Can't believe it!! No sperm!!

[NickiMark]

I am all ready to start another iui and called the clinic for clomid today, and now ive been told there is NO SPERM!!

OMG, I am so upset, just when I was feeling so sure and positive, it looks like it wont happen now, i am so cross as our clinic never said there was a shortage and apparently it's only been the last 6 wks there is none there, Ive been told to call the day before AF is due 26th June, and then they will tell me if any has come in, Iam on a waiting list but I doubt it huh??

If they havent had any for 6 weeks they aren't going to suddenly get some in 2 weeks huh???

I am crying my heart out here, and cant believe that life sucks so much, why cant I have just some thing that i really want......?

I dont even know who to speak to about it, except this site as no one I know would understand.

I know that Lisa and Bobs had the same issue at there clinic's would love to hear from you both, as I feel like life is totally done us wrong....

[souris]

Oh Nicki!!

I am so so sorry for you. I dont know what to say, just praying that they will get some sperm in time for your next try.
Yes, it sucks...

Sending you a hug
xxx
souris

[NickiMark]

Thanks Souris.

I cant believe that we have waited 9 months for this cycle to rid our lives of stress, we have both changed jobs and lifestyle and moved house and started to be happy in life again, and i was so full of pma and now this, it's crazy....

I'll tell you what I am thinking now, I am thinking parhaps wecould ask a friend, or a friend of a friend to donate sperm???

I really dont know what to think, or what to do, keep crying, and now I feel it's never going to happen...

[souris]

Hi again Nicki,

I know how you feel as the hardest for me in the IVF journey is the waiting. It really is driving me crazy, how can a person be sane when only one thought occupy his/her mind every seconds for such a long time...

I tell you what: Dh has a really bad sperm (no fertilisation of my eggs after sperm retrieval). So I obviously looked into sperm donor. In France, we have such a shortage that you need to wait 2 years min . How long is 2 years when you want a baby!! And I did think, as you mentionned, to ask a friend to do that for us... Then you really have to think about how to handle the situation etc... (anyway, Dh doesnt want sperm donor).

ALl that so say that I dont think it is a silly idea. In any case I hope you will find a solution, and yes, it will happen someday.
I wish I could do more to make you stop crying... Maybe you should look into SD abroad?

Hope you will feel better really soon
xxx
souris

[NickiMark]

Yes, aborad, i know but where??? It would have to be a english speaking country....I dont spk any other language....

Thanks xxx

[souris]

Hi

i am pretty sure I have seen on this site some advertisement from Sweden? or Norway. Somewhere north anyway, and I am sure they'll speak english there.

[souris]

I just had a quick look here

www.scandinaviancryobank.com
They give plenty of details on the website, price for a straw and shipping etc...

[Corinna]

Hi Nicki,

I am so sorry to hear about your bad news.

DH & me are starting ICSI next week. They have tested his sperm and have found only occassional motile sperm. He also has high FSH and they have said that he has testicular failure. We are going to try and retrieve some sperm on EC day, but it doesn't look too promising.

We may have to go down the donor sperm road, so I kinda know how you feel. You are right. Its sucks!! Having to use donor sperm is bad enough, I think. Additional sh*t like this to deal with is just life taking the p*ss! I have gone past upset now, and now just feel angry.

I have been worried about the sperm shortage so had a nosey on another forum this morning. Apparently, there is a compnay is America that a lot of UK clincs use for sperm (not my clinic tho unfortunatley). Its quite expensive, but apparently, they ship the sperm over to your chosen clinic. Its www.xytex.com

I don't know whether this will help. I may have to go to them myself, so if it works out, let me know how you get on.

Keep your chin up Nicky. We will both get there one day!!!

Love Corinna xx

[NickiMark]

Oh wow, thats great, I will spk to my clinic to see if they can do that for me!!

Just worry about getting diseases if it's not screened, do u know what i mean???

Thnak you xxx

[ogr1]

nick i am very peed off.. i cant understand how your clinic could do this to you..
i know donors at our clinic are screened very thourghly!!!!!!!!!!!!!

maybe you could adverstise in a paper for men to go to the clinic and donate sperm.. that way you wouldnt have to know whos sperm it was and they wouldnt have to know you ..

we had thought about doing that..
we just didnt want to know who the donors where.

my heart is with you ..

[sleepyfoy]

Nicki

I am so sorry for what you are going through-Do you think that you will ask a friend or a friend of a friend? I hope that you will find something that will give you peace. You are in my thoughts- keep the faith though- something will happen.

Jodi

[ogr1]

i just wanted to let you know that i was here..
e-mail me if you want.
i wish it wasnt so much to call or come there....

[LittleP]

Nicki



I echo Becky - how on earth can your clinic let this happen?

Little P

[HOLLY SANDERSON]

Oh nicki
I wish I could help!
I am thinking and praying for you
xxxxx

[AngeWG]

Nicki

I am so sorry to read your post - you must be so upset and angry.
It is hard enough going through all of this without additional stress.

I am thinking of you
hugs
Ange xx