no heart beat in 2nd scan

[reddy]

Hi ladies, I had a 2nd scan on satday and there was no heart beat heard . I am going to have D&C this friday. Looks like our ivf journey is over. We are thinking of trying naturally because of the financial problems. We tried 2 fresh ivfs and a FET with 4 5day blastocysts, but still we are very unlucky. We need to find new insurance now. In our 13 years marriage, we had only 1 successful clomid baby till now I am VV sad and frustrated. All the effort and time is wasted. Anyways, thanks for the support you all gave me and good luck and have wonderful babies!!!!

Reddy

[wannabmum]

Reddy,

I am very sorry for your loss. I can surely understand how frustrated and sad you must have felt. I, too, was very disappointed. I had my first IVF in December and had a negative result. During the whole process, things had gone really well and was optimistic, and then it was all turning into dust by a beta test.

I want to share with you with what Skyhawk wrote to me. Here it is, it's been encouraging. Please don't lose hope. It will happen-- just keep your spirits up.

Wannabmum

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Skyhawk
Joined: 28 Dec 2005
Posts: 7

Posted: Wed Jan 04, 2006 10:01 am Post subject:

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Hi wannabmum,

If it's of any help my wife and I tried for 4 years and on our 5th attempt in Nov it finally worked and she got preggie with 2 Blastocysts. We had really started to lose hope and people said keep your chin up and stay positive. Yesterday we had the 7week scan and it was twins!

I know it sounds cliche but IT WILL happen to you. Never give up hope and I am certain you will be on here spreading the news sometime

Best of luck...

[sue e]

Hi reddy,

So sorry for what you are going through. thinking of you, please dont give up,

Love

sue e xx

[Ady]

Reddy,

So sorry to hear the news! I know, it must be hard; but you will definitely get over the pain. that's what life is all about. When my first IVF didn't click, i really didn't know how to cope up with that. But i moved on. Never give up and you will see yourself succeessful one day.

Ady.

[CC]

Reddy, I'm so sorry to hear your news. I really hope things work out for you,

Much love and hugs,
Cherylxxx

[Tracii]

Reddy, I am so sorry to read your news - I know how heartbreaking it is. After falling pregnant naturally during my 2.IVF, I went in for a checkup and my doctor did not see anything - I was devastated that I could be pregnant one minute and not the next. We are strong woman and fighters - so please don't give up hope or your dreams.

[souris]

Reddy,

I am very very sorry for your loss. I hope you will successful with a natural cycle.
wishing you the best
take good care
souris
xxx

[taylorjools]

my heart goes out to you Reddy

bigJ

[Jeni Babes]

sweetheart i'm so sad to hear your news...
sending love and hugs
jen
xxxx

[luby]

Hi Reddy

I am so sorry to hear your news, I know how you are feeling, I have just been through the same thing, I went for my 8.5wk scan and there was no heartbeat, 5 days earlier everything was fine.

It is very hard, take time to grieve, I am still finding it quite hard, not sleeping etc but I know I'll get there, we are very strong women on this site. I also have to fund this myself, I just lost my second pregnancy, I am starting a new cycle in March/April but am still wondering how I'm going to finance it, but I can't give up, so I'll get the money from somewhere. Also I really wanted to take some time out from IVF, have a rest but I don't have time on my side (high FSH)

Anyway Reddy, once again I'm so sorry, us IVF ladies should never have to loose the babies we try so hard to get.

Take Care.

Love Lucy

[NickiMark]

Reddy, I am so sorry to read this, hugs to you and DH xxxx

[Kat]

Hi Reddy
I just wanted to tell you that no matter how bad you feel now, it will get better. I had no heartbeat at 6 and then 7 weeks in December and I have bad days and good days, but the bad days are getting fewer, I no longer cry every day but I still have that underlying feeling of sadness aswell as being angry at the unfairness of it all. I suppose even that will lessen with time.
Good luck
lots of love
Kat xx

[Smita]

Reddy,
whaqt can I say that hasnt been said? Just want to send you cyber hugs sweetie and pray that your pain lessens with time..
hugs,
smita

[daly]

I was so sorry to read your message. I remember that feeling when the US shows no life where moments before there was a HB. Huge hugs to you and be gentle with yourself.