annoyed by me and commands me to relax. Rationale and logic are not an option here. I need to know he's there for me when I need him instead of getting annoyed and frustrated and he's not. I feel lost and alone.
Me-41 DH-28
IVF's
#1 m/c 5 wks
#2 BFN
#3 m/c 9 wks
#4 m/c 8 wks
#5 m/c 5 wks donor eggs
#6 FET BFN
IVF's
#1 m/c 5 wks
#2 BFN
#3 m/c 9 wks
#4 m/c 8 wks
#5 m/c 5 wks donor eggs
#6 FET BFN
Lisa, we're pretty strict with early hpt'ers on here 
the most an early test can do is manage expectations but they're nearly always uncertain results and thus only add to the turmoil. I know how tempting they are though. Luckily they're so expensive here (15 US for 2) I've managed wait for the blood tests.
Sorry DH isn't helping. Could he be angry because he hates to see you so upset? It is a crappy time in the last few days when we want so much to know.
Can you do something to distract yourself? I know the baby-shower won't help but the new job might force your mind away from Wednesday.
hugs
Debra
the most an early test can do is manage expectations but they're nearly always uncertain results and thus only add to the turmoil. I know how tempting they are though. Luckily they're so expensive here (15 US for 2) I've managed wait for the blood tests. Sorry DH isn't helping. Could he be angry because he hates to see you so upset? It is a crappy time in the last few days when we want so much to know.
Can you do something to distract yourself? I know the baby-shower won't help but the new job might force your mind away from Wednesday.
hugs
Debra
Me: 44, DH: 31
Game Over.
Dates: Aug 02 - May 06
Tries: 5 fresh + 4 frozen.
Results: 1 daughter, 2 m/c, 1 ectopic.
Game Over.
Dates: Aug 02 - May 06
Tries: 5 fresh + 4 frozen.
Results: 1 daughter, 2 m/c, 1 ectopic.
Debra,
Yes, I think seeing me upset freaks hubby out. He never responds well to me when i'm emotional but i'm human and VERY hormonal right now so I just wish he could understand that. I told myself I wasn't going to test early but I rationalized that if it was positive it would relieve anxiety. I guess I just needed an excuse. Nothing to distract me right now. Money is so tight thru all this soooooo. I wait. I don't think I can do the shower though. I'm just very emotional and my mother in law is very critical of that. She can't understand why her pregnancy is hard on me. She says it's selfish and we should be hapy for her and not think of ourselves.
Lisa
Yes, I think seeing me upset freaks hubby out. He never responds well to me when i'm emotional but i'm human and VERY hormonal right now so I just wish he could understand that. I told myself I wasn't going to test early but I rationalized that if it was positive it would relieve anxiety. I guess I just needed an excuse. Nothing to distract me right now. Money is so tight thru all this soooooo. I wait. I don't think I can do the shower though. I'm just very emotional and my mother in law is very critical of that. She can't understand why her pregnancy is hard on me. She says it's selfish and we should be hapy for her and not think of ourselves.
Lisa
Me-41 DH-28
IVF's
#1 m/c 5 wks
#2 BFN
#3 m/c 9 wks
#4 m/c 8 wks
#5 m/c 5 wks donor eggs
#6 FET BFN
IVF's
#1 m/c 5 wks
#2 BFN
#3 m/c 9 wks
#4 m/c 8 wks
#5 m/c 5 wks donor eggs
#6 FET BFN
40 +
Hello there my name is Cate
I'm 40 and we had our little girl in April just gone to be exact I was 40 and 7 months hope that helps, the husband understanding thing is a tricky one.
When we had Kirsty I said perhaps we could do it again to be honest I wouldn't not just the cost but I really don't think I could push my luck!!???
Paul surprised me by saying you would have to find someone else to have it with which I found quite incredible he was half joking .....
Apparantly I was quite tricky to live with! I think it is probably hard on both I don't remember being particularly difficult and also Paul was away most of the time working however I could be wrong. It's almost a year ago since we did ICSI and it was a horrendous thing the sniffing, the injections, waiting etc etc I was very lucky as it worked God only knows how people keep trying but I do believe that woman are driven to such an extent that men perhaps cannot understand??
Hang in there if you can I tested the day before I went to the hospital for the test mostly because I had to go with our other daughter. Paul was away and I knew I couldn't have possibley have kept everything together in front of her. I hope it works this time for you Cate x
I'm 40 and we had our little girl in April just gone to be exact I was 40 and 7 months hope that helps, the husband understanding thing is a tricky one.
When we had Kirsty I said perhaps we could do it again to be honest I wouldn't not just the cost but I really don't think I could push my luck!!???
Paul surprised me by saying you would have to find someone else to have it with which I found quite incredible he was half joking .....
Apparantly I was quite tricky to live with! I think it is probably hard on both I don't remember being particularly difficult and also Paul was away most of the time working however I could be wrong. It's almost a year ago since we did ICSI and it was a horrendous thing the sniffing, the injections, waiting etc etc I was very lucky as it worked God only knows how people keep trying but I do believe that woman are driven to such an extent that men perhaps cannot understand??
Hang in there if you can I tested the day before I went to the hospital for the test mostly because I had to go with our other daughter. Paul was away and I knew I couldn't have possibley have kept everything together in front of her. I hope it works this time for you Cate x
I am also 40 (DH 34) and hoping for our first via IVF. I took clomid for 3 months and BFP but m/c at 5 wks. I've developed resistance to clomid now. We are going through all the b/w now and are waiting for results. 
I understand the loniless and feeling like you are going through it alone. My DH has the attitude whatever happens, happens. It makes me feel like I'm the only one who cares. I confronted my DH about this when he questioned my depression. He explained it very well. He says he wants a child but is afraid if he expresses that, it may make me feel more guility if it doesn't work out. He's also afraid I will push him away and tell him to go find someone else to have a baby with if I can't give him one...even though he says he will be happy with our family of two.
Perhaps that is how your DH is feeling too. This seems like a good msge board. Another fantastic support system is avaiable at sheknows.com
http://talk.sheknows.com/forumdisplay.p ... order=desc
I understand the loniless and feeling like you are going through it alone. My DH has the attitude whatever happens, happens. It makes me feel like I'm the only one who cares. I confronted my DH about this when he questioned my depression. He explained it very well. He says he wants a child but is afraid if he expresses that, it may make me feel more guility if it doesn't work out. He's also afraid I will push him away and tell him to go find someone else to have a baby with if I can't give him one...even though he says he will be happy with our family of two.
Perhaps that is how your DH is feeling too. This seems like a good msge board. Another fantastic support system is avaiable at sheknows.com
http://talk.sheknows.com/forumdisplay.p ... order=desc
Sticky Baby Vibes to you!
Rhonda is age 40, DH age 34
Pending tests for First IVF
Rhonda is age 40, DH age 34
Pending tests for First IVF
Thanks so much for posting this question, ER, and for all the supportive answers from everyone. I'm 38 (and 1/2) and I feel the time clock ticking like crazy - and with each failed IVF I think my time is over. Seeing your success stories has helped me to try and relax and feel more confident that our time will come.
Thanks again and best of luck to all of you waiting!
- Suzhan
Thanks again and best of luck to all of you waiting!
- Suzhan
Hi
I was 36 when my DH no 2 and I started to try for a much longed for pregnancy.We tried unsuccessfully for 2 years before embarking on IVF.
Our first (and only) try ended in failure. We could not afford another go and were told that our chances of conceiving naturally were almost nil. I was lucky we were told - I had 2 children from my first marriage, that did not stop the longing to have a baby with my beloved second DH. 3 months after the failed IVF I fell pregnant naturally - shock all round - I gave birth to Amelia 1 month before my 40th. She is now nearly 2. Even more of a shock was a second natural pregnancy earlier this year, with me aged 41. Sadly we lost this baby at 13 weeks.
We had a miracle happen to us, and there is not a day goes by that I do not thank God with all my heart. I pray that all of you each find your own miracles.
With very best wishes
Lorraine G.
I was 36 when my DH no 2 and I started to try for a much longed for pregnancy.We tried unsuccessfully for 2 years before embarking on IVF.
Our first (and only) try ended in failure. We could not afford another go and were told that our chances of conceiving naturally were almost nil. I was lucky we were told - I had 2 children from my first marriage, that did not stop the longing to have a baby with my beloved second DH. 3 months after the failed IVF I fell pregnant naturally - shock all round - I gave birth to Amelia 1 month before my 40th. She is now nearly 2. Even more of a shock was a second natural pregnancy earlier this year, with me aged 41. Sadly we lost this baby at 13 weeks.
We had a miracle happen to us, and there is not a day goes by that I do not thank God with all my heart. I pray that all of you each find your own miracles.
With very best wishes
Lorraine G.
I had my first ivf baby when i was 38 (second attempt). Two years later I tried for another.... 250 injections later success! (at 42) (however, it was success with a frozen emby from the tries when I was 37). Having said that, I think the other reason for success was that I changed clinics and went to ARGC which looked at my immune system and started to treat that. We tried another fresh ivf there which didn't work - but having done that we learnt more about what my body was doing during the cycle so when we did the FET, and used more immune-system drugs, it worked!
It is tough over 40 - you need everything on your side. Low fsh (under 10 preferably - nb this changes from month to month). Good hormone response (different brands have different affects on diff people - I was switched from chinese hamster fsh to old lady pee!)).
I found that acupuncture was fantastic for the anxiety. Before I started all the treatment I also did a month of chinese herbs. It did help with feeling that I was doing something when I had to wait between treatments.
Good luck
It is tough over 40 - you need everything on your side. Low fsh (under 10 preferably - nb this changes from month to month). Good hormone response (different brands have different affects on diff people - I was switched from chinese hamster fsh to old lady pee!)).
I found that acupuncture was fantastic for the anxiety. Before I started all the treatment I also did a month of chinese herbs. It did help with feeling that I was doing something when I had to wait between treatments.
Good luck
BS (ivf now 5yrs old)
and (after 250 injections) BD (argc FET now 1.5 yrs)
and (after 250 injections) BD (argc FET now 1.5 yrs)