I am gonna be an auntie :)

[KarenSmiff]

Hello all!

I havent posted on here for absoloutely ages - am currently getting ready to start again Oct/November, and preying for a mircacle. 5 goes so far (of which 2 abandoned), & about £15,000 out of pocket also

I have just found out my ickle brother is gonna make me an auntie - (Due end December) I feel absoloutely elated, but also very strange, upset?? Strange feelings - so happy for them, but very emotional too. It's weird???

Just wondering, how does everyone else cope with the same situation. I can't wait to be an auntie (his wife is one of my closest friends also), and it will be the first grandchild for my parents, so we are all very excited...but it was supposed to be me first wasnt it?

GOOD LUCK TO EVERYONE

Kx

[DeniseM]

Many of us deal with that situation actually.

My SIL is due a month before we were supposed to have our baby. I think mixed emotions are quite common.

[NickiMark]

It's so hard to hear this sort of news. It's mixed feeling but also jealousy too!! Im sure we all understand you on this site!!

All the best being a auntie!!!

[kagome]

I'm going to be an auntie again soon too. SIL is 3 months pregnant. I'm happy for her but also sad because of my failed cycle. If it had worked then we would have given birth around about the same time.

[Terri2]

Hello

I'm new here, just found this board and think its great.

I totally relate to how you feel. My best friend (who had also been trying for years) just got pregnant. When I saw her I just cried with total happiness for her and that feeling really was genuine.

However, for the rest of the day I cried and cried that it hasn't happened for us yet. My poor dad came to talk to me and I just bawled on his shoulder! I felt so guilty for feeling like this but its not cos I'm not happy for her. I'm just so sad its not us too. I had no idea it would feel like this, 4 days later and I'm still feeling depressed.
I think its also because she was my support, going through the same thing at the same time and now I feel like I lost that.

I don't think anyone can truly understand this feeling unless they have been there.

[nes]

Hi all..

Terrie2... I definatly agree with you. Me and my partner have been ttc for over 4 years, and it's only now that we have started our 1st ivf cycle. Most of my close friends all have children now, and some of them do nothing but moan about it at certain times, and even though I know they wouldn't change their children for anything... they really don't know how it feels to be in our position.

I spoke to them briefly over the past couple of years about me starting treatment, and a few times they have asked how things were going, and when I've responded, I realised that they only asked out of curiosity, or just for something to talk about... not really because they were trully trying to sympathise or whatever... So now that I have started my treatment I have decided that I will just announce things as and when I get a positive result... I can't be bothered with constant questions or feeling like people are always going on about things... treatment is hard enough....

I have one friend who I speak to sometimes about stuff if I get fed up, but I just think that no matter how much you try and explain to someone how it feels to want something so bad, yet know that without the drama and help / medical intervention of treatment, you cant have that one thing...

You just can't put certain things into words... Sometimes there are no words, just feelings that you can't explain unless you have them too....

[quasi]

Hi all,
I'm going through the exact same thing now.. my SIL is 2 months along and she keeps calling me and talking abt every odd feeling or twinge she gets... and it's very hard for me sometimes esp since she n my brother have only been married for 1+yrs and they were'nt even trying to get pregnant.

I am happy for them but must she go on abt it so much?!!!

*sigh*

quasi xx

[clair55]

Hi all

Can relate to all of this, my best friend had her first baby April she is so beautiful and although I was so pleased for them I was also so envious and i felt so guilty for it. Then my cousin had a little girl in June. She wasn't planned and it came over as such inconvienence when they found out.. I could have spit.

DH always says that because we will have to work harder to have a baby we will appreciate parenthood more than people who can get pregnant at the snap of a finger.


Karen- Good luck with your cycle in Oct/Nov.

take care
clairx

[pauline69]

Hi everyone, I too can relate, my younger sister told us on Fathers Day that she was pregnant (2 weeks after our 2nd failed IVF) - she told us before telling our parents, I'm delighted that she is pregnant and that I will be an auntie but was also sad that it isn't us. My sister was crying telling me (she was phoning from Ireland) she was sorry it wasn't me. I'm just delighted that she can have children and doesn't have to go through what I'm going through.

I'm now looking forward to being an auntie - January 2006.

We are preparing for our 3rd IVF cycle and like Nes this time around I'm not telling anyone apart from my 2 sisters.

Pauline x

[Yvee]

Hi Karen

My SIL announced she is due again. I know it was really hard for my brother to tell me the happy news. I felt really bad for the feelings i was feeling - jealousy, anger, you know the rest... I cried for a couple of days, and tried to focus again on my own situation. Sometimes it feels that everywhere i look there are babies and pregnant women!

Anyway, you are not alone in the way you are feeling. We are always around to give support.

Love