i cant take anymore!!!

fi · Post by fi » Mon Aug 18, 2003 5:37 pm

guys, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, it really helps knowing that you are not the only one going through this painful process. i cant believe what some of you have been through and your 'stories' make me think yep lets keep PMA going. elle, you are absolutely right and sound like such an amazingly balanced and sound person!!! no i don't want to explain why we dont speak to auntie so and so in the future, so will hang on to that thought, but it all came at such a crap time. helen - thanks honey, will go listen to BJ now and not 'the end of the road' as i was doing!!! lou - thanks for the PMA, do you think you will ever get there with your sis? ironically my other sis in law came with me to scan (along with my mother in law) and although we still aren't at ec due two weeks of not being ready, then now OHSS, i am blessed that we have family we can turn to for support. cant tell you how much your messages mean. wishing you all the happiness that you deserve in the future, lots of love and cyber hugs,and heres to niece or nephew number 8!!! fi XXX

caz1 · Post by **caz1** » Tue Aug 19, 2003 4:53 pm

Fi - its all been said. But just wanted to add that I am TOTALLY with you on feeling a bit p*ssed off about other peoples pgs!! The girl I work with is about 4 motnhs pg and making SUCH a performance its untrue. Says she cant do any work, cant do this or that etc etc - like shes the only person in the world to ever get pg. Being a little selfish I think, but then I am jealous! TAke care - what you are feeling is totaly understandable ps - like alison, babies I'm fine with, pg friends am not!

Bex · Post by **Bex** » Wed Aug 20, 2003 8:04 am

Hi everyone, Just reading this post and had to add my piece too . . . After watching my brothers girlfriend have 2 (Megan now 6 and George now 3), she smoked all through the pregnancy, roll ups at that. I now have to watch a woman at work who announced her pregnancy the day i tested negative after ICSI, she is still smoking frequently and the other day she showed me her tummy and described her nursery to me. We're not even close, but i stayed calm at work and then cried when i got home ! I'm the same, it's pregnant women that upset me more than the babies. It's the pregnancy i want, to know it's our creation. Good luck to everyone with treatment, we're going for FET at the end of October. take care, love Becky xx

Karen W · Post by **Karen W** » Wed Aug 20, 2003 8:50 am

Hi Fi, Just to reiterate what every one else says, you have to try to stay +ve even when you just feel like curling up and crying, although that is allowed too as long as you eat lots of chocolate and watch girlie films!! I have the same feelings about pregnant women. We are in the usual situation where everyone around us has babies, although only 1 preggers at the moment. I think they should all be made to stay at home so that we don't have to come across them in every day life!! I got pregnant on Clomid and m/c @ 12 weeks after 3 years of trying. At the same time my best friend was 14 weeks, and luckily for her it worked out. At the same time another friend was pregnant and her baby was due at the same time as ours. I ended up not speaking to either of them for 18 months as it was just emotional overload. We also started the IVF band wagon at the same time. However, it has got better. Although I haven't seen my best friends little boy (who is now 19 months) we are now talking on the phone. It isn't the same as it was before, I still have the irrational feeling that she deliberately got pregnant to "beat" me too it!! However, I know that our friendship is good enough to stand this crappy time. Incidentally the reason we haven't seen each other is that she is trying again, and all though she understood my reasons, she found it tough going through her first pregnancy without my support. I suppose we have to try to remember that our "subfertility" (slightly more +ve word!) does have an effect on our loved ones outside our immediate family circle. 2 years on I am much better and cope with babies from about 6 weeks onwards without tears. But pregnant women are certainly a big problem. I guess its the jealousy thing. Sorry, this has turned into an an essay! Any way big hugs and lots of +ve vibes to all. Karen W