ANOTHER FAILED FROZEN EGG TRANSFER.... LUCKY ME....

[LISA@BELLASALES]

Why is it that everytime we have a failed cycle we go to the extreme. Tonight I have been on every adoption website even checking airfare costs. Then the next minute I am scanning the internet for one glimmer of hope to why they don't implant. If one more Doctor tells me the cycle was perfect I am going to scream. Apparently it was not a perfect cycle if it did not take. Now I get to sit through another consultation with the Doctor and listen to how it is only a 35% chance that a blastocyst implants, & how hard it is for every woman to get pregnant. Well every woman dosen't have to pay everytime they don't get a positive pregnancy test. I am sorry to add such a negative post but I am past the upset stage and now the mad stage is setting in. Wishing all of you on their journey much luck. As for me I think I need a little break.

[JenC]

I'm so sorry......(((((hugs)))))

[Leanne]

Hi.
Just wanted to offer some hugs and tlc. We have had 4 fails at ivf and are waiting to start our 5th ivf. Last time we did an egg share and the lady I gave my egg to is pregnant! It is really hard to handle the failiures but we must all look forward and focus on the positives. I am sure every person on this board has a sad story to tell and many now have a happy ending.
Please give yourself a hug for going through so much rather than giving yourself a hard time because your story is still in the writing.

I also look at surrogate sites and adoption, my DH isn't ready to give up yet and if I am honest with myself neither am I.

I hope you don't give up, you deserve more x

[fulloffaith]

Lisa,

I am so sorry! I too am going thru a FET in March and am nervous b/c he told me I had maybe 40% chance of pregnancy. But I'm still going to try. I trust in God's plan for me and if this doesn't work, it means He has other plans for me and my DH.
Put your trust in Him right now and He will make all this pain and money and effort worth it someday.
Take care of yourself and don't worry about searching the internet and adoption. I do the same thing now even before we have tried FET! I think it is normal.
Take a break and spend time with DH. I will be praying for you that your miracle is coming.

HUGS,

Allison

[smokeroni]

Lisa - I am so sorry that it never worked out for you. Please take some time to heal and take care of yourself and DH.

Thinking of you,
Pam

[Skyhawk]

Lisa how many failed attempts have you had hun?

[Jeni Babes]

Lisa...
It's so stressful doing all these IVF and FETs...it takes so much emotional, mental, physical and Spiritual strength...you Honey have all that in bundles...hugs to you and DH
I think you hit the nail on the head by wanting to take some time out. give yourself ( and DH) some time to heal some of the pain...

Love and hugs
jen
xxxxx

[sophie]

Thinking of you Lisa. Take care of yourself.

Sophie xxx

[Stacy Marie]

Lisa,
When I read your post I thouoght that could have been me writing it. Actually, last night I looked at adoption web sites and even thought about watching the c.d. that we had a company send us. I really want to experience having a baby and all of the joys that come with it but sometimes I wonder how much more pain I can endure. I have severe endo and bowel problems which created a lot of pain when AF visited this month. In my heart I know that I am not ready to walk away from my dream.

I am sorry that you are going through some of the stages of grieving. I know how you feel because I will be my normal happy go lucky self one minute and the next I am in tears. When it is finally our turn all of the pain will become a distant memory.

Many Thoughts and Prayers,
Stacy

[tony]

you know it is soo no good stress out.....but i know ...what should we do???i need to say that me and my wife are soo relaxed right now,and this is becouse we haven't done anything since last october due to holydays and busy schedule...but we will to go back soon....and hopping for the best....we shell see.....................

[kellyh]

Lisa,
I'm so sorry to hear about your FET. I totally get your frustration, and I think we all have a right to be negative once in a while. As you already know, this too will pass and you will look ahead to the next step. We women are strong and can get through just about everything. I truly hope you get a break soon and get some good news. Your time will come! Oh, and about the adoption thing -- that's a totally normal coping mechanism that I have, too. Plus, I've heard so many stories of couples starting the adoption process, then, SUPRISE, they get pregnant! Good luck to you and your DH. We're all here to listen any time you need to vent.
Kelly

[NickiMark]

Lisa, I am so sorry.

but I can tell u from experience, YOU NEED A BREAK!!!

Take some time out honey, I am suffering like you after 3 BFN. so now I am turning my life round to rty again, Stress does affect perfect cycles!!! i understabd what u say about the 'perfect cycle' I have been the same, but stress affects the body so much, you must rid of the stress first.

I am moving house, moving job, and changing what I eat, not drinking, and also doing reflexology, massage and acupuncture.....

I am not de-stressed yet, but i can see light at the end of the tunnel.

I hope that one day both you and I get BFP xxx

Hang on in there, xxxx

[LISA@BELLASALES]

Ladies Thank you so much for the positive vibes. This was my second try. Both frozen. The first time I went I don't even count because I wound up with severe OHSS in the hospital for 4 days and never did the transfer, so I only have had frozen. I still have frozen left but I think after my break I will try a fresh cycle. God this is so hard. I hope we can all reach our dreams this year. Thank you for the support....

[bella-s]

Lisa - I have the exact same past as you - I had severe OHSS & didn't have a fresh tranfer. I have had 2 FETs since, and both BFN. We are about to start another cycle, and apparently we are now a higher risk of getting OHSS again, so they are going to take it slower to get fewer, quality eggs. As much as all this has been awful, I feel comforted by the fact that they will tailor this cycle to my body better, so that hopefully it will work. Take a break, and try to relax. It will happen for you. Good luck hun.

Bella.

[LISA@BELLASALES]

THANK YOU BELLA, PLEASE KEEP ME POSTED ON YOUR PROGRESS. MY DOCTOR TOLD ME THE SAME THAT THYE WILL LOWER THE MEDS THIS TIME SO THAT I WILL NOT GET OHSS. OMG THE THOUGHT OF THAT AGAIN BRINGS TEARS TO MY EYES, BUT WHATEVER WE HAVE TO DO RIGHT.