Jackie:
I think i was one of those women who did everything she shouldnt have when i had my first 2 children

(they are 18 and 16 now) i tried for them both, and caught no problem

- i smoked throughout the both pregnancies

(yes - i know - its terrible) i was one of those women that we love to hate these days.
I caught no problem, just worked out my ovulation dates, stuck to them on my first baby, then on my second - hey presto i had no problem.
Makes me feel gulity now

- here i am struggling to conceive - along with all u lovely ladies, all be it my own fault as i was steralized when i was 24!

Im now divorced from the childrens dad - he doesnt see them at all, hasnt bothered with them since we have been divorced.
I have since met a lovely man (my 2nd hubby) who has no chlidren of his own

Whom has taken on my 2 as his own

but i want to give him the pleasure of holding his own child. We have no male problems and no female problems (appart from the steralization and mild Endo)
Im glad Jackie that u didnt go back to smoking

good girl - its bad for you as well as the baby, im so glad i stuck to that - and im sure a glass of red wine on ur birthday wud be no problem either - so dont worry about that!
I hope i havent offended anybody by this post, i know there are some women out there who will want to slap my face for the way i handled my last 2 pregnancies - i want to slap mine too! lol.
Hope all is well .... hugzzzzz to everyone
Becky Xxxx