how long do i have to wait for af?

[langton]

hi i had ec about 10 days ago. just wondering how long does it take for your next period? i am waiting for af because my et was cancled. so im waiting to have my fet in bout 3 months. i have to have two periods before i can start up again. god the days are going so slow. i just want my af to come so i can wait for the next one.

i know were all going through the same thing.but these 3 months are going to be torture! i know its only a couple more months. im just going through all the same emotions again. i really need to shake myself out of this depession. i feel awful. i wish i could just get it all out of my mind for a little bit. i just feel so desperate i could sob and sob. i hate feeling like this. its like we are never gonna get there. i cant talk to anyone about it no more. i think they are all sick to death of hearing about it. even dh is sick of the subject.

sorry to dump my sob story on everyone, but i hope i feel better if i just let it all out. i really haven't felt this low before, it sounds daft, i feel like throwing a tentrem like i two year old. i dont no whats wrong with me today. help! i think i just need i big cuddle off my mum.

[sunny jenny]

I know what you mean by feeling so alone. When i began this IVF process I was feeling completely alone. That's why I came online and found a fantastic community of support. i hope you can do the same!

I don't know how long it will take. you're body is probably trying to sort everything out after all those injections! Try to keep your eye on the end result! you have embryos! Frozen ones, but you have created life! Instead of 9 months you'll have an 11 month pregnanacy! - just like an elephant!

Good luck to you!

[gailp]

Hi, I had a cycle cancelled back in August after EC because of servere OHSS (ended up in hospital for 10 days!) my AF is often not regular but it was about 2 weeks after EC, just a warning for you I was very very heavy I am starting my 2nd FET shortly. The wait does seem forever, try and plan something to keep you occupied. I booked a holiday to Egypt and we go Thursday so I was counting down to that as well as t FET.

[AMck]

Langton, sorry to see you are feeling so low. Believe me we all feel like that at one time or another. Let it all out....here is probably the best place to do it. You are amongst friends who really understand what you are going through.

Waiting for AF is torture. I can sympathise with you there. Try to keep yourself occupied. Like Gail said, a holiday or short break is a good idea if you can do that. You may like to book lots of nights out with friends. I find this difficult 'cos I often don't feel like talking to anyone....but once you are out you start to feel much better and part of the real world again. It also means your diary has lots of stuff in it rather than af days! Going to the cinema may help too, especially if you can get engrossed in a film for a couple of hours.

If your af is really really late I would ring the nurse and see if she can get some meds for you to bring you on. Then you can get back on track and know when it is due for the next month. I know that not knowing when it is due is probably the worst part.

Sending you a heap of PMA to get you through this time. Think of those frozen embies waiting for you. We are all here for you.
Big hugs

Anna x

[Macca8]

Hayley,

Sorry to hear your so low. The time lapse can be a killer but as the other ladies said, it's best to try and get busy.
I don't talk to anyone about my IVF other than my DH and obviously my new cyber friends here but I think the sad fact is that people other than those directly involved will never understand how devasting and upsetting IVF can be.
I didn't get to ET and my AF showed up 11 days after the EC and it was heavy and painful. Make sure you have that hot water bottle ready.

Here's a cuddle from me.....You will be fine and you will have a lovely healthy baby... x

[DebraP]

Hi, sorry to hear you're feeling so low. I don't know the answer re. AF but it will probably be later than you think. I would imagine another week should see it?

Everybody needs to let off steam. Why not join the 'Pheonixes Rising' group thread?? everyone on there is either waiting, has just finished a cycle or is taking a break. Like people may have months to get through before cycling again. It's good to have a fixed group around you who you can chat to every day, keep all the messages together so that you can scroll back and forwards to find something useful someone said days ago that might help etc. It really is a very good thing to chat on here. People DO understand how crappy it can be, people 'outside' don't really have a clue. Keep talking and don't worry about venting, that's what the group threads are all about, whether age, tmt, location or stage of tmt.

best of luck
Debra.

[sophie]

My ET was cancelled last year due to severe OHSS but my consultant said I could do FET straight away. (I didn't as I needed a break from it all). I have just had a failed FET and they said I could start after not this AF but next AF. Could you perhaps ask if you could bring it foward?

Sophie x