Hello-
I am so happy there is a place to go and discuss this. It is such an emotional roller coaster!!!
My husband and I have been TTC for well over a year now ( -- I think I stopped counting the months because it is so disheartening). My gyno ran the basic fertility tests and found us to both be fertile. I also charted my temp and even though I am irregular, I was ovulating. On that note she suggested I see a specialist as she could no longer be of any help.
We found a good specialist and I started my first treatment of Gonal F and then a injection of HCG last month. A few days ago I found out my result was negative. Even worse, I still have some follicles hanging around so I could not take Gonal F this month as it would be counterproductive. I also have to take the pill for one month to clear my system!!! Here I am trying to get pg and I have to take the pill??!!! My Dr. said I didn't have to take the pill however, if I still had any remaining follicles next month I would have to wait another month to take the Gonal F and, I just couldn't do that. The waiting is killing me!!
I am 31yrs and my husband is 32yrs. We have been married just over 5yrs and are very ready to start a family. Lately I feel really depressed and distant from my husband and I feel awful about it. He is a great husband who is very supportive, loving and much more optimistic than I am. What is even harder, all my girlfriends are either pg or have just had babies. Other than my husband I have a great support system in my family and friends however, I don't have anybody to talk to who knows what this is like. I wish everybody luck and really like to hear your stories.
Jen
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Jen,
Sorry to hear your having difficulty. I assume you are in the "unexplained infertility" bracket where they can't figure out why it's not happening. Sometimes I think mentally this is harder as it's more frustrating for couples especially because there is no real named problem, but you are more likely to conceive naturally when your body and mind relax. You hear these stories when people have given up and then they become pregnant.
I have to do IVF because my husband had a vasectomy in his previous marriage. It's a real pain because I would so love to conceive the natural way. I have 7 brothers and sisters that produced 19 children between them, so obviously this makes me feel like a real failure. But I know it's not my fault and there is nothing I can do other than try. I'm going to try again in July for the last time.
What kind of treatment are you on?
Lisa XXX
Sorry to hear your having difficulty. I assume you are in the "unexplained infertility" bracket where they can't figure out why it's not happening. Sometimes I think mentally this is harder as it's more frustrating for couples especially because there is no real named problem, but you are more likely to conceive naturally when your body and mind relax. You hear these stories when people have given up and then they become pregnant.
I have to do IVF because my husband had a vasectomy in his previous marriage. It's a real pain because I would so love to conceive the natural way. I have 7 brothers and sisters that produced 19 children between them, so obviously this makes me feel like a real failure. But I know it's not my fault and there is nothing I can do other than try. I'm going to try again in July for the last time.
What kind of treatment are you on?
Lisa XXX
Me 37, DH 51
Twin Boys - Sean Alexander & Samuel Robert
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Twin Boys - Sean Alexander & Samuel Robert
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sophiejane
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Hi BufaloJen
The feelings you have in relation to friends and family being pg etc are shared with us all on this forum. I can remember friends of mine telling me they were pg and I congratulated them through gritted teeth then cried and screamed for ages afterwards (in the privacy of my bedroom). during these times my partner didn't comfort me or talk to me. He just felt I was being silly and that what happened to other people shouldn't affect me. I still can't see that reasoning but he just felt so different than me about our infertility. He stayed positive and said it will happen. I just became very low and negative and felt life was just so bl**dy unfair.
But hang in there your time will come as it did for me after my 3rd ivf treatment.
So good luck. Do try and talk it through with your partner. There will be tough times, but it also sounds like he is there for you. At the end of the day though I do think it is different for men. Maybe thats why its 99.9% women on this site.
My fingers are crossed for your next cycle with Gonal F. Stay positive and visualise your egg fertilising ... its meant to work and I swear it did for me (read Zita West)
all the best
from Soph Jane
The feelings you have in relation to friends and family being pg etc are shared with us all on this forum. I can remember friends of mine telling me they were pg and I congratulated them through gritted teeth then cried and screamed for ages afterwards (in the privacy of my bedroom). during these times my partner didn't comfort me or talk to me. He just felt I was being silly and that what happened to other people shouldn't affect me. I still can't see that reasoning but he just felt so different than me about our infertility. He stayed positive and said it will happen. I just became very low and negative and felt life was just so bl**dy unfair.
But hang in there your time will come as it did for me after my 3rd ivf treatment.
So good luck. Do try and talk it through with your partner. There will be tough times, but it also sounds like he is there for you. At the end of the day though I do think it is different for men. Maybe thats why its 99.9% women on this site.
My fingers are crossed for your next cycle with Gonal F. Stay positive and visualise your egg fertilising ... its meant to work and I swear it did for me (read Zita West)
all the best
from Soph Jane
Me 33 dp 30
me tubal damage
ist ivf Feb04 -ive
fet July04 -ive
ivf Nov04 +ive twins, but sadly one twin died at 10 weeks gestation. Freya born 21st July 2005. She's amazing!
me tubal damage
ist ivf Feb04 -ive
fet July04 -ive
ivf Nov04 +ive twins, but sadly one twin died at 10 weeks gestation. Freya born 21st July 2005. She's amazing!
Hi Jen,
Sorry to here about your BFN - I too had a negative result in Jan, although there was no medical reason why, my clinic make you wait two cycles b4 you can start again, my AF is due on Wed and we'll be able to start again from then.
On the general forum there are load of threads and I'm sure you will fit nicely in with one of them, some are ladies cycling at certain times, and others are ladies waiting - take a browse (if you want).
Take care and keep smiling, I am feeling more positive after "talking" to some of the girls on the site and am hoping that my FET will take place in April and will be BFP.
Wishing you all the luck in the world on your journey
Kelly x
Sorry to here about your BFN - I too had a negative result in Jan, although there was no medical reason why, my clinic make you wait two cycles b4 you can start again, my AF is due on Wed and we'll be able to start again from then.
On the general forum there are load of threads and I'm sure you will fit nicely in with one of them, some are ladies cycling at certain times, and others are ladies waiting - take a browse (if you want).
Take care and keep smiling, I am feeling more positive after "talking" to some of the girls on the site and am hoping that my FET will take place in April and will be BFP.
Wishing you all the luck in the world on your journey
Kelly x
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Me 26
DH 36
IVF/ICSI Jan 06 -ve
FET May 06 - BFP
1st Scan - 19/06/06
Me 26
DH 36
IVF/ICSI Jan 06 -ve
FET May 06 - BFP
1st Scan - 19/06/06