At what stage did you tell the world?

[Cla]

I'm sure this question has probably been asked a million and one times, but I'm new over this side so forgive me?
At what stage did you tell people about being pregnant? At the moment only a few close friends and my Mum/sisters (i.e. the only ones that knew we were having treatment again) know it was bfp. Have only just had the first scan (6 weeks) and have another in 2 weeks time.
Traditionally with "natural" pregnancies, most wait until their first scan at around 12 weeks. Did you guys follow this same rule?

I know the real answer is "it's entirely up to me" and "tell people when you feel comfortable" but would just like some feedback.

Dp wants to climb Mount everest and tell the world and I feel I'm depriving him cause I've asked him not to!

Thanks for your input!

Cla
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[DebraP]

Cla, I told work at 10 weeks as I'd had several scans by then + I was showing.

I told most people before 12 weeks. I couldn't wait. DF is more restrained and told his people later.

Somepeople feel if you tell people early and something happens later on, at least they know and can be supportive and understanding. On the otherhand, once it's out there there's no going back if you don't want everyone sticking their nose in your business.

A friend rang to tell me his wife was 3m and I answered 'and I'm 3 days', I was still in my 2ww...luckily it worked out!!

best of luck and enjoy the telling!
Debra

[Susie]

I told the world the second I got the call from the clinic to say I was pg. I figured if anything went wrong I'd be a wreck for so long I'd have to tell everyone then anyway, also it may of been the only time I could of said 'I'm pregnant!' I couldnt of kept it quiet, but I never could keep secrets!
Just do what feels right for you.
Good luck
Susie

[bubblymichelle]

Alot of my friends and family knew I had gone through IVF and knew when my test date was so I couldn't keep it to myself. Some people do not say anything but Ithought if anything should go wrong Iwould of needed my friends and family to help me through it.
Love
Shell.
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[LittleP]

We told close family early on and then everybody else at 12 weeks - we wanted to make sure that everything was ok first.

Go with what your instinct is and if you want to tell everyone now, then do it - it's a beautiful journey you're beginning and it's lovely to share it with everyone.

Good luck

Little P

[CC]

8 weeks for me - after heart beat seen

Good luck

Cherylxxx

[Laura M]

Ivf odds are not in our favour , but when you are finally pregnant , the odds are much, much greater that you will deliver a lovely little baby.
So if it took you so much to be able to say the words: I am pregnant! Why not? You deserve the world to know!
I told everyone as soon as it happened!
Enjoy your pregnancy!
Love
Laura

[sophie]

Cla,

When I was pregnant with our daughter, I told a couple of close friends and before we knew it, they had told everyone. In our family, it was a case of, well if you grandma knows, your other one should know, oh and Aunty so and so should know too, oh and uncle...... Nightmare. But as it was, everthing was okay.

With my 2nd pregnancy, we told everyone as I approached 12 weeks but I wish I had waited to see the scan first and there was no heartbeat. I now vow to only tell people once I have seen a heart beat!

Obviously you have seen the heartbeat so although some people wait, I think if you want to tell people you should!

Good luck!!!

Sophie x

[Cla]

Thanks for your input - it helps!
I think we'll wait until the next scan on 3rd March and then I don't think I could gag dp any longer!!!! Most of our closest friends know anyway so I suppose it's just the "masses".
I really don't think he could cope with waiting till 12 weeks - bless!!! lol

Cla
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[taylorjools]

Hi girls

funny, my close family followed the whole process and were more worried than me because of the m/c last time - after heartbeat - e told dh,s kids (now 18, tin) at xmas, so just 7 weeks cos I anted them to hear it from us face to face, and they dfidn,t know about the last time so I did the whole summer ithout them knowing I had lost a baby - hell.

All my german friends know, they knew last time and were fantastic after the m/c

On the other hand, still haven,t told dh's parents who live quite a way away, they are in their 80's and still think I am the matahari that broke up his first marriage 16 years ago I keep saying , "after the next scan..then I;ll write to everyone....."

well I suppose the people who count know by now, that's the reality.

hugs

bigJ