dh having 2nd thoughts w/IVF

[wendym]

HELP.... Last week my dh told me he is having 2nd thoughts about the whole IVF egg donor thing. Now that Im #5 on the donor list I think he is realizing it really is happening. He feels its not the "natural" way that God had intended. I am a pediatric nurse and argue that heart surgeries & other medical. science are not natural, but God has given the doctors the knowledge & capability to allow one that can't conceive naturally to be able to have a child. If its Gods will then the IVF will work if not then it was meant not to be. We have even spoke with our pastor & he to agrees with me. Ive dropped the subject for now but we have a seminar on IVF on Wednesday. Hopefully this will help some. I am scared to death that he is going to not want this. Has anyone had this problem? Please say a little prayer for me that he will eventually realize how important this is to me. He too wants children, but I dont think he understands the emotional turmoil I have been thru the last year. Advice please??!!

[Jeni Babes]

Oh Honey
what an added stress for you... I am sending lots of love to you both and saying a prayeror too. Hopefully he will ebcome more positive...could it be last minute nerves from him ?

Love jen
xxxxx

[fulloffaith]

Hey Wendy,

I bet he is just nervous. That is such an added stress when you and your DH are not on the same page. Hopefully the consultation will help, but it also may just confuse him more.
My DH came with me to 1 appt. saw the vaginal-ultrasound device and my ovaries on the screen and told me later that was the weirdest thing he had ever seen and didn't go back with me to another appt, except for the ET!

So I think all guys are not as "into" the whole IVF process as we are and that is normal.

But I will say a big prayer for you that this rollercoaster will bring you guys together and that no strife would come of this. It's so important to be supportive and caring to each other thru it all.
I agree with you - this is a gift from God. He has gifted doctors for a reason. Of course it still is up to Him whether or not the embies "stick" or not!! Maybe explaining it that way to him will help ease his mind!
Good luck to you guys!

HUGS,

Allison