The Over 40 Crowd

[Jeni Babes]

Hi everyone

I have not had a chance to read any posts... Sorry but a big HI to everyone...

My dad took a 'turn ' yesterday and ended up in hospital and today is getting tests done...it possible he has had some mini stokes...12mths ago this guy was out cycling 50 miles a day and now is like a frail old man...it breaks my heart...
anyway i just wanted to say i will catch up when i can and love to everyone


Randa and sand good luck this week...only 4 more sleep and 2 more sleeps...
kat enjoy time away
anna- hugs
and big hugs to everyone else...

Love jen
xxxxx

[lara]

Anna, you've had to wait so long for this, it's important that you don't get AF and then not be able to do anything with it and have to wait for another one - why don't you just ring around a few London clinics, explain the situation and see how long it would be before you could start your cycle - say you've got your protocol all worked out, you can bring your full notes from the other clinic, and say you've had all the tests and suitability checks done already and it's all up-to-date - all you need is to go ahead with the cycle - with a half-hour doctor's appointment? Try the Lister, the Bridge, there are a couple on Harley St. that are top of the range, and see what they say. If they say you'll have to wait a month, then there's no point in trying to move clinics, but at least you'll have checked it out. When I was thinking of moving clinics I got an appointment within a week to see the doctor, and could have gone ahead that month if I'd got things like the Hepatitis and HIV tests done that they required (you didn't need those at the Lister - I didn't have any blood tests done but you might have got those results already). It doesn't sound as though your clinic understands the urgency of people of our age wanting to get on with the treatment before we're too old!
Good luck anyway.

Jeni, sorry to hear about your Dad. That's really tough. I understand how sad you're feeling. I never saw my dad get old, he died quite young, but my mum got extremely and dangerously ill last year and it was a shock, seeing her all hooked up on drips and bone thin.

Take care, all,

Larax

[AMck]

Lara, thanks for your message. I have emailed the Lister about transferring treatment. Don't know what they will say but I feel better being proactive!
Have also emailed the clinic in Barcelona regarding egg donors. I'm not getting any younger!!

Jen, thank you so much for my pm. Am trying to take one day at a time!So sorry to hear about your dad. Hope he is up and about soon.

PMA to all
Anna x

[BevT]

Jen,

sorry to hear about your Dad. I know it's a worrying time for you and the family. Big hugs to you and here's hoping that he improves.

LOL Bev xxx

[AMck]

Happy Valentines day ladies!
Lara, hope scan went well
Sand and Randa good luck. Will be watching for your BFP's
Michelle , hope bloods come back OK today

Special thanks to Jen, Lara and Bev for your messages of encouragement. Really appreciate them. Jen hope your dad is Ok.

Bev , if you want to post the little smiley people go to www.cheesebuerger.de/smilie and follow the instructions. It takes a few goes to get it right, but is great fun when you do! Hope all goes well in Spain
Here's some little people for you who are having a fab party time!....

Just bumping up our list
Home & Dry:
BigJ (Jules) - BFP 9/12/05. Nuchal scan looked good.

2ww:
Sandra - Test 15th Feb
Randa - Test 17th Feb
Debra - Test 21st Feb

On meds/about to start:
Anna - Waiting for AF to start short protocol
Diane - start meds 28th Feb.
Kat - Going to Spain 2nd March for testicular biopsy for new DE tmt
Lara - Scan 14th Feb
Tammy- SIS 9th Feb, IVF 2 March

Preparing:
Amfy - FET March/April
Bev- waiting for egg donor, considering abroad - appt 16th Feb at IM
Gail - planning March IVF
Jane- visit to Spain 24th Jan to decide next step
Jen - Taking time out then, next IVF in May...
Michelle - blood test Tues 14th Feb for 2nd cycle
Robyn - 2nd IVF cycle in March

Recent cyclers:
Lisa - BFP Feb but sadly lost at 5 weeks after DE
Caroline - natural FET cancelled Feb, failed thaw.

Am off to Ireland tomorrow, will be back on Sat to catch up with all the news. PMA to all
Bye for now
Anna x

[DebraP]

Lara... HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

Hope your scan went well.
Birthday hugs
Debra

[randa2006]

Jen - so sorry to hear your Dad is not doing well. I think that is one of the hardest things in the world to see... your Father, the man of all men in your life, in a weak moment. Remember, he is still the guy you know and love and he needs to see that in your eyes. That generation can't handle pity, especially from the women they love. God bless you as you get through this.

Sandra! only one more sleep and you'll know! Woo hoo! I'm so excited! How are you feeling?

My premenstrual migraine came on hard and now I have 99.9% of my answer. AF is due within 48 hours for sure. No sadness really. I've had several days of this reality coming on me, so I'm okay. I will go ahead and test on Friday, but ... I know. So for our group this round it's all up to you and Debra!!! (even though, I have to keep reminding people of this, YOU are a youngster at only 36, but for some reason you like hanging with us oldies ) Come on BFP for Feb 15!!!!

[032323]

Hi Randa

Hope you dont mind but thought I would join the over 40's group!!
I am on my 4th icsi attempt - first 3, only 1 went to et (1 egg fertilised and transfered, but failed) - poor result with stimulation meds + age! This attempt - ec 1/2 et 3/2 (2 x good 4 cell embryos transfered) now on the dreaded 2ww. Have had migraine and af cramping today but seems to have settled (fingers crossed!) We have to stay positive girl!
It's really nice to have other people in the same position to talk to.
Good luck to you for a BFP!!!
I'll be rooting for you with the others!

Caz x


ME 44 DH 39

[Sand]

Hehe Randa ..! I don't feel so young, you know. In fact, I feel about 96 at the moment... Thanks to you, and everybody else for putting up with me on this thread !

Sorry to be so gloomy but I don't hold out much hope for tomorrow .. pre-menstrual spots and all that .. Oh dear, we put ourselves through it, don't we..

I hope you are so wrong re your headache. Maybe it's your body's way of just knowing that AF should be coming along, and preparing itself, and it will lead to nothing. You know, just like all the girls with AF cramps, convinced AF will show any second - only for it to pass. Am I making any sense, or just babbling ? Babbling, I think.

I hope you can just keep a little pma together for another couple of days and blow our minds on Friday !!!

Take care

Sandra x

[randa2006]

Sandra,

Are you in sales by any chance? You are very convincing, young lady. What you say is true, and that's the 1% of hope I still have.

I want you to "blow our minds" tomorrow! The last thing my doc said as we were leaving ET was, "come in for that blood test, even if you think you have started your period, because many times you can still be pregnant." So tell your "spotting" to go fly a kite... nothing's over til the fat lady sings!

In the meantime, how's your hubby holding out? Mine just goes right on with his life as normal as pie. Like he hasn't a care in the world and hasn't even given this a thought since leaving ET. In fact, he found a "deal" on flights to Arizona that has us flying out on different days - get this - his flight leaves tomorrow! He won't even be with me when test date is here. And I still haven't figured out how to give myself the last two perogesterone shots (Thurs/Fri). ???? But he's sure we'll figure it out - no worries for him at all. God love em. In my next life, I'm coming back as a MAN!

[Sand]

Haha Randa ... You do make me smile. DH leaves for Arizona tomorrow ?!?! When do you leave ?? How long are you away for ? When was all this planned, do tell ?

Sandra x

[Sand]

Jen

I'm sorry to read your news about your dad. A similar thing happened to me with mine, so I can empathise with what you must be going through. It's very tiring when something like this happens. You've got to remember to look after yourself as well - you know - remember to eat and sleep. Otherwise, you'll be no use to anyone (in the nicest possible way).

I hope things improve quickly. Take care

Sandra x

[randa2006]

I leave on Saturday. His intent was to give us a distraction for whatever result we get, so I guess I should give the guy points for that. I just assumed we'd fly together. He just can't resist a good deal, and with miles, the tickets are completely free. He is making me dinner tonight for valentines and I woke up to a dozen beautiful red roses and a big box of chocolates, so I will definately get my attitude adjusted before he gets home tonight. He deserves for me to be in a good mood.

You didn't say, how is your hubby dealing?

[randa2006]

Hey Caz,
Thanks for sharing and so glad to have you join us!

Wow! You and I are in the same boat! (lots of similarities)
I hope your migraine turns out to be a fake, especially since it has subsided. That could be a good sign. Mine went full force and even lasted an extra half day longer than the norm.
How long have you had migrains with your period?
I have had them since my late twenties.

When is your test date? Are you on the Feb test thread?

[Jeni Babes]

hi all

caz- welcome and god luck for the rest of your 2ww...

debra- only 6 more sleeps...hope you are hanging in there..we need the more the merrier to join Big J...all that detoxing and healthy eating ( remember that) way back in Aug/sept is sure to have done the trick!!! roooting for ya sweetheart.

sand- thinking of yu today sweetie...fingers crossed...hoping with all my heart that it's a BFP! ( smiling as i say that too, you deserve it) thanks for the support re; dad, he is a fighter and i don't see him going down yet!

Randa- wow your DH is good ( even if it is seperate planes) such a sweetie to do that fe you both...lets hope the morning sickness doesn't hit home too soon eh!!!! Good luck for friday sweetheart

Lara- hope the scan went well ( i am so scatty brained ) is this a pre tmt scan before stimmimg meds! sorry if i seem not to be on the ball...you miss a few days on this site and it takes ages to catch up! Hope all went well for you and you get the go ahead soon thanks for all the support re: dad...

Kat- enjoy your hols By the time your back it will be time to go to Spain again!!!!! Woooo-hoooo

Anna- enjoy Ireland ( where abouts?) hope you get some good weather...it will blow the cobwebs away ...And bring you home with Hope and faith...with the start of AF right on time to begin tmt!!! PMA girl, PMA. x hugs x

Bev- thanks for all the supportive posts. You seem to be the one with the most PMA just now...thank you Queen of PMA!!!!

amfy- How are you doing? been missing your posts sweetie! you are in my thoughts!

jules- you must be nearly 14wks now? Smiles of joy when i think of that ...you and sweetie take care.

a BIG hi to everyone else!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and hugs.

my update: Dad has settled well in hosp. they are still doing CT scans etc They think it was a series of mini strokes he had...luckily not too damaging. His mood is the best i have seen since before his heart op 5 wks ago. The docs at this hosp think that because he was taken off
warferin ( blood thinner) 5wks ago after his heart op, this has caused a blood clot. What anger our whole family is that he has heard nothing since his failed op, and has contacted the consultants secretary every week ( now 5wks ). This after care is terrible ( NHS) he did not even see the heart surgen when he was in hosp...
Anyway dad will be getting more tests over the next few days and hopfully be home next week. thanks for all your support..

love jen
xxxx